Comments on: Shadow Man

By: Robin

Robin — Mon, 31 May 2010 07:15:41 +0000

“Oh no, your date helped you… You’re pathetic.”

Seconded.

By: asha

asha — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 06:14:43 +0000

“Look, I’m a wolf that eats time,”

I actually think that is the cutest thing I have ever heard in my life. Honestly, come on, that’s adorable!

By: cats

cats — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 20:39:19 +0000

Perhaps you should have been more clear about your intentions. He seemed like a decent guy who happened to be a bit lonely. You’re the bad date, not him!

By: Ashley

Ashley — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 01:39:34 +0000

I can see his half of the story:

“I met this lady who appeared to be nice and was attracted to her, so I made a move. She seemed to appreciate it, and a few weeks later she invited me over to her house. Wanting to spend a bit of time together, I offered to put together her music stand and watch a movie. But all she seemed interested in was sex, so whatever. Then we ate pizza, and I decided to leave her with some to be polite.”

By: Mer

Mer — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 02:36:40 +0000

To be fair, she DID say: “My invitation was unambiguously an offer to come over and hit it, as the young people say.”

By: Sophie

Sophie — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 03:31:18 +0000

Haha, I know my comment probably came off pretty preachy, although to be honest I know that I’ve left a few ‘you’re a cretin’-type comments on websites before! And I am definitely one of those who gets defensive even when I know I’m wrong, if I’m cornered. People are still people even online though. It’s depressing to read comment after comment that’s just insult after insult, like in this thread.

By: Roxi

Roxi — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 19:33:10 +0000

Wow. Just…wow.

By: Meshell

Meshell — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 19:00:13 +0000

Sophie – “Insults don’t overcome ignorance, so you won’t get anywhere in changing people’s attitudes if you call them things like ‘disgusting’ and ‘vile’. Just reason with them.”

Preach on! I have not put my Meshell status up to avoid confusion, but I gotta say… If only more intelligent people would pass their knowledge on with reason, consideration, and patience. Yeah, I know it’s hard as most people online aren’t logical, reasonable people, but if you take the “high road,” then you have a chance of changing the opinions of the more intelligent, misguided people. It’s hard to not let it get personal like KissMyMango did especially on such a sensitive subject, but if your goal is to change mindsets, you will find more results with reason than insults.

People forget that it’s natural to be defensive even when you know you are wrong. And it’s easier to latch onto your bad ideas when everyone around you harangues you for having a misguided opinion. But then people who have to get off their ethically/morally superior high-horses too.

By: Sophie

Sophie — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 03:25:39 +0000

Steady on, kissmymango. I understand your distress at Michell (#1)’s ignorance, and I know men who have been raped and I know it’s nothing to be dismissed lightly, but I don’t think she means her question about how a woman can rape a man to be offensive. I’ve even heard men wonder aloud about the technicalities of how a woman can rape a man. Maybe the differences between men and women’s bodies and sexual psychologies means that it’s difficult for some people to understand. I’d give her the benefit of the doubt and say that she didn’t mean to be a ‘rape apologist’ and she wasn’t being deliberately obtuse. Insults don’t overcome ignorance, so you won’t get anywhere in changing people’s attitudes if you call them things like ‘disgusting’ and ‘vile’. Just reason with them.

On a different note, some people think that ‘real men’ don’t reject sex. Maybe that’s how the guy in the story ended up being pressured into having sex with the woman. There’s a myth that a lot of women believe that if a man isn’t ‘ready to go’, so to speak, anytime you make it obvious that you want sex, then either you’re physically repellent to him or he’s secretly gay or something. Sounds like the OP and Michelle #1 have this narrow mindset.

By: kissmymango

kissmymango — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 19:45:46 +0000

“A woman can’t rape a man. ”

Tell that the the thousands of male rape victims I’ve worked with over the past 15 years, sicko.

You are a disgusting, vile, rape-apologist. Do the world a favor and do not breed.