Dynastic Cabin Fever

Sometimes a Very Worst Date happens outside the traditional ‘dinner and movie’ set-up. Your romantic hopes might be crushed earlier or later on. So we present our first Mid-Courtship Disaster…

For the first time in my life, I found myself thrilled when the flight attendant showed me to my seat. I was flying business class for work and expected everything to be a little classier and better looking but my neighbor exceeded all my hopes of a glamorous traveling companion.

Not only did he look like an South Asian version of John F. Kennedy Jr., he was also reading a book about surgery. I silently thanked God for the blessing he’d delivered to me. Now we had the entire New York-Los Angeles trip to get to know each other, I thought as I settled in. The promise of his looks was fully fulfilled in his personality – he was remarkably erudite and stunningly intelligent. By Las Vegas, I was ready to marry him.

Before we alighted at LAX, he gave me his number. That’s when he dropped in another number: his age. I knew the guy was younger than me so I guessed late 20s. I was older (in the next decade) but not by that much so I did not think it was that disgraceful – until he revealed he was 18. His parents had been several rows ahead of us on the plane!

After I’d finished up with work in L.A., I decided to call him on the urging on my colleagues, who cheered loud and excitedly, “Why not?” We ended up going out to fancy restaurant, where the reality of his age came home fully.

When the waiter came up to ask if we wanted cocktails, I held my breath. He ordered a soda and later, he charmingly and thoughtfully discussed how he’d spoken to his friend about me and how they’d weighed up the relationship’s possibilities of working out.

For me, this was not My Very Worst Date in the traditional sense, but it was still something of a dating tragedy. I was crushed. I met the man of my dreams and he turned out to be a boy of 18.

Comments (8)
DoriApril 23rd, 2009 at 4:46 pm

You should have gone for him anyways. Whatever happened to love not having an age?

PrincessJuly 23rd, 2009 at 7:07 pm

You should have totally dated him. A heart has no age, and look at Demi and Ashton!

ChellAugust 9th, 2009 at 12:25 am

Screw it, he’s legal! Here’s to YOU! Mrs. Robinson!

T-SlimAugust 12th, 2009 at 8:30 am

From your words, he seemed much more mature than 18, and that is after all just a number. I feel bad for you, you could have had the romance of a lifetime but gave it up because of your own personal hang up.

SVSeptember 3rd, 2009 at 9:12 pm

I met the woman of my dreams and it wasn’t until the second date I discovered she was ten years older than me.

Not an extreme May-December, considering I’m 25 and we’ve been together for three years, but it took some work. I’m glad we went for it despite the age different, because I’m in the romance of a lifetime.

JJOctober 27th, 2009 at 6:48 am

You know, I think you made a smart move. I dated a 19 year-old girl when I was 26 and the first few months went stunningly. Then out of nowhere her interests switched on a dime and I was left standing in awe with no explanation except that she was too young. I wouldn’t have traded it, but it was terribly unfortunate.

nancyApril 6th, 2010 at 2:49 am

Aw. :(

TinaJuly 25th, 2010 at 10:27 pm

I’m married to the man of my dreams, who is 15 years older than me. We met when I was 21, and we became involved not long after. It has definitely caused complications. Anybody that young is going to go through changes, and I’m much different than I was then. But who we are has remained essentially the same. We are each others soulmates.

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