Shall We Dance?

When I was in grad school there was a creepy fellow grad student a few years ahead of me who kept asking me on date. I would always say no, but one time he asked if I wanted to go swing dancing with him. I thought it could be fun and maybe I would find him less creepy if I tried to get to know him better.  When we got to the swing dancing place he proceeded to show me how to swing dance and I was actually starting to have a good time once I started to get the hang of it. It turned out he was a pretty good and I was actually starting to be mad at myself for not giving him a chance sooner. But at the end of a dance he said to me,  “You’re not good enough of a dancer for me to dance with so I’m going to find someone else,” and left there in the middle of dance floor by myself! The worst part was he continued to ask me out on dates after that, but I didn’t feel bad saying no anymore.

Comments (15)
bellerophonFebruary 1st, 2010 at 10:01 am

LOL maybe you were just so bad the fella was embarrassed to dance with you (no offense, we’d have to read his side as well). Although I strongly disapprove of the way he went about it (leaving I stranded on the dance floor and all), I find it sad that his bold forwardness was the decisive point in whether or not he was “date worthy” by your standards. I don’t believe this guy is the epitome jerk.

karenFebruary 1st, 2010 at 10:14 am

LOSER with a capital L on his forehead. and idiot.

rawrFebruary 1st, 2010 at 10:15 am

So what if he was embarassed? He knew full well she was a newbie at swing dancing and he was a dick for saying “OMG U SUCK LOL KBAI”. He’s not being bold or forward, he’s being an egotistical douchecanoe for not wanting a subpar dancing skills to tarnish what he probably thinks is his Aura of Dancing Awesome. He’s shallow and she’s lucky to have found that out early on.

ThaneFebruary 1st, 2010 at 10:32 am

Wow. As a Swing dancer (male) I find his behavior uncouth and barbaric. I love dancing with new people, and helping them to learn the dance. Not every dancer is this snobbish, and I hope you don’t take away any bad feelings about the community at large – come on back out and dance some more!

Dabe from D.C.February 1st, 2010 at 11:18 am

I hope you haven’t given up on Swing dancing because if it!

GOOD leaders make ANY lady look fabulous…. ;-D

DeeFebruary 1st, 2010 at 12:12 pm

There is something to be said about listening to your first instinct!!

gewagFebruary 1st, 2010 at 12:58 pm

Swingdancing sounds like fun, this guy not so much. What a dweeb.
If he were embarrassed he could have just suggested going out for coffee instead.

AndrewFebruary 1st, 2010 at 2:32 pm

What an assbag!

MMMichelleFebruary 1st, 2010 at 2:54 pm

Yeah, he could have turned your less than professional moves into a opening for more dates. Something he seemed to have wanted! Good thing you found out he’s a dick head.

Frau BlucherFebruary 1st, 2010 at 3:03 pm

his dancing skills may be great but he needs social skills. He probably wonders why he can’t get dates. Moron.
But you at least were nice and gave him a chance. Now you know what a jerk he is, case closed!

nicoFebruary 1st, 2010 at 3:04 pm

Haha – the funniest part is that he kept asking you out after this incident. Did he really expect you to say yes????

RachFebruary 2nd, 2010 at 9:08 am

It happens. When you go swing dancing you can dance with other partners, especially if your date sucks at it… But he should have let you know that…

GrammarnaziFebruary 3rd, 2010 at 1:52 pm

@rawr–My stomach hurts from laughing. And I am adding “douchecanoe” to my vocabulary.

SwingdancerApril 22nd, 2010 at 6:11 pm

Oh that’s not nice. As Rach said, yes it is common to dance with lots of partners in a night, it’s not raelly appropriate for a first date. He should have taken her out for a proper first date and introduced the dancing later. If he really wanted a dancer date, he shouldn’t have asked someone out who couldn’t dance. Then again, he’s probably THAT GUY in his scene and has been turned down by all the follows he’s asked.

ceciliaweasleyJune 15th, 2010 at 2:15 pm

He’s absolutely ridiculous, and he probably is not a good lead. A good lead, by the way, never ever says anything like that to his partner. There might be some “oh here pay attention to this beat” or “focus” but no. He doesn’t even sound like a real adult, no offense. I recently took some lessons in swing dancing (which is sort of like rock n roll dancing) and nobody was like that, including the teacher, who was trying to get everyone to dance and have a good time.

I hope you never said “yes” to him but don’t let that put you off dancing or swing dancing!!!

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