Comments on: A Shady Sign

By: Ammy

Ammy — Mon, 29 Mar 2010 07:11:45 +0000

I don’t think it’s homophobic to be unhappy that your date might have turned out to be gay if you expecting a guy to actually be into your gender, let alone you. :p Some people just give off a gay vibe- and that’s perfectly fine in pretty much any other context.

By: mystic_eye

mystic_eye — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 01:51:27 +0000

I just wanted to say hobojoe did an awsome job commenting

By: Francois Tremblay

Francois Tremblay — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 07:12:02 +0000

Why are bigots posting their own dating faux pas on the Internet pretending that they’re the victims? This seems to be a weird new trend on this site.

If you are a bigot, please don’t post dating stories.

By: rawr

rawr — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 06:37:17 +0000

Duncan, didn’t you know that magnetism is the feminine energy and gamma radiation is masculine energy? Jesus, when will people learn?!?!?!

By: Duncan

Duncan — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 19:03:15 +0000

I suspect OP is going to be involved in a lot of ‘worst dates’, her presence being a constant.

P.S. – My duty to neuroscience compels me to say; ‘Dreams’, there is no such thing as ‘feminine energy’ nor ‘masculine energy’ neither, for that matter.

By: Dreamss

Dreamss — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 21:44:01 +0000

There is a book called “Way of the Superior Man” that discusses the concepts of masculine and feminine energy. It sounds like this man just had a lot of feminine energy and so did the poster. This is not meant to be discriminatory, a woman can have masculine energy and a man can have femine energy. This has no bearing on sexuality which is a seperate issue.
I have to take issue with the poster for being so critical and uncompromising in regards to somebody who is simply different. So there is no chemistry, happens all the time, just move on. It doesn’t sound like this guy DID anything particularly wrong.

So I call bad on the poster. Try to learn to be less shallow, accept that not everyone is going to be compatible with you and try to show a little more class and tact.

By: Meshell

Meshell — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 18:35:18 +0000

There are terms out there to describe people that are inherent stereotypes (like bitch, slut, nerd, hick, white trash) that don’t describe the person as a whole. I find the “well, he has manicured nails, so he must be gay and love the wang” attitude to be far more offensive than using at term widely known to stereotype an out-of-touch individual.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=eurotrash

Euro trash isn’t a term used for Europeans or states that all Europeans behave like Bruno. It’s just like American douchebags who travel to France and think YOU SHOULD LEARN TO SPEAK AMERICAN. It’s just as frustrating to watch someone who has a disconnect with reality in America (“Oh this is the American way, flashy, glitzy and high end! miami vice, guyse!”

Let’s create a new name. “Idiots.” That way people can drop the PC-you-said-a-stereotype card and realize that there is a big difference between stereotyping a complete group of people based off tweezed eyebrows and creating an offensive term for people who are out of touch with reality.

By: Panda

Panda — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 17:24:20 +0000

I think it’s fair, considering he obviously lied about other things on his profile, to wonder if someone else may have been writing his emails. Most people write in a similar way to how they talk, especially in a casual context, so if his tone and style of speech was completely different, I can understand that. Also, the OP doesn’t say that she assumed someone else wrote them, she said she started wondering about it; there’s a difference.

By: zomboid

zomboid — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 15:58:08 +0000

ja baby, zis iss how ve do zings in europe, get mit der program!

i like how the people trying to be PC about silly stereotypes seem to believe that ‘europeans’ all act like bruno.

By: Kara

Kara — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 05:17:38 +0000

A similar situation has happened to me where I was positive that someone else was writing the emails since the person I met spoke in a totally different way. A good lesson: definitely talk by phone before meeting. I don’t find the poster so offensive as to be called “nasty” and “homophobic” just sounds like the guy seemed gay and left the poster confused. I personally don’t enjoy my men who lie about their height and have super tweezed eyebrows whether they are gay or not. And yeah funny how everyone throws around “Euro trash” here as if that’s a nice thing to say.