The Third Date

I have this terrible curiosity about the mundane technical particulars of such stories– if you try to hang yourself in a hotel room, and fail (merely plunking to the floor), how do you end up at the hospital for observation? What went wrong with the plan?

I hope no one ever confides a suicide attempt to me– instead of offering care-bear sympathy and a shoulder to cry on, I’d probably only suggest a more efficient means for next time.

I’m guessing that somebody heard her fall or something or walked in on her trying to hang herself. Because if you tried and failed and nobody heard or saw you, you probably wouldn’t end up in observation.

But wow, this is all sorts of horrible and awkward for everyone involved. I really hope she gets the help she needs and gets better.

Finally, a story from a dude.

There have been stories from dudes before. Granted, I think there were only two or three others, but they were there.

What’s sad is that this is the second story from a guy where the girl was seriously mentally ill. Where are the regular bad date stories from the guys? Spanky tell your dudes to write in stories!

They say that most suicide attempts are gestures for getting attention, done half-heartedly with no intention of succeeding. So, maybe she tried to hang herself in the lobby.

Why mention it on a third date? A screwy, manipulative way of “testing” a guy’s sincerity or interest?

Dames! Who can figure ‘em out…

Yup, what Lisa said. Not trying to be insensitive, but if you’re in such a dark space that you truly want to die, you’re probably not holding down a job and going on dates. My guess is she wanted to be on observation, so she called an ambulance on herself.

Suicidal people can hold down a job and go on dates. Depression can be, but isn’t necessarily so incapacitating that you can’t function at all. I’ve been verging on suicidal before and to all appearances I was perfectly normal and held down a job and was getting perfect grades in school. I know a lot of people have done the same, too. I’m guessing you two haven’t had much experience with depression or depressed people before. I don’t know if that was the case with this person’s date or not, but making assumptions won’t get anyone anywhere. Please please please do the research before posting if you really don’t know what you’re talking about…

Either way, I hope she gets the help she needs..!

And yeah, more dude stories, please! Lest there be a “all men are pigs” vibe started…I can’t stand those.

You’re not being insensitive, you’re just making an incorrect assumption. My grandpa committed suicide and he held down a job and managed his affairs well enough. Of course, his personal life was definitely affected , but to the outside world, he was doing just peachy keen. Depression can be pretty debilitating, but severely depressed people aren’t always hiding in bed for days on end like in the movies. A lot of depressed people are pretty good at keeping up appearances in public and keeping all those negative emotions under the surface until they’re alone. (Although, not all suicidal people are depressed…)I know I did. There was a period of time where I was having vaguely suicidal thoughts and I still kept up appearances; I was getting all A’s and kicking ass at the extracurriculars and all that crap. No, I didn’t want the attention or to be told “YOU’RE SUCH A GREAT PERSON WE LOVE YOU DON’T HATE YOURSELF SO MUCH!”, I just wanted to be dead and alone.

Serious suicide attempts are not cries for attention. That being said, I don’t know if this person’s suicide attempt was serious or not. Or even if she really did try to kill herself. Even if she didn’t and is just wanting attention, there’s probably something else that’s going on with her; most people realize suicide’s fucking serious and don’t throw it around so lightly. Or maybe she was just screwing with him because she thinks fucking with people is great fun. Who knows? In any case, this probably isn’t somebody you’d want to hang with.

re: rawr @ 6:53 am — Unless one is into suicide pacts?

Seriously, poor choice of words there at the end of your comment, don’t you think?

Oooh, it is, isn’t it? :c

wow… just.. hmm… funny, but i feel bad about laughing… but the hailing a taxi comment did make me giggle… and now i’m dying to know what the other few “odd comments” were.

I dont know what it says about me but i would have asked for another date.
I find crazy chicks pretty interesting……now i also understand why i have such bad relationships.

“Serious” and “non-serious” suicide attempts? That’s pretty misleading. Even if she was not “serious” in that she was not intending to kill herself, I think it’s a pretty damn serious sign that she’s not ok and needs urgent help. A cry for help is exactly that, and should not be dismissed, or maybe next time it will be a successful attempt.