Comments on: Show and Tell

By: Jeff

Jeff — Sat, 23 Apr 2011 17:39:03 +0000

Shit, I love how all these females are all up in arms about the fact OP was turned off because she deceived him about her appearence (and make no mistake, that is what it is).

I’d like to see the same butthurt bitches come to the defense of any one of the dozens of “balding, old, and fat” dudes that are often dismissed by the entitled and egotistical sluts on this site!

By: thomas

thomas — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 01:25:18 +0000

Oh, the joys of American denial. Of courseit couldn’t be the simply explanation – that said individual consumes more calories than she burns, and hence is obese. Instead, it must be medication, metabolism, or that old favourite, glandular. Or Jules’ brilliant theory – the spider done it! Unless this woman has tarantula flavoured chips, I somehow doubt it.
Fat people are a massive drain on the public health service, yet somehow defended to the hilt. If America is ever going to pull itself out of its current lethargy, this attitude needs to change. I find the site of a fat person wolfing down cheeseburgers as tragic and condemning as a smoker taking furtive drags outside the hospital doors. When it comes to the dating world, fat people might have as many rights as the next person. Lying about one’s weight is not one of them, whether that is direct or implied.

By: MysteryGuest

MysteryGuest — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 13:33:30 +0000

People! Be logical. I’m compelled to mention that if the OP was a remarkably scrawny 100 lbs, his estimate of his date’s weight would put her a fairly hefty 175. Naturally he would feel overwhelmed. I think he’s permitted those feelings without needing to be labeled a dick.

By: Heather

Heather — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 16:40:37 +0000

Reading through some of the comments I want to add that if you think that it’s a simple matter of eat less and move more then you’re deluded. There are a number of other factors such as diseases, medications, metabolism, food intolerances, chemical imbalances…. the list goes on. Educate yourself before spouting ignorant hate.

By: Heather

Heather — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 16:36:44 +0000

You’re a fucking dick. Really? The date was horrible because she didn’t look how you expected? I love to swim and do yoga and i’m fat- i also eat a balanced vegan diet.. if you’re that superficial to begin with you should have asked “do you weight 120 lbs or do I need to cancel the date?” The spider bite thing.. yeah that would gross me out.. and maybe I wouldn’t have gone on a second date.. but you really need to be less of an ass.

By: Kath

Kath — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 04:22:48 +0000

Honestly, I don’t fault the OP so much for being surprised that she was overweight, and for finding it difficult not to be attracted to her. Of course, the OP should realize that maybe she really does lead an active lifestyle now, and has been losing weight (but is obviously still up there, if what he has written is true). People have their types that they’re attracted to. Yes, it’s shallow, and I truly believe it’s possible to move past a person’s body type and fall in love with them anyway. But obviously the OP felt misled, and didn’t feel like he could move past that. And then, of course, any chance they might have had was totally destroyed when she mentioned her mom. Humans are humans. What more do you expect?

Just know that this is coming from a woman who is currently about 50 pounds overweight. I jog (every day), I swim, I hike, and during the summer I SCUBA dive. I’m losing weight now because I’ve become more active in ’09, but I’m still overweight and I still look overweight! So if he never really clarified her body type on the phone and assumed that she was thin based on the activities she did, then sure, there’s a reasonable room for error.

Also, I do want to add that if I went on a date where the guy showed me without invitation a hunk of flesh missing from one of his limbs due to a spider bite, I’d be grossed out and he’d lose points. Yuck!

By: Tina

Tina — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 18:12:06 +0000

I feel bad for her. The fact that she had a chunk of her skin removed from a brown recluse bite must have been quite excruciating and traumatic!

By: jules

jules — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 23:57:14 +0000

I know that sometimes spider bites can cause someone to gain weight very rapidly, usually due to clogged lymph vessels. My friend’s dad was bitten by one and went from a fit guy to a guy so obese that he could barely walk in the course of a year. She probably told you that so you would understand, which you obviously didn’t. I get that her appearance and behavior were unattractive, and you certainly shouldn’t date someone you find unattractive, but cut a girl some slack!

By: Rose

Rose — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 03:57:55 +0000

On the “fat” issue, I’ll let you in on a little secret. There’s a disorder out there called PCOS aka Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. Essentially, a woman who has it is “obese” because her body had a problem with trying to break down basic fats and such–the body produces too much insulin and doesn’t break down the proper cells. Certain medication and a strict diet and exercise regimen help a lot, but it is still extremely difficult to lose the weight. So, when you think she’s “fat” rethink what she’s doing to try to lose the weight. I weigh about 240 lbs, but I’ve lost quite a few due to an exercise regiment/diet change. Something to just keep in mind.

By: kissmymango

kissmymango — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 19:15:23 +0000

Sounds like people who don’t know anything about a certain topic should probably stop talking about it .

Defies logic, huh? Only if you get your “logic” from diet pill commercials.

Shapely Prose – read it, stop sounding uneducated!