I Will Not Be Missing You

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I met a woman through an online dating site, and we seemed to click right away. She was the mom of a small child, and said she was a widow. Her husband had been killed in Iraq about a year prior and she wanted to start dating again. Things went fine at first, and after a few months, we decided to have an overnight getaway at a bed and breakfast. The next morning we are outside in the garden area when two State Troopers pulled up to the B&B. She claimed she knew one of them and went over to talk to them. After about 10-15 minutes of waiting, she came back and said that we needed to leave immediately and not look at the car behind us. Come to find out, her husband wasn’t killed in Iraq. He was very much alive and had filed a missing persons report to search for his wife (and mother of his child). Our – hers and mine – relationship ended right then and there.

Comments (13)
rawrJanuary 13th, 2010 at 11:33 am

That’s just insane. It’s like something out of a freaking movie. :O

Frau BlucherJanuary 13th, 2010 at 4:31 pm

my thoughts exactly…

Addison DewittJanuary 13th, 2010 at 6:29 pm

That was not only a lie, but an insult to dead heroes and to the women who loved them.

VictorHodginsJanuary 13th, 2010 at 11:36 pm

Love is something if you give it away
You give it away
Give it away
Love is something if you give it away
You end up having more!

RickJanuary 14th, 2010 at 5:58 am

I was the author of this post, and I had to leave out a few details due to space restrictions…namely that I didn’t find out what went on with the troopers until the next day, when I called her house to see what the hell went on, and talked to her mother who explained the whole deal to me. Oh and I spoke to the “dead” husband to, and apologized to him for what happened (even though it wasn’t my fault, I still felt bad about it), he was OK with me, but to my knowledge divorced her.

MeshellJanuary 14th, 2010 at 11:19 am

You’ve go a point, Addison! But I didn’t know they allowed openly gay women in the military. Wow, times sure have changed since yesterday.

My BIL is in the Army, and I find this very plausible. The people I have heard stories about goes to show that just because you are doing something amazing for your country doesn’t make you an amazing person at home and the same goes for their loved ones who are waiting for them back home. Assholes permeate the whole of society.

Addison DewittJanuary 14th, 2010 at 6:23 pm

Meshell– Openly gay women in the military? I haven’t a CLUE as to what you’re talking about.

MirriJanuary 15th, 2010 at 12:19 pm

Meshell, the author’s name is Rick; it’s a man, not a woman

AliJanuary 16th, 2010 at 9:16 am

Oh my god. Meshell was being sarcastic since Addison implied that the military (and all dead heroes) consists of just men. There ARE women in the military, if you didn’t know. Thick.

The story is, sadly, completely believable.

Addison DewittJanuary 16th, 2010 at 10:48 pm

Ali– The character ‘Addison Dewitt ‘and the quote about “dead heros” is taken from a famous movie written and directed by Joseph Mankiewicz that was nominated for fourteen academy awards and won the award for best picture in 1950.

The quote applied perfectly to the writer’s story, which is why I used it.

But thanks for your perceptive and charming comment. There are women in the military? How could I have been SO thick? Thanks for the heads-up!

Help us to be as inanely PC and as doggedly literal as you, and PLEASE… be patient with us.

AliJanuary 18th, 2010 at 9:24 am

Oh Addison, Addison… I don’t even know what to say. This is quite sad. Bye now. :(

JaneApril 14th, 2010 at 9:57 pm

Addison, you should have used quotations, otherwise don’t get upset when others take your comment as your own words. Though ‘All About Eve’ is a famous movie, that quote is not.

Ella MayApril 29th, 2010 at 9:34 pm

The people that are picking on “Addison” seem nasty. The openly-gay-women-in-the-military comment was very oblique and confusing. There’s nothing wrong with the original quote, even if it was the person’s own words.

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