Comments on: Sir Speedy

By: YG

YG — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 06:34:19 +0000

Sounds like neither of the folks mentioned in this story respected themselves enough to move beyond the heat of the moment and consider possible outcomes. Not just pregnancy, but feeling wretched with a bad decision or finding validation in someone else’s crotch.

Either way, bad decisions all round. Who hasn’t made them??

By: Mr. McTague

Mr. McTague — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 04:18:57 +0000

I don’t know why you couldn’t have spotted him for what he was. My advice, no matter how glib don’t f**k anyone until the 3rd date. It is classier and you’ll attract a better class of man. If he’s a great guy the 1st night and comes back, tell him you don’t give it up till the third date and it is an Argentine custom. The third night pull him in at the door and tear it up.

Sound advice in unsound times.

By: Pers

Pers — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 13:38:48 +0000

What is wrong with you dear lady submitter? The guy calls you cheap, persists in being a jerk when you call him a jerk, complains about your place and “I managed to “please him” numerous times, but he never once made a move to even touch me.”

You need help. Get some therapy asap.

By: Shane

Shane — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 16:53:55 +0000

How dumb are you to put up with his crap?! There are other guys out there.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 15:24:37 +0000

Patty-

In your first two paragraphs you cite instances wherein contemporary men impregnate mentally ill women, and 19th century masters of the house knock-up their staff. Then you throw in a gratuitous mention of child sex abuse. Dramatic, but what’s your point– that men can behave badly? You’ll get no argument from me.

You’re trying to imply that society APPROVES of the male-behavior you mentioned, which simply isn’t the case. Does society have an “opinion” on men fu*king the insane? I’d guess that if we polled a thousand people at random, we’d get an overwhelming majority against the practice. What do you think? It’s not as universal an instance as the broad one of male vs female promiscuity, so we don’t encounter opinions about it on a daily basis.

As for rape & child abuse– yes, men ARE capable of it, but it doesn’t stand to follow that society approves. It’s illegal and harshly-punishable and if you’re still unsure about the societal consensus just ask a prison inmate how rapists and pedophiles are treated in jail.

You’re trying to make a case that societal disapproval of female promiscuity is arbitrary & whack because men are capable of evil sex acts. Except, the exceptions you give are not looked upon kindly by society.

So, back in the realm of sane consenting adults, the reasons I argued in earlier posts still apply.

As for your contention that females aren’t naturally monogamous… well… how true does THAT ring to anyone reading this? What elicits more moral-outrage than a cheating spouse or lover? In fact or fiction or very-worst-date scenario?

By: patty

patty — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 07:32:28 +0000

Lisa, about a year ago a mother threw her 3 kids off a bridge in some northeastern city. A different man fathered each child. The mother was on welfare, and guess what? She was a bona fide schizophrenic. At least THREE different men screwed an extremely ill woman. Pregnancy and child rearing may be a women’s biological “burden”, but slutty men are just as destructive to society as slutty women. Therefore, it IS a social construct to stigmatize females and then turn around and pat males on the back for the same behavior. Heck, society has a habit of stigmatizing males if they are NOT sluts.
Today we gasp when a baby is found in a dumpster, but that was the norm in times past. If the master of the house took a fancy to the poor, young, lower class maid, he could seduce her or just take it. Nine months later a baby is in the garbage. Please tell me how this makes “Evolutionary Psychological” sense. Evolutionary Psychological hypotheses are like opinions (and ass****s). Everybody’s got one. There is even one hypothesis that goes so far as to say women are not naturally monogamous and it makes no evolutionary sense for them to be so. The reasons for this are compelling, but I won’t go into it now. Just watch a few nature shows. The female more often than not instigates sex when she is ready, with the male (or males) that meet her standards, and she generally cannot tolerate the male anywhere near her when it’s over. She births, nurses, feeds, provides for, teaches, and protects those babies all by herself. Yes, females may “hold the fate of the species in their hands since they bear young”, ( they certainly have that bond AND contribute more DNA), but our social constructs have traditionally given all the credit for this to males and all the blame to females. Adam and Eve anyone? As far as the problem of the “unloved slut”, stop the sexual abuse of children, which is rampant and the root of all evil.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 15:38:39 +0000

Well, hells bells, I’m gonna drop my “responsibility” off at the local dumpster next time, derp derp derp. Can’t have a burden if you toss the baby out with the bath water (please, don’t forgive the pun). Society states we must keep these little burdens of joy, not biology. I would think a promiscuous woman would figure that out and toss society right out the door.

By: David Layton

David Layton — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 15:23:25 +0000

What An A*^%*#E!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I wouldn’t do that to someone who is Obviously VERY Generous!!!! With HER Time & Body!!!!

By: Lisa

Lisa — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 06:27:55 +0000

The responsibility is on the women not because of societal constructs, but obvious biological ones.

Pregnancy and raising a child are the woman’s burden, once conception occurs. Whether the father sticks around after conception is optional, as thousands of single mothers and single-parent children can attest.

Is it the woman’s responsibility because society says so– or simply because it is so?

Don’t confuse the fact that a man is 50% responsible for the sex act, with who’s ultimately 100% responsible for dealing with the resulting pregnancy. While the law can mandate that fathers lend minimal financial support, the rest is foisted on the woman– she’s indisputably the one who responsibility rests most heavily upon.

Society recognizes that the consequences of promiscuity are much more serious for women than men, hence society disapproves much more more regarding women than men.

By: Alan

Alan — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 03:22:56 +0000

Whoa, what’s with all the bashing of the OP? It was a funny story, I laughed. Then read the comments which pretty much amount to “OP is a slut”. Your reaction to a bad date story is to criticise the author for having sex and accuse them of low self esteem…