Shaded River Views

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I met an articulate and nice looking man from a dating site and we arranged to meet. We had drinks and then a walk along the river. Things were going smoothly, so we sat on a bench and watched the sailboats as well as passers-by. The conversation was lovely, the weather beautiful. A young couple walked by with a baby carriage. He let out a disgusted sigh and said “Will you look at that?”

I wasn’t sure what he meant and he seemed irritated that I didn’t get his drift.

“I hate seeing that,” he said.

“Sorry,” I replied. “I’m not sure what you’re referring to.” And I really had no idea.

He nodded towards the couple and spat out the word “That!”

It was then I realized they were an interracial couple. I just opened my mouth in awe – but no words would come out. He turned to look at me.

“Wow, you know I just noticed you have really dark brown eyes… you are white, aren’t you?” he asked.

I’m as fair as they come. I just burst out laughing.

“I’m Italian and Swedish and this date is over,” I said. It was his turn to be speechless as I got up and left.

May 27th, 2009 in I Lied on My Profile, Problematic Point of No Return, WTF?

Comments (17)

HeyrothMay 27th, 2009 at 10:45 am

Here, here. Good job on walking away from that.

MargaretMay 27th, 2009 at 10:55 am

Wow. How did he slip through? I know that the dating sites don’t ask, “Are you a racist?”, but you’d think there would have been some clue in his profile about what an a-hole he is.

PademelonMay 27th, 2009 at 6:22 pm

What a wanker! Good on ya for maintaining good humor AND the sense to leave right then.

TMMSMay 28th, 2009 at 11:40 am

I hate it when people seem normal, and then play the rascist card. It confuses my head, where rascists = nutbars.

LBoogieMay 29th, 2009 at 7:38 am

wow. it amazes me how close-minded and rude some people can be. im in an interracial relationship as we speak and have only ever had ONE person make a comment like that. i promptly told them if they dont like it they can leave and never come back

airica angelJuly 31st, 2009 at 2:51 pm

i have dated interracially since i was 15. never ceases to amaze me what people will say. i went on a date once with a guy from okcupid. everything was great until he brought up his ex. why did you break up? i asked. his response- “she cheated on me for a n___.” i was so astounded that i couldn’t feel anger at first. i said, “if that’s your opinion, why did you ask me on a date?” he was genuinely, honestly, honest-to-gosh surprised that i was angry, and said, “oh, but, no, you’re different! you aren’t a n____, you’re just a black person! only poor blacks are n____s, because the poor ones are all crackheads and gangbangers and drug dealers. but you’re smart, articulate, cultured- you’re almost like a white girl, but prettier because your black skin is so exotic.”
i threw my glass of sangiovese in his racist face and walked out.
hard to believe, but racism is alive and well, even in 2009!

julianAugust 2nd, 2009 at 5:46 pm

Airica, I was shocked at your comment on the service dog post, but I think I might be MORE shocked at that one. WTF?!?!?!??!

I am white, and one of my SOs is brown (Colombian by birth, but raised in America by Americans). We are also both male-bodied. Surprisingly enough, in the midwest Bible Belt more folks seem to be disgusted by the interracial-ness of our relationship vs. teh gayness…

“Post-racial” America, my ass.

emilyAugust 6th, 2009 at 12:31 pm

Good for you for walking away! I can’t believe the stories when people just put up with craziness for half the night.

Frau BlucherAugust 23rd, 2009 at 4:55 am

well, let’s face it, there are always going to be jerks like that no matter what. It’s a lot harder to spot because no one puts stuff like that in their profile: ‘must be racially pure’ or whatever.

TinaOctober 30th, 2009 at 8:11 am

Brava!

RyanFebruary 19th, 2010 at 9:30 pm

Very nicely done. And I love Sweden. Best place ever.

ThandiApril 6th, 2010 at 11:34 am

airica angel I’ve gotten that line too: “but you’re not really black, you’re intelligent/articulate/pretty/white on the inside… etc! Always makes me cry.

Rachel ChenApril 8th, 2010 at 3:19 am

Good for you Aircica and for the girl who posted this. I am married to some one of another race and I too have been very shocked at times at strangers comments to us.

Happy Go LuckyMay 26th, 2010 at 10:49 pm

If he wants to keep his blood pure, he should date his own mother. And have kids.

GracieSeptember 22nd, 2010 at 8:15 pm

Unfortunately this is all too common. Living in a little country town, my two sisters always get negative comments and shocked/disapproving looks on their relationships, as both my brother in law and my sisters fiance are Asian. In fact, when my sister and her Vietnamese born fiance were walking down the street one guy stood stock still and said “Oh my god, not only are they taking our jobs, they’re taking our women as well” (only, less articulate, and with more 4 letter words) Good on you for walking away like that. This kind of filth should not breed :p

DuncanOctober 20th, 2010 at 3:18 am

Huh, dude is very specific about the amount of melanin he thinks should be in the skin, I guess. Of course, like most human beings you are probably ‘mixed ‘race” in so far as given the Moorish conquest of Sicily and the fairly diverse population of Ancient Rome and the armies who conquered it your Italian side is considerably genetically different from the population of the Italian peninsula circa 500BC (when we can imagine they were ‘racially pure’).

Racial purity important to you? You should try incest. No better way of guaranteeing against miscegenation than marrying your first cousin. Of course, when you see the results you might want to start rethinking your stance on the importance of purity. Racial mixing has given us Barack Obama and Jessica Alba. Racial purity has given us the British Royal Family and webbed feet.