Busy Boy

I had been chatting online with a guy every night for about a week. We both work in the same field, and live on the same side of the city, so I was looking forward to talking in person. We agreed to meet up for drinks one night after work. He selected the restaurant, and agreed to pick me up because my apartment was on the way.

When he arrived, 45 minutes late, he asked if I could think of anywhere with faster service since he was hungry and really needed something to eat. I threw out a couple alternatives, both of which he made faces at. He then sighed exaggeratedly deep and said, “You know, this just isn’t fair to you. I only have about a half an hour to spare and you’d spend it watching me eat. I’d rather devote, like, two hours to you some other time. If you get what I mean. It’s not you! I promise. I’m just really busy.”

Needless to say, I didn’t get what he meant. He could have canceled at any point during the day. “You’re mad, aren’t you?” he asked. I replied with a “yes” as I walked back into my building.

October 21st, 2009 in Just Plain Pathetic, Un-date Log

Comments (16)

SpankyOctober 21st, 2009 at 8:58 am

Well…he gets my vote for the douche of the year award.

DeeOctober 21st, 2009 at 9:11 am

Ok maybe he didn’t explain whatever his problem was very well, but you didn’t give him much of a chance. You sound like kind of a snob to me.

karenOctober 21st, 2009 at 9:18 am

idiot, he was late and didn’t even call? had a guy who was 3 hours late, and he had no cell phone. (sigh)

A DaterOctober 21st, 2009 at 10:20 am

Dee,

He was 45 minutes late. And only had a half an hour? The guy was rude. He should have called.

JimmyOctober 21st, 2009 at 10:55 am

Haha, fantastic…

PoppyOctober 21st, 2009 at 11:20 am

I mean, that’s rude, but have you read any of the other stories on this site? This pales in comparison to them and I don’t really understand why this even made it on here. You barely even had to interact with him.

PersOctober 21st, 2009 at 3:35 pm

She’s not a snob. He’s a flake, unable to communicate well, rude and well – doesn’t sound very bright. I’m glad she just walked back into her building – there’s too many normal-ish guys out there to put up this kind of lameness.

I think had she gone on a date at a later time with this douche-patroller, it would have made for an amusing part two to this story, but I believe no woman deserves that punishment! LOL

SarahOctober 21st, 2009 at 4:08 pm

I would be pissed off too. You did the right thing .

LisaOctober 21st, 2009 at 6:22 pm

I don’t understand– what else did he have scheduled that evening, when he already had a date scheduled with you? Schmuck.

Tara K.October 21st, 2009 at 6:27 pm

This guy is a jerk, but how is it that none of you have realized he obviously didn’t like what he saw and bailed. I’ve heard this happening to several friends of mine (both men and women) where the person just makes up a ridiculous excuse. Obviously if he was into her he would have made plans for another date right there or called her again. This is what happens with online dating.

Kim MOctober 21st, 2009 at 7:16 pm

He was double dipping. He had another date, it is a pretty common practice. Anyone who shows up late and doesn’t call (probably because he was with his first date and couldn’t) is not worth the effort. You aren’t a snob because you expect to be treated with the bare minimum of courtesy, I hate to think how some of these commentators treat their dates!

LiLiOctober 21st, 2009 at 7:18 pm

I agree with Tara… the fact that he pulled out the “it just isn’t fair to you” excuse? How much more “it’s not you, it’s me” can you get?! He didn’t like what he saw so he let her down easy. This isn’t poor planning on his part, it’s strategy and maximizing time management! He probably left and went to a bar to look for someone else.

LisaOctober 21st, 2009 at 8:18 pm

This occurred to me, Tara, but I thought it might only being adding insult to injury to point out (“It’s not you! I promise”: translation: It’s you!).

lmnopOctober 21st, 2009 at 9:30 pm

The biggest issue I had with this story is this:

You met a guy on the internet and talked to him for 1 week. Then told him to pick you up AT YOUR HOUSE. The guy could have easily been a nutcase and there’d be no getting rid of him if you didn’t like him. He could have turned out to be a creep who wants to lurk outside your apartment building after you reject him. The internet is full of weirdos. Don’t take your chances like that.

MichelleOctober 22nd, 2009 at 9:24 am

Even if the guy was letting her down because he didn’t like what he saw, he was still a jerk. A jerk that shows up late and is very rude. If you don’t like what you see, maybe you should slow it down and request pictures before meeting up.

Better yet, meet up in a public area. But never, never pull the “it’s not fair to you” excuse. Be honest or gtfo.