1. I bring money to pay for myself. I offer to pay for myself. If a guy pays for me, he is a gentleman. If the guy is obviously broke, I hardly care about going dutch. If the guy has money, but I still pay…it’s not impressive, but not a total dealbreaker.

2. Any food or drink a guy orders FOR me without me asking for it or indicating I wanted it, he buys. And it is indeed tacky of him to think otherwise. You’d be surprised at how often that has been a problem. Then again, you’re on this site, so you might not be. Suffice it to say–to those guys who have bought numerous shots of alcohol for me on the hopes that I would get wasted and make bad decisions…you took a gamble, and you lost. I was not in fact born yesterday. Now pay the bill you racked up while acting like a total dog.

Equality is where they split the bill. Not, where a man asks out a woman, orders lots of expensive stuff and then wants her to pay. It would have been just as rude for a woman to do the same. He didn’t do it because he is “confused” by women declining to be doormats these days, he did because he is a jerk.

RC

Your date had every intention of paying but he was likely annoyed by the fact that you didn’t even offer (pretending to reach for your purse when you have no intention of paying doesnt count). He also made a conscious decision to piss you off enough, to the point that he would never have to see you again – believe me this was the outcome he anticipated.

And you can’t say that he was just stupid or oblivious because then you’d have to ask yourself – do I date stupid people? Mark my words this was his plan from the beginning.

Ladies: chivalry is not dead – Men (the ones who have class) enjoy taking his date out to dinner , showing her a good time and taking care of everything, including the bill. These men are just annoyed with the constant bombardment of messages in the media, office,the magazines you read etc. about the Woman’s movement to be equal. So naturally, Men get confused. We all have the same rights, same opportunities, get PAID the same amount, etc – point is, everything is EQUAL (I grant we’re not entirely there yet but we’re moving in the right direction).

As I said, a good Man likes to take care of everything for his Lady – though the Woman’s movement has reminded us all of our equality, so there’s no reason why the Lady can’t step up as well. You tend not to though and why? Well, because you know it’s expected for you not to have to pay, and this actually shows that you’re cheap and that you’re taking advantage of the sitation.

- And that’s the real reason why your date left you high and dry CHECKIT!

-jk