Comments on: A Fantastic Romance

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 21:36:44 +0000

Maybe it only applies to women, but I personally find newfie accents cute.

By: Canaduck

Canaduck — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 06:02:52 +0000

Wow, what a freaky date. What a jerk!

By: MysteryGuest

MysteryGuest — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 21:14:54 +0000

What? Are you supposed to post your worse photo?

By: Lisa

Lisa — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 14:45:40 +0000

What Tronner meant to suggest (I think–) is that the use of a flattering photo is done in the spirit of Promotion & Marketing.

Genuinely false advertising would be the use of somebody else’s photo, altogether.

By: Meshell

Meshell — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 21:07:40 +0000

Tronner, I’ld say that’s false advertising

By: tronner

tronner — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 16:19:41 +0000

re: the photo. Dating sites usually ask for a single, thumbnail photo to show the world who you are. Do you think he’s going to post the picture of him in a stained, white undershirt with saggy briefs,smirking, while flipping the bird at the camera in protest to the early morning photographic intrusion? I think not. I didn’t, that’s second date material at best.

The biggest red flags to a dating profile ARE the single good shot with nothing else. Or, the people post their one good photo, and then pictures of their dogs or kids or nephews or nieces. The pictures are carefully chosen to show the person in their best light. Sometimes that doesn’t match up in real life. But, unless they said they were 6’5″ and they’re really 5’6″ I’d hardly call that “lying”. It’s advertising.

By: L

Fri, 29 Jan 2010 12:34:54 +0000

“Even then– is it a “lie”, or just the inability to follow instructions?”

Lisa, your comment make me laugh. Having been in education for many years across many age groups up to middle school age, I’d say that one of *the* biggest issues from K-6 is the inability and/or unwillingness to read or follow instructions. Maybe this says something about the guy’s maturity?? Thanks for the laugh

By: YG

YG — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 08:11:03 +0000

In his mind, it probably WAS a fantastic date: he got to talk about anything he wanted and make his opinion known. A lot of people love talking about themselves and never caring what the other person has to say or even if their audience is bored.

And on a “blind-ish” date, yeah, first impressions DO make a difference…that’s the nature of A BLIND DATE. You work from there. So if he doesn’t greatly resemble his pic, it’ll stick with you…may or may not be an issue. I think the OP handled it pretty well, all things considered.

By: Sophie

Sophie — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 01:58:43 +0000

I don’t want to turn this into an abortion debate thread, but kissmymango… a lot of WOMEN aren’t actually pro-choice. Sometimes they’re even women who in every other respect have typically feminist values. It’s not as clear cut as ‘I respect women’s personhood; you don’t', because there are other ethical issues surrounding abortion that aren’t to do with women’s rights. I don’t think it was his views that were the deal-breaker – what she had a big problem with was how he expressed them so forcefully and unwelcomely (that may not be a word) on the first date, which is of course a massive turn-off to conservatives and liberals alike, and especially with such a sensitive and divisive issue as abortion. If you need to agree completely with somebody’s politics in order to get along with them, then you’re cutting a lot of good people out. Some of the people I socialise with are hugely anti-abortion; some of them are pro-choice; some of them have had abortions they really regret and are now anti-choice. Plus, you’re losing opportunities to change people’s thinking, if you won’t give them the time of day.

Lisa- I think it depends how recent the photo was – is twenty pounds the kind of weight you can pile on in a short space of time without really noticing the difference, or did he deliberately choose an old photo because he knew he looked larger these days? I’d say it’s not strictly a lie, but it’s false advertising, which is a silly thing to do because you’ll just disappoint your date.

About the Newfie accent: I’m from the UK where there’s almost a completely different accent for every town and village. Some of us, even have our own fairly distinct mash-up accents, the origins of which have never been located. Some of the accents are just unforgivable. As comical as the Newfie accent can sound, it isn’t half as bad as some of the accents you’ll encounter in Britain.

By: ...

... — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 01:55:17 +0000

Lisa, if someone posts a photo of themselves on website where they are supposed to be looking for someone to date, clearly they are trying to let people see what they look like and find out if they are attracted to them. When you use a photo of yourself where you look drastically different, you are intending to be deceptive because you are aware that people might not be interested otherwise. So yes, that would count as a lie.