Those Sailor Boys

My friends and I were walking around Navy Pier in Chicago when two young men in Navy uniforms approached us and asked if we wouldn’t mind keeping them company for the afternoon. We agreed since they seemed nice enough.

Soon after, we found out that they had just graduated boot camp and were both 18. My friends and I were all college seniors, so we had some difficulties finding conversation topics that didn’t involve their high school experiences. One of the men (or should I say boys) took a liking to me and proceeded to play with the breast pocket on my coat and awkwardly run his fingers through my hair. At this point, I was ready to leave, but my friends wanted to stay on.

They bought us tickets to an IMAX show, and I, of course, ended up seated next to the awkward kid. For the first half, I desperately needed to use the restroom and fidgeted for awhile. Finally I got up and went to the restroom, and when I returned I was so relieved that I sunk deep into my seat.

The guy apparently took this as a sign, as he immediately put his arm around me. He then used his opposite arm to grab my hand. Leaning close to me, he whispered, “I really like you.”

“I’m not looking for a relationship,” I replied.

“That’s fine,” he said. “We’ll just have fun.”

I wanted to disagree, but didn’t want to completely mortify the kid in the packed theatre. Then I felt his left hand reach down to grab my left breast while his right hand felt up my inner thigh.

Thankfully, the movie soon ended. I gathered my friends for a “bathroom visit” and we quickly left out a side door, leaving neither our last names or phone numbers.

May 13th, 2009 in Just Plain Pathetic, Why Didn't I Say Something?

Comments (11)

KateMay 13th, 2009 at 8:45 am

I don’t understand why women allow themselves to be molested by creeps like this because they don’t want to be impolite. “Thankfully the movie ended soon”? I would have walked out then. Nice friends you have there.

ms. rawrMay 13th, 2009 at 4:47 pm

Yeah, the whole “playing with the pocket and hair thing” is the point where you say “Fuck no” and leave. a) Your friends are tools for not seeing a problem with his behavior and insisting you stay with these dudes. b) Don’t be so fucking passive! It’s not rude to have a spine and not put up creepy, shitty behavior. Frankly, it sounds like this immature douche-fucker needed to be publicly humiliated. He might’ve (maybe, if he wasn’t too fucking dense) figured out that he was being a creepy little shit afterwards.

Also, take a peek at Psychotic Letters from Men ( http://psychoticlettersfrommen.blogspot.com ). Sounds like this creeper man-boy is on the road to becoming one of those dudes.

Old Married LadyMay 14th, 2009 at 5:06 am

Uh, the “Boy” was feeling up your breast coat pocket and running his fingers through your hair BEFORE you let him buy you an IMAX ticket. Hello?? The kid probably thought you were up for it, and figured he’d give it a go and try to cop a feel. Unless you were also looking for a “good time,” I see no reason why women would hang out with some horny, 18-year old military men they don’t know. Especially after the horny boys gave every indication as to what they were interested in! Duh! You didn’t reciprocate, and got up and left. End of story.

BilpoMay 15th, 2009 at 2:13 am

You’ve actually been quite unfair to him by not telling him you weren’t interested. Being walked out on is a million times more humiliating than being told ‘I’d prefer it if you didn’t do that.’

Why did you let him touch your breast pocket if you didn’t find him attractive?

the unfortunate dateMay 19th, 2009 at 11:12 pm

(I am the submitter)

I agree, mistakes were made on my part, however, I did tell him from the beginning I was not interested in dating anyone and tried to pay for the movie ticket. He and his friend absolutely refused. It was an unfortunate afternoon for everyone involved, thus my “worst date.”

TerMay 22nd, 2009 at 2:39 pm

You let him do all of this? No wonder he kept going “further”… What in the world were you thinking-do you allow any guy to do all of this , anytime, if you happen to be there? Your fault, you actually let him think you were enjoying it, or something! Get some kind of no out of your mouth, simple, yet quite effective. Why did you go anyway? Let your friend do as she wishes, go home , go anywhere else. Too weird, and women wonder why there are men out there who think they can do this? Well with gals like you , it’s no wonder at all. Sorry,,no, I’m not, but get some confidence, or as they say “balls”.. Ha, seems to fit.

MichelleAugust 19th, 2009 at 11:35 am

What’s the deal with a majority of these comments victimizing the perverted Navy boy fresh out of bootcamp? So, a young woman who hasn’t come into her own put up signs she thought were adequate enough and the pervert kept going for it and SHE’S the one in the wrong? Lighten up, people. They both learned something from this, hopefully. He should learn to read signals better and she should stand up for herself.

I am disappointed that a majority of these commenters suggest getting balls or not being a coward, but they don’t remember a time when they were afraid to speak up or were too flabbergasted. While I understand we should stand up for ourselves, let’s get real…. We shouldn’t be forced to say “Hey asshole, stop!” everytime. Non verbal cues are excellent ways of communicating, but not when it’s a boy that’s barely had his first wet dream.

kitkatSeptember 24th, 2009 at 11:06 am

Thank you Michelle! I was thinking the exact same thing! I’ve been in situations before where I was young and too shy/nieve to just yell at the guy, or assumed he got the hint when in reality he didn’t. This author made it clear to her friends (assuming they were on vacation) that she didn’t want to hang out with these guys, but the friends didn’t listen, obviously not thinking it was a big deal, the author didn’t have anywhere else to go. It’s not HER fault the navy (and some parents) didn’t teach those guy to have a little class and manners.

PeterNovember 10th, 2009 at 7:00 pm

Ms Rawr, it’s potty mouths such as yours that degrades the female sex and makes us men shake our heads wondering where all the ladies have gone! These days, we are awash in a sea of females with few genuine ladies, and we are all the worse for their passing.