WORST DATE IN AMERICA FINALIST: Valentine’s Day Don’t

College in the 80s was more a series of hookups than relationships so when I was asked out by BP after a class, in the daylight, totally sober, on a real date, I was thrilled and flattered. He admitted that he had been watching me for close to a year and had wanted to ask me out but every time he worked up the nerve his ex-girlfriend would reappear and they would get back together. After three months of dating without her reappearance, I was pretty confident that she was gone for good.

I felt we were ready to get really serious with each other as Valentine’s Day approached. We made plans to meet at the local hot spot with other couple friends when he got off work. I went a little early with the girls dressed to kill with my hair just the way he liked it, the perfume he loved, ready to be in love on Valentine’s Day for the first time ever. I saw his truck pull into the parking lot and got myself ready for some lip smacking.

He walked in with….insert drum roll here…..with the ex-girlfriend on his arm. She had shown up at the game he was reffing and she decided that they should get back together. What a great guy to “tell” me in public, in front of all our friends, at a place I loved, on Valentine’s Day, that I was dumped! I now wear a black armband on Valentine’s Day every year.

February 18th, 2010 in Just Plain Pathetic, Problematic Point of No Return, The Culprits Confess, Young Love
Comments (16)
karenFebruary 18th, 2010 at 9:12 am

should have been a sign when the ex always got back together. the little witch has him wrapped around his finger….but nice timing. what was he expecting a 3 some ?

HeatherFebruary 18th, 2010 at 9:32 am

oh my! while that totally stinks and yes can be rated as the “worts v day ever!” just be GLAD you didn’t end up with him married…guys like that should have something cut on every time they do something mean and inconsiderate!

gewagFebruary 18th, 2010 at 10:32 am

“He admitted that he had been watching me for close to a year and had wanted to ask me out but every time he worked up the nerve his ex-girlfriend would reappear and they would get back together.”

That was a warning sign.

Frau BlucherFebruary 18th, 2010 at 11:43 am

agree with gewag…obviously she jerks him around they were totally codependent. But when you’re in college, you don’t know this stuff.

MollyFebruary 18th, 2010 at 12:04 pm

This was in the 80s and you STILL wear a black armband every year on Valentine’s Day? Let him go. He (and the past) are weighing you down. Has not one man in the past 30 years restored your faith? Take that armband off and burn it!

rawrFebruary 18th, 2010 at 12:24 pm

Does anyone else think the submitter was being facetious with the armband thing?

MFebruary 18th, 2010 at 1:18 pm

@rawr: maybe … mostly the line just seemed to be an annoying attempt at being different and look-at-me.

MeshellFebruary 18th, 2010 at 2:26 pm

I agree with Molly — MOVE ON! Nothing is more annoying that hearing my grandmother bitch about my grandfather that left her for another woman. Don’t be a Granny Weatherall!

DreamssFebruary 18th, 2010 at 3:34 pm

Ahahaha! That is awsome! Oh BRAVO!!
Seriously you should get a shrine together in honor of this person who dissed you. That would be a healthy expression I think.

SophieFebruary 18th, 2010 at 8:24 pm

That’s just awful.

HeatherFebruary 19th, 2010 at 12:41 am

As obvious as the outcome was, I was sympathetic until the very last line. Now all I can say is get over it, you should’ve seen it coming.

meFebruary 19th, 2010 at 3:26 am

god i hate it when women fuck with men like that, and i hate it when men are stupid enough to put up with it! gah.

emilyFebruary 19th, 2010 at 9:06 am

You should wear a more brightly colored armband in celebration… sounds like you dodged a bullet with this guy!

Helen SkorFebruary 19th, 2010 at 11:48 am

Heather, you said “you should’ve seen it coming.” But in reality, just about everyone on this site should have seen it coming. But the thing is, we don’t. Guys and girls alike, we all avoid those tell-tale signs that something totally awful is about to happen. All of those little alarms and red flags – we ignore them because we are in love – or in love with the idea of being love. So cut the submitter some slack!

And Emily – I totally agree with you on how she dodged a bullet! Any guy who doesn’t have the backbone to stand up to his ex and tell her that enough is enough, or who doesn’t have the decency to at least talk to you about what’s going on in a private setting, doesn’t deserve all the tears he probably caused.

LisaFebruary 19th, 2010 at 1:14 pm

While I’m sure it was a rude slap in the face when it occurred, I agree wholeheartedly with the others– consider yourself lucky to have ‘lost’ him, because he sounds like a doormat.

CJFebruary 23rd, 2010 at 8:59 pm

Wow! You guys and girls are brutal and just plain hateful! I’m sure that none of you have ever made a foolish decision because you were head over heels. We’ve all wanted to believe that we could be the one to change someone’s mind and sometimes we get slapped in the face with a dose of reality. That’s how we learn!
I’m slightly baffled at how hateful people are….Guess it’s easy to be so rude when you can hide!
So, submitter, you are really brave to share that horrible story. Years later, you can laugh. He was clearly a prick! I’m sure that you do not really wear a black armband on V-day and that you were just joking although people didn’t seem to understand that based on their ridiculous input! Whoever you are, I’m sure you’re blissfully happy now!

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