Living Just Enough for the City
When I lived in New York City, I actively dated on Match.com. My Very Worst Date happened when I met a guy at a Union Square restaurant. I walked in and saw a guy sitting at a table looking around, but he was clearly 10 years older than the photo he’d posted online. His hair was also much thinner, but I decided to give it a shot anyway and introduced myself. The waitress came right over and asked if we would like anything to drink.
“No, we don’t want any cocktails,” he said rather curtly.
I let it slide because I thought he might be an alcoholic for a second. Still I was annoyed that he spoke for me.
“Well, can I order a soda then?” I asked.
“Do you have to?”
I was turned off by his cheapskate ways but I still tried to enjoy the rest of the meal since he seemed fairly charming otherwise. After dinner, we stepped out of the restaurant into a rainy, rainy night. Since we were both headed to the Lower East Side, I suggested we share a taxi.
“Do you have your Metrocard with you?” he asked. “Because we’re taking the bus.”
I had one in my back pocket, but I was shocked that in the cold rain he would want to wait for a bus just to save a couple of bucks.
“And is it one of the unlimited ones because I forgot mine?” he added.
I gave him the card, which had four bucks left on it, and I hopped in a cab to meet my girlfriends.
I’m in stitches!
Wow, I don’t even know what to say to that one.
Haha, that was a smart move at the end of the date. Seriously–you’d put up with enough!
I’m chuckling because this woman is incredibly lucky if this was her worst date. For men, sadly, it’s pretty typical for women to be “cheapskates”. After all, this woman didn’t offer to pick up the check or taxi fare herself, did she? As the saying goes, it takes one to know one!
Such women often like to justify their mooching by saying that men pay for the pleasure of their company. Here’s some tips, ladies: Try to have dinner conversation besides asking about his work (to type his job title into hotjobs salary estimator later) or your own (mostly griping about your co-workers). Don’t brag about how much you’ve traveled to expensive places or bought an expensive home when you still expect the man to foot the bill.
That leads to the final point: What one person calls “cheapskate” another would refer to as a budgeter. Lots of women complain that the men they meet are “fake”. Well, real people can’t afford to blow hundreds of dollars each night to put on airs. If he drives a BMW, it may be on a lease. If he spent hundreds to impress you, it probably means that a dozen other women got to him first. When I dated in my 30’s, it was amazing how desperate the women were because all the other men in their lives were “used up”. To the turtle, go the spoils!
gee, polish, weren’t you just on another post saying how you “don’t date less than 8s” because you have money and you believe in aying and being the man and blah, blah, blah? lol you’re broke, bitter, and sad- what a pitiable combination.
try this instead: when you ask a girl on a date, don’t start by talking about how much money is no object. i’ve had men do that, and it isn’t a turn on, it’s desperate.
if a woman asks what you do, it isn’t because she’s trying to assess your monetary value. it’s because she wants to know who the hell she’s sitting across the table from. if a woman asks how much you make on a first date, she’s a gold digger, and any further contact is your fault, if you weren’t smart enough to catch the flag.
if he drives a bmw, sure it might be on lease. so might his honda accord. so might my mercedes. who cares? it’s get you from a to b and back again.
if you ask a woman out who likes to travel, then ask her where she’s been, she’s not bragging, she’s answering your question. if you’re that insecure that someone’s vacation memories make your penis shrivel, you have issues that go far beyond dating.
just because YOU can’t afford to spend x amount of dollars, doesn’t make you a REAL person. just like being able to spend x amount of dollars doesn’t make someone else a better person.
the difference between budgeting and cheap is simple- budgeting is, “i can’t afford a 50 dollar meal, but i’d be happy to meet you for a 5 dollar coffee.” cheap is, “no, i’m not paying for your 1.99 soda, and i want to use your bus pass because paying my own fair is unthinkable.”
as far as the turtle getting the spoils, this time your euphemism was appropriate. you are the spoils- rotten, bitter, and cast off- and the only thing that would deal with you is a turtle- meek, insecure, and so afraid of dying alone in it’s shell that it would rather room with a rattlesnake.
pathetic.
btw- yes, i’m aware of my spelling and grammatical errors, so don’t bother. paying, not aying, it gets, not it’s get (editing error), and fare, not fair.
Haha! Airica already said it best!