Camp Love Confusion
T and I met at a summer camp, where we were co-counselors for a week. After a week of being with this guy almost non-stop, and going to the last night “banquet” dinner, I had developed a thing for him. Sadly, we lived about 1,000 miles away from each other. Still, this did not didn’t stop us from texting daily and calling every once in a while. Within a week, T told me he liked me, and about a week after that he suggested that he come visit. I said yes and was looking forward to six lovely days with him.
A week before he arrived, my grandma passed away. The funeral took place the afternoon after he arrived. I could deal with this; it was just a little hurdle. He arrived, I picked him up, we hung out for a couple hours, I then ditched him for about five hours. Once that hurdle was passed, we were able to move on to some lovely days of relaxing, doing random things, and going out at night. Everything was going great except that he hadn’t made a move on me. I rationalized it by thinking that he was just “being respectful.”
Halfway through the week, I finally learnt why he had not made any. We were sitting outside smoking, and he started talking about what things would be like once he’s left. He said he doesn’t want to go home with an “embittered sense of longing” and “confusion.” He then proceeded to tell me that he didn’t think we should get romantically involved, and that’s why he’d been so distant. He also tried to make me feel better by saying there were many “opportunities” that he didn’t take.
I asked him why he even bothered to visit if this was the case. He said something to the effect of: “why would I spend $200 to make out with some chick when I could buy a lot more than that back at home?” Apparently, he just wanted a vacation. And to top it all off, he told me that he still liked me. About a week after he left, I received a text from him “I like you!” My response: “You’re crazy.”
in japan we say, ” you are a cow”.
Whut a prick.
Please fix the glaring typo… “by” not “buy” in the last paragraph.
Thanks.
I don’t think you should’ve expected much from someone you only knew for a week. But, he *did* make a huge gesture by asking to visit, so I can understand all the confusion. He sounds like a complete ass.
And I, too, am bothered by the typo.
what a dillweed!
This whole story is weird.
LOL yeah, it is weird. And it totally sounds like something that would happen to me. I always have a tendency to get myself into weird situations such as this, though I do think I’ve learned from them. Hopefully the author learned from this too.
This sounds like something that would happen to me as well. Weird.
Huh?????? Your grandma died, “just a little hurdle”…. ???? Sorry, couldn’t get past that part of the story. You look like the lunatic here, I’m on team Camp Guy.
Are you sure he was straight?
(Or, do you live in some sort of paradise locale, where people are always trying to mooch a stay?)
@ Chelsea and Ali: Yipes, we slipped up a little. We checked with the OP and apparently the guy said he “could buy” much more at home. Thanks for flagging!
Yeah, he was kind of a twonk, but the OP doesn’t sound like much of a catch either. Referring to her grandmother’s funeral as a “little hurdle” is callous, then saying she ditched him for five hours…nice phrasing there, toots.
Sounds like both parties treated each other casually and got what they both deserved, IMHO. At least he was honest in seeing the distance would be a problem and not wanting to get romantically involved (although coming out for a visit totally sends the wrong message there). I had a guy do exactly the same thing to me: made a big effort time and money-wise to come see me, then decided he couldn’t be bothered. Nice.
I’d give her the benefit of the doubt. This isn’t exactly the place to be going on about her grandma dying, that’s what Post Secret is for, right? Sounds like the whole scenario was a bit f***ed up to me. Live and learn.
He sounds like he has a compulsion to play with women, for his own ego gratification.
What more seductive way to tell someone you’ve no interest in sleeping with them than the melodramatic “embittered sense of longing” & “confusion” gambit? Sounds as though he was weaned on a steady diet of old Betty Davis movies.
Yes– I’ll save you from heart-wrenching confusion by instead confusing the shit out of you!
Not everybody is so quick to start a sexual relationship with someone….even if they really do like them. I would just take what he said at face value and chalk it up to moving at different speeds.
…gay.
What I want to know is how he only spent $200 to go on vacation 1000 miles away?
I’m confused by his statement of: “why would I spend $200 to make out with some chick when I could buy a lot more than that back at home?”
I think he means he could spend $200 just seeing her and having sex, or spend $200 on a local girl and be in an actual relationship that could last. I don’t know, the wording is really confusing lol.