Teenage Bonfire Night

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When I was 18, I dated a guy I met online for about three weeks. One night during this time, he called me and invited me to a bonfire in his town some 20 minutes away. He told me to bring a friend so naturally I called my bestie and she was excited to come along. We drove to his house and upon arriving, we were immediately ushered into his rundown Dodge truck and sat cramped next to his two friends. He drove for 10 minutes through dark roads and veered off into the woods to “get to the bonfire.”

Before I knew it, we were off-roading through trees, steep hills, rocks, and what appeared to be a very dark construction site. All of a sudden, he swerved to the right to “avoid some roots on the ground” and the Dodge flipped on its side, teetering off a very steep hill. My boyfriend jumped out of the car immediately and started freaking out about his CAR. He rambled on about how much trouble he would be in with his parents, and how he got scratches on his car. Meanwhile, me and my friend were crying, still in the backseat. One of his friends said to him, “Hey, we need to get the girls out of the car now.”

We got out safely but we were too distraught to party so I kindly asked my boyfriend to arrange a ride for us to get home. He replied angrily, “Uh, I’m a little busy right now, can’t you see?” He never even asked if my friend and I were okay. Luckily, some stranger came by to drive the two of us home. I never saw my boyfriend again.

Comments (10)
EmilyJanuary 11th, 2010 at 8:04 am

… with complete sympathy for the situation but, um, a ride from “some stranger” doesn’t exactly sound like the best thinking!

MichelleJanuary 11th, 2010 at 8:08 am

Emily, with all due respect, shut up.

This date sounds like a complete nightmare. This has to be the worst one yet!

lmnopJanuary 11th, 2010 at 8:50 am

Worst dates are usually “worst dates” because the person didn’t know any better at the time. If the people in these stories were more assertive and wiser, their shitty dates probably would not have continued. However, I’m pretty sure we all have bad dates, which we learn from, which make us wiser. She was 18, so yeah while it doesn’t seem like the best idea to get a ride from a stranger, or probably even go off with these guys in the night into the woods, what do you expect?

KatJanuary 11th, 2010 at 9:41 am

So his car was wrecked and instead of grabbing a rope and helping it back over you tell him to arrange another ride for you? He has bigger fish to fry!

MeshellJanuary 11th, 2010 at 10:49 am

Kat, the OP had dated this kiddo for only three weeks and didn’t even show concern about her after the vehicle landed on. Do you really think she should have offered a hand after he went showed how narcissistic he truly is (oh no, he is going to be in trouble…. let’s not think about endangering the lives of 4 others)?

lmnop hit it on the head — we often have these bad dates at a young age because we didn’t have the experience to stand up for ourselves or make better decisions.

NicoleJanuary 11th, 2010 at 11:13 am

Since this is my story, allow me to elaborate. Yes, I was young and clueless. Yes, I should have been more assertive (when you’re 18, doesn’t a bonfire sound so romantic?) But I had just gotten into the worst car accident of my life, looking for my then-boyfriend’s support and concern, only to realize that he could not concentrate on anything but his beat-up truck. And the stranger was supposedly a friend of my boyfriend’s (I had never met him) who was attending the bonfire a few hundred yards away, had seen the truck flip, came running, and was kind enough to offer me and my friend a ride home. What would you have done if you were stranded in the middle of the woods in a strange town?

Oh, and Kat, I really doubt that my 102- pounds of girl-muscle could use a rope to pull a wrecked truck out of a ditch.

bellerophonJanuary 11th, 2010 at 11:39 am

I agree with both Kat and meshell here. She could’ve stayed for support. At the same time, she and her friends must’ve been petrified, how much help would have they possibly be had they stayed? It’s just a matter of one’s character, why judge so harshly?… As for hoping in with a stranger, I advocate that desperate times require desperate measures..period.This in my perspectiv comes off a textbook case of “learning from your mistakes at a young age”, nothing more nothing less…The boyfriends true colors came out and the author here took action accordingly. I like to believe that most of us went thru some sort of misfortunate event(s) @ some point in our teens. Just my take.

greenieJanuary 11th, 2010 at 1:27 pm

I think that most of the comments here are completely reasonable – she was young, terrified and just wanted to get home.
But, when did this place become an attack forum? I think that telling someone to “shut up” or as I’ve seen in previous posts when people tell others their opinions or statements are moronic or whatever, is just ridiculous.

ObviousJanuary 11th, 2010 at 3:44 pm

Oh, shut up, ‘greenie’! How dare you post a comment taking others to task for taking others to task? Jeeze.

kissmymangoJanuary 12th, 2010 at 7:46 am

LOL. Got a love it – every single time some sanctimonious, self-righteous, pearl- clutching strangers have to whinge on and on lecturing and shaming the OP. STFU already. It’s supposed to be a funny site. We’re supposed to read it, laugh and, where possible, admit to common mistakes, experiences. I assure you, the OP doesn’t give a fuck about your self-important desire to lecture everyone for not being as perfect as you. FOAD.

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