Comments on: Disaster Dinner

By: MMMichelle

MMMichelle — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 23:46:34 +0000

I agree. I would never date a really fat guy. He would not go scuba diving with me, or rock climbing. I want to learn hang gliding. That’s right out….I could be not shallow I guess and make society happy. And not live my life the way I want…Fun! Weight is a health issue. I know, I was a fat ass. And now I’m not. People want to make it a beauty issue because obesity and depression are running rampant, and feeling pretty with your fat ass is a lot easier than not having a piece of pie every damn night. I don’t care if you want to be fat or anorexic. Just don’t get mad when people don’t view your lifestyle as you do.

By: Tronner

Tronner — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 05:26:02 +0000

Chill dude, read the last line. I just found it ironic.

By: Dreamss

Dreamss — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 21:52:37 +0000

Tronner. I am typing into a box that si the size of a postage stamp. You will please forgive me if I miss a souple of things.
I guess I need to invoke the “reasonable person” standard with such an incisive individual such as yourself in regards to “things under your control”.
Furthermore, grammer nazism is the last refuge of the person who has nothing really to say, consider the message try not to get hung up on commas.
regards.

By: tronner

tronner — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 21:14:59 +0000

Personally, I’d add “ability to spell and use proper grammar” as something that is well within a person’s control and thus OK to judge about. Just add that to the list of weight, edumacation, success, smell, height (you can get bone extensions/reductions of the femur I seen it on the CSI), cup size, hand size, whether the carpet and drapes match (I hate it when apartments are poorly decorated), smoking, drinking, use of the word “like” more than two times per sentence, internet habits (no “I can haz anything” for me, thank you very much), choice of restaurant on first date, choice of wine, choice of salad dressing, choice of cut of meat, ability to create long lists, ability to sound like a pretentious asshole, ability or inability to use the oxford comma and ability to understand sarcasm.

By: Canaduck

Canaduck — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 04:35:11 +0000

I feel sorry for this woman, but come on. She didn’t tell him that she’d doubled in weight (and no, it’s not okay that she lied to him, regardless of how low her self-esteem is), she showed up for the date in sweatpants and a stained shirt, and then she STALKED him. That is definitely a “very worst date”.

By: Dreamss

Dreamss — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 23:11:11 +0000

This has happened to me more times than I care to think about. I have gotten pretty good at telling when a person is being dishonest (MY you have a lot of HEADSHOTS on your profile).
I have had women who used pictures of thier daughters in place of them, I have had differences in age of 10 years, differences in weight fo over 100 pounds, etc…
What this tells us is that the virtual environment is an unreliable way to verify an individual is who they say.
I sympathize with this man’s experience, but it is one that is probably shared by any man who has engaged in online dating.
Finally for those of you that think that juding someone on fat is shallow, well lets define what a shallow judgement is.
I would define shallow as judging people on things that are superficially AND beyond thier control. Obesity is major health issue, one that precludes a partner from sharing in many aspects of active life. I think it is perfectly valid to judge people on things that they can control, such as weight. education, and success.

By: tronner

tronner — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 16:15:58 +0000

I’m not pretending there is no difference between big men and big women, but “hate, anger and vitriol?” Didn’t Yoda say something about that leading to the dark side?

By: YG

YG — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 15:48:55 +0000

140 pounds in two years is a BIIIIG gain. Either she’s got a metabolic disorder and needs some serious medical intervention, or she simply gorges all the time and does not exercise…both problems a guy looking for a potential mate would do well to avoid, especially on a first date.

She gained a whole person in two years. That’s an unhealthy individual.

I’ve seen very large people dress elegantly and look fabulous. I’ve seen stick thin folks present themselves very poorly and look like their got their clothes from a tip two second before. Size doesn’t matter here, actually…it’s the lying and the presentation. Showing up for a blind date in sweats and a dirty shirt is the mark of someone who’s just given up. I’m not that fussed on what size a person is, but if they can’t be bothered to de-stinkify, I would find that more offensive than the lie about weight.

By: Noodle

Noodle — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 15:46:35 +0000

@kissmymango – lol, including yours.

Anyway, I have some compassion for low self-esteem, but if you lie about 140 lbs, go out on a date with terrible hygiene, and then phone-stalk someone, you deserve to be on this site. The only time I’d wish that someone would’ve refrained from posting out of compassion would be if something happened on the date that was not the worst date’s fault and that probably humiliated him/her more than the OP. She could’ve helped this. If she reads this and knows it’s about her, maybe she’ll realize that she’s got issues and needs to make some changes. If she reads this and throws herself of a bridge, then she was never going to survive a hard collision with the truth, anyway. I don’t see how this story would be that harmful to her.

By: kissmymango

kissmymango — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 14:21:26 +0000

“I’ve been reading it for a year and I can only think of two other stories where the girl lied about her weight. ”

Then you don’t read the site very often. I actually have been reading this site a while and I’ve seen plenty of these stories – about both sexes.

@ BigTronne – I sincerely hope you are not pretending that the social stigma against fat men is anywhere near the hate, vitrol and anger directed at fat women. Two words, Jack Black.

Lastly,

Tired – you are 100% right. None of these people seemed to have read what you posted at all, they just wanted to lecture a stranger. Get used to that. That’s pretty much all the comments ever.