Shaded River Views

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I met an articulate and nice looking man from a dating site and we arranged to meet. We had drinks and then a walk along the river. Things were going smoothly, so we sat on a bench and watched the sailboats as well as passers-by. The conversation was lovely, the weather beautiful. A young couple walked by with a baby carriage. He let out a disgusted sigh and said “Will you look at that?”  

I wasn’t sure what he meant and he seemed irritated that I didn’t get his drift.  

“I hate seeing that,” he said.

“Sorry,” I replied. “I’m not sure what you’re referring to.” And I really had no idea.

He nodded towards the couple and spat out the word “That!”  

It was then I realized they were an interracial couple. I just opened my mouth in awe – but no words would come out. He turned to look at me.

“Wow, you know I just noticed you have really dark brown eyes… you are white, aren’t you?” he asked.

I’m as fair as they come. I just burst out laughing.

“I’m Italian and Swedish and this date is over,” I said. It was his turn to be speechless as I got up and left.

Comments (14)
HeyrothMay 27th, 2009 at 10:45 am

Here, here. Good job on walking away from that.

MargaretMay 27th, 2009 at 10:55 am

Wow. How did he slip through? I know that the dating sites don’t ask, “Are you a racist?”, but you’d think there would have been some clue in his profile about what an a-hole he is.

PademelonMay 27th, 2009 at 6:22 pm

What a wanker! Good on ya for maintaining good humor AND the sense to leave right then.

TMMSMay 28th, 2009 at 11:40 am

I hate it when people seem normal, and then play the rascist card. It confuses my head, where rascists = nutbars.

LBoogieMay 29th, 2009 at 7:38 am

wow. it amazes me how close-minded and rude some people can be. im in an interracial relationship as we speak and have only ever had ONE person make a comment like that. i promptly told them if they dont like it they can leave and never come back :)

airica angelJuly 31st, 2009 at 2:51 pm

i have dated interracially since i was 15. never ceases to amaze me what people will say. i went on a date once with a guy from okcupid. everything was great until he brought up his ex. why did you break up? i asked. his response- “she cheated on me for a n___.” i was so astounded that i couldn’t feel anger at first. i said, “if that’s your opinion, why did you ask me on a date?” he was genuinely, honestly, honest-to-gosh surprised that i was angry, and said, “oh, but, no, you’re different! you aren’t a n____, you’re just a black person! only poor blacks are n____s, because the poor ones are all crackheads and gangbangers and drug dealers. but you’re smart, articulate, cultured- you’re almost like a white girl, but prettier because your black skin is so exotic.”
i threw my glass of sangiovese in his racist face and walked out.
hard to believe, but racism is alive and well, even in 2009!

julianAugust 2nd, 2009 at 5:46 pm

Airica, I was shocked at your comment on the service dog post, but I think I might be MORE shocked at that one. WTF?!?!?!??!

I am white, and one of my SOs is brown (Colombian by birth, but raised in America by Americans). We are also both male-bodied. Surprisingly enough, in the midwest Bible Belt more folks seem to be disgusted by the interracial-ness of our relationship vs. teh gayness…

“Post-racial” America, my ass.

emilyAugust 6th, 2009 at 12:31 pm

Good for you for walking away! I can’t believe the stories when people just put up with craziness for half the night.

Frau BlucherAugust 23rd, 2009 at 4:55 am

well, let’s face it, there are always going to be jerks like that no matter what. It’s a lot harder to spot because no one puts stuff like that in their profile: ‘must be racially pure’ or whatever.

TinaOctober 30th, 2009 at 8:11 am

Brava!

RyanFebruary 19th, 2010 at 9:30 pm

Very nicely done. And I love Sweden. Best place ever.

ThandiApril 6th, 2010 at 11:34 am

airica angel I’ve gotten that line too: “but you’re not really black, you’re intelligent/articulate/pretty/white on the inside… etc! Always makes me cry.

Rachel ChenApril 8th, 2010 at 3:19 am

Good for you Aircica and for the girl who posted this. I am married to some one of another race and I too have been very shocked at times at strangers comments to us.

Happy Go LuckyMay 26th, 2010 at 10:49 pm

If he wants to keep his blood pure, he should date his own mother. And have kids.

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