Wine Whine

With any luck, she won’t be reproducing, either…

She is by far the biggest bitch I have read about in these stories.

desperate are we?

I mean the girl.

“how dare you waste 30 minutes of my time! don’t you know my biological clock is ticking?!”

Lol, this is just too grand. After that display, his “sucky choice” of wine and two meals must have made him think he was in a movie theatre!

This doesn’t sound like a real story…and 44 is pretty late to be wanting a bebe.

I’m having trouble understanding why you would put 29 if you were 44. Doesn’t sound real, who would do that?

Wow, what a crappy person. I wonder if she’s ever made it to a second date? (I sincerely hope not…)

Er, that second sentence shouldn’t have a question mark… (Yes, I am that anal about grammar. XD )

menopause would both be a blessing and a curse for the world..

I’d say that people being rude to waiting staff is a good indication of a bad personality period, age and gender etc. aside.

I have a hard time believing this story.

Dyan, take a trip on over to Etiquette Hell. Rude-ass shit like that happens all the time.

Not that she wasn’t rude, but how old was the writer if he had a vasectomy 10 years ago?

Please people, real life is stranger than anything you could make up. This stuff happens all the time

I believe it! As a 44 year old male who has tried on line dating this no matter how outlandish you folks think it is really isn’t that far out of the realm of possibility. I never want to hear another woman complain about lying men and games. Dear lord they use fake pictures lie about their age, weight, and anything else. I’ve even met a 58 year old woman that ask me to get her pregnant….uh sure granny. This doesn’t shock me at all. It is why I no longer date.

I believe this story. I am 42, and many women my age who have never married, or waited until their late 30s/early 40s to be married because they were very career-oriented, now have baby rabies – particularly if their siblings/other family members/friends have small children and babies.

I don’t understand this at all. My husband, who is also 42, and I have been happily married for almost 13 years, and deciding to not have children has proved to be a great decision. Because we don’t have children and because we’re not overly focused on our careers (although we enjoy our jobs, and my involves working with other people’s children), we have ample time to be a great aunt and uncle, do volunteer work, spend time on hobbies, etc. If we feel like spending time with children, there’s always our friends’ children and our many nieces and nephews.

The 44-year-old bitch should look at the great things going on her life, and what she can do that is meaningful because she doesn’t have children. And she needs a kick in the butt to realize that children will eventually grow up and leave – why is why having a life partner, not just a sperm donor, is so wonderful. She should have been gracious to her date, enjoyed dinner with him (and not been rude to the wait staff) then hugged him or kissed his check at the end of the evening, saying that she doesn’t think they should date because they have different goals in life, but that they could be friends (if that’s what she wanted – she won’t lose anything by trying to make a new friend, who could possibly introduce her to a guy who does want children).

Just Curious-

I totally agree. This guy is in his late 30′s or early 40′s. It’s easy to pass judgment on her for lying, but he doesn’t see anything wrong with focusing his search on younger women. He might want to rethink the age range he’s looking at.

Wendy-

OP is why. Guys like him is why people lie on profiles. They lie to get their foot in the door and then hope that the guys will see past their age and love them for what they are. Posting 44 on a dating site is a one way ticket to no matches.

Or maybe she’s batshit crazy. That also seems likely. I would have said she was one of those women who says they’re 29 for the rest of their lives, but she admitted her real age.

Sika, what does age have to do with it? This was one incident. How do you know what ages he dates? Your assuming an awful lot based on just one story. I prefer to date younger women because there is less chance of them being morbidly obese. I lost 100 pounds to get to my ideal weight. I dont tolerate that kind of laziness anymore.

as a woman who’s done online dating, I get plenty of photos of guys wearing sunglasses and baseball caps or taken from so far away I can’t see what they look like. I refuse to meet anyone who doesn’t send me a photo…partly for safety’s sake. One guy refused because he thought it was superficial. He sounded very nice but no way. And yes, I don’t want to meet someone and find out he looks like Uncle Fester.

As for this woman, she sounds like she’s just majorly desperate and doesn’t have much else going on in her life. It sounds like she’s better off not having kids. Women like that will often get pregnant by some loser who never sees them again. My neighborhood is filled with these women and their miserable kids and it’s a sad sight.

I myself have been the victim of women who lie about their age on their online profiles. This story is very believable. I’ve also been the victim of agirl or two who said “yes” just for the free meal. My secretary, who was 21 at the time, said many women her age say yes to online dates for that very reason alone.
Even my own wife, whom I met on eHarmony, is guilty of a lil’ picture fib. She didn’t lie about her age, but the pic she posted was VERY old. I noted that on the first date, but she was still beautiful in my eyes and everything else about the date went swimmingly! Keep in mind she didn’t lie like the woman in this story.

I was once emailing a girl back & forth whom I had met online. As we were getting close to planning our first date and when we could finally meet, she admitted that the picture she had posted of herself was a total lie, and that she had been conducting a test to see if more guys would contact her if she’d only change her picture. So of course, the fact that I had contacted her was “proof” that guys are only interested in looks. I told her that some of us, the good ones mostly, ALSO like women who aren’t dishonest. That was the last we spoke.

Men also lie! I did plenty of online dating and lots of men lie about their age and put up fake/old pictures. I don’t think it’s about WOMEN lying…it’s about PEOPLE lying. There will always be deceptive people no matter where you meet them. At least the guy figured it out in the first date. I’ve dated someone for years with promises of marriage and children…turns out those were lies.
Fortunately for me, I found an honest guy…happily married with a babe…and we met online.

“Just curious”

You can get a vasectomy at 20 if you have no kids, some doctors will do vasectomies as early as 18 if you have two kids.

My husband has a friend who had a vasectomy at 20, you start the process at 18 and you have to do psychological testing and go through a waiting period, etc. I don’t know why he was so sure he never wanted to have kids but I know he’s mid thirties now and has never regretted his choice.

Sika,

Ken is right — age is irrelevant. There could be many reasons why someone chooses to date in a specific age range — reasons that have nothing to do with appearance. My wife never wanted children, and now that the marriage is over, I want to find someome with whom I can raise a family. After a maternal age of about 35, the risk of Down Syndrome and other birth defects rises dramatically. so, I am focusing my search on the under-35 range (give or take).

And, by the way, OP or not, lying is never a healthy way to begin a relationship. I am very open about my age (45) in my online profile, and the photos I post have all been taken in real life, not in a professional studio, and not photoshopped out of all recognition like so many I see in women’s profiles.

Any man looking for or willing to date a 44 year old, isn’t looking for one who wants to have kids. Fertility challenges are daunting even when you’re already in love!