Ice, Ice Baby

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The night of my fourth date with a guy I really liked came after a bad snowstorm. He pulled up in front of my dorm room to pick me up, and as I was walking out to his car, I slipped on the ice and fell down. It appeared I’d merely fallen on my butt and so he didn’t get out to help me up, but rather stayed in the car laughing. I was too embarrassed to admit that I’d actually hit my head really hard on the curb. I went through the rest of the date – which included dinner at a nice restaurant and seeing a play – feeling dizzy with a throbbing head. When the night was over, he dropped me back off at my dorm, and as I got out of the car, I slipped again, and cut my ankle on the ice. This time he did get out of the car and helped me get inside, and in spite of my clumsiness, we continued to date for over a year. He did have to drive me the emergency room a few days later, however, because of the concussion I received on that date.

December 2nd, 2009 in Gives Us Hope, Why Didn't I Say Something?
Comments (14)
MargaretDecember 2nd, 2009 at 8:42 am

“in spite of my clumsiness, we continued to date” ?

WTF

What are you some kind of throw rug?

How about, “In spite of his gross insensitivity, I continued to date that loser.” ?

DeeDecember 2nd, 2009 at 9:07 am

How about “Could you take me to a hospital? I hit my head, you insensitive jackhole.” I hope you didn’t sustain permanent damage from living with a concussion for days. Your own fault for not speaking up.

cellardoorDecember 2nd, 2009 at 10:22 am

Wow. Anytime you hit your head and feel ill afterwards – dizzy, confused, nauseous, impaired vision, tired – you get to the hospital asap. People have died trying to play hero or from being embarrassed about this type of injury.

ZoidDecember 2nd, 2009 at 10:34 am

Wow, Margaret, that’s a little harsh. Do you never laugh when people fall down? It’s occasionally funny looking. Though, he probably should have checked to see if she was ok, he did help her when she hurt her ankle and take her to the hospital later, so he couldn’t have been THAT insensitive.

MargaretDecember 2nd, 2009 at 10:59 am

Actually, no.

But then I’m not a `rasslin or three stooges fan either…

My primary objection was that she was taking all the blame for being clumsy, when he was early on displaying his douchebaggery.

DotDecember 2nd, 2009 at 11:02 am

Hell yeah, Zoid. I have been known to have the odd chuckle when someone wipes out. If it is serious, of course, the laughing stops, but how are you supposed to know it is serious if the injured party is too afraid to admit it?
Definitely not an ideal date, but I wish something like this would make my worst list.

EightballDecember 2nd, 2009 at 12:11 pm

I don’t find anyone slipping on ice funny looking. Do you stand there laughing at them, or do you try to help them up or at least check if they’re okay, Zoid? Which would you like someone to do if it was you?

lmnopDecember 2nd, 2009 at 3:19 pm

Ok, this is just stupid. Your health is way more important than a date, and I would have stopped seeing him if when I fell down really hard all he could do is laugh and not help. Also, “clumsiness”? Ice is slippery as all fuck. During the winter on my campus, everyone is sliding and falling down on that shit.

Kim MDecember 2nd, 2009 at 11:57 pm

and in spite of my clumsiness, we continued to date for over a year, REALLY?
How about because I have low self esteem all of my boyfriends are……?

turtlegirl76December 3rd, 2009 at 7:41 am

How is this a bad date? If anything, it’s story about clutziness. The fact that the guy didn’t get out of the car the first time she fell means nothing. Yeah, he should have walked her to her dorm after to make sure she could get back in safely, but still. It’s a minor transgression on his part.

MichelleDecember 3rd, 2009 at 1:24 pm

All I gotta say is that no guy worth my time would laugh and stay in the car. Possibly chuckle as he goes to pick me up and check my head for injuries. This poor girl was probably just learning… I remember having a low self esteem and being too afraid to speak up for myself. It’s fairly common with younger women. OH NO SHE HAS LOW SELF ESTEEM IT MUST BE HER FAULT THAT THE GUY IS A JERK.

Nah, this guy was just tacky and inconsiderate. People who laugh at their date really must not want to stay dating…. unless they know they are taking advantage of sensitive girls who will blame themselves. :/

meDecember 3rd, 2009 at 10:18 pm

THE FACT THAT SHE *CONTINUED* TO DATE A JERK FOR A *YEAR*! That would be low self esteem issues. Yes, hopefully she probably grew out of it.
Where do you connect her problems with him being a jerk? That is his mother’s fault.

SikaDecember 4th, 2009 at 12:49 pm

Okay first. When people come check on me to see if I’m okay after I slip…it’s a thousand times more embarrassing than when I just get up myself. Usually I’m even laughing! It’s funny!

If someone is really hurt, it’s usually obvious. If I’m not okay, I will say so (OP obviously didn’t)

“Also, “clumsiness”? Ice is slippery as all fuck. During the winter on my campus, everyone is sliding and falling down on that shit.”

This for instance, do you check on every single person you see slip, or only the ones that appear hurt.

So second. A worst date doesn’t have to be one where the guy was a jerk or anything. Circumstance counts too. I’m sure it was her worst date because she was concussed the whole time. That’s not enjoyable. My worst dates are when my husband and I want to have a nice time, but end up getting in a fight. Only those aren’t interesting and no one wants to read about them.

Michelle the GreatDecember 6th, 2009 at 11:22 pm

I dunno, I got mad at a group of people for not laughing, or reacting at all when I comedy style slipped on ice and landed on my ass. He laughed, should have got out, didn’t. She said she was just fine, lets go…So, even if he did make a faux pas, she said it was ok and don’t worry about me. I dunno, maybe I just know how to fall gracefully, cuz I fall allllll the time and I’m always ok. I guess I would have laughed as well so I will save you the trouble of calling me a horrible, bitch, whore, ass sniffer and do it myself. Cheers.

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