Save More. Date Worse.

Last year, I was going through a really bad separation so I wanted to get my mind off things and meet someone. I met a cute guy online, but he lived about two hours away. I decided I would go meet him. He told me to meet him at the Walmart next to his house. So I drove two hours in the snow to meet this guy.

We found each other in the crowded parking lot. I got in his car…. and that was it. The only thing he had planned was to hang out in his car in the Walmart parking lot. I didn’t know the area at all, so I couldn’t suggest anywhere to go. I tried to urge him to go somewhere else, do something else by telling him I was hungry. Instead of finding a McDonalds at the very least, he ran inside Walmart and grabbed some chips and beer.

After about an hour of sitting, listening to him talk about how he just installed a new stereo, I told him I had to go to the bathroom. I got out the car and was going to make a run for mine and get out of there, but he followed me! So, I went to the bathroom and hung out in there for a really long time hoping he would get the hint. He didn’t, he was still standing outside the bathroom when I came out. While we were walking out I told him that I was sorry, but I couldn’t continue with the date anymore. I turned and literally ran to my car. That was my lesson to never meet someone online.

Comments (25)
AlexMarch 12th, 2010 at 7:55 am

Ooh, sounds like a bad date alright! Hopefully he’ll have learnt a valuable lesson for the next time he gets a date with someone. Personally, I think he was probably lacking in social skills and felt that by staying in the car with you that he could talk to you easier (not making excuses for him, but there are people like that).

Kate the GreatMarch 12th, 2010 at 7:58 am

Never meet someone from online in a WalMart parking lot, certainly. Don’t schedule a date without some idea of a plan, maybe. But discounting all online dating because of one bad experience seems stupid to me.

KaraMarch 12th, 2010 at 8:05 am

Yeah, don’t discount every entire online date. I met my boyfriend of 3 years online and he certainly didn’t take me to a WalMart parking lot …

mereeMarch 12th, 2010 at 8:19 am

I found my 25yo daughter the love of her life online! She was too shy to do the work herself so I would go on and set up dates as her. I never chatted, just said hey you seem cool, let’s meet for coffee, then she’d go on the dates. That way I could screen out guys I didn’t approve of. He’s an amazing guy, gorgeous, good job, good family and they are madly in love! Don’t give up on online!

karenMarch 12th, 2010 at 9:54 am

I think you just have to be careful. Driving 2 hours in the snow is a no no. someplace in the middle is better. Not everyone is a jerk online but there are definitely many. I got my husband on there but i had to weed through a LOT of crappy people. Yeah if he is having you meet him @ Wal-Mart parking lot that just reeks of shady.

TronnerMarch 12th, 2010 at 10:01 am

Wow, comments are often more insightful to human misery than the original posts.

ConfusiusMarch 12th, 2010 at 10:31 am

The lesson learned was not to avoid online dating (or else we’d have nothing to comment on). The lesson you should have learned is to avoid “cute” guys; this is what we’re left with, in the consequence of the feminization of men. They put on a cute face and stand for nothing.

JaredMarch 12th, 2010 at 10:51 am

I met my girlfriend online, and she’s pretty amazing. Besides, there are guys you’d meet at a bar that would probably invite you to a Walmart parking lot. There’s winners and losers no matter where you’re trying to find a date.

TronnerMarch 12th, 2010 at 11:26 am

Online dating is like regular dating but it just makes the pool larger. Whether there is chlorine in the pool is a different story

hellcatMarch 12th, 2010 at 11:42 am

meree, you screened out people for your adult daughter because you “didn’t approve”? because i’m getting such creeper vibes from that i have to wonder, is there a cultural element to this that I’m not getting?

LouwiiMarch 12th, 2010 at 12:18 pm

I think hellcat is smelling the FOB in the air! :P

CJMarch 12th, 2010 at 12:25 pm

I’m also creeped out by meree’s screening of her 25-YEAR-OLD DAUGHTER’S dates.

ErinMarch 12th, 2010 at 12:48 pm

Agreed most wholeheartedly with JC and hellcat.

gregMarch 12th, 2010 at 2:07 pm

The Wal-Mart was next to his house and he didn’t even ask you to go there, WOW, I would have at least demanded we drive to a Nieman Marcus parking lot and sit, or Target, but staying at Wal-Mart, that sucks. Nieman Marcus has so much nicer bathrooms, and fresh chips, beer, not so much, better luck next time,

joniMarch 12th, 2010 at 3:10 pm

Oh man, you poor thing! Dating is a rough business in my opinion. I don’t know about online dating… Everyone has their good and bad stories about it. I’d rather meet someone in person, the old fashioned way, because you never know about chemistry until you’re actually in their prescence. In any case, hang in there and better luck next time!

mmaireMarch 12th, 2010 at 3:17 pm

count me creeped out by the ‘screening’ of men for the adult daughter. i’m of the opinion that if you are “too shy”, “too quiet”, or “too anxious” (or whatever) to meet people on your own, through internet or real life, you are clearly incapable of socializing and you need more help than your parent finding you dates.

and i definitely listen to my parents’ opinion on men but then, the whole point of parenting is that they raised me to have standards and be a good judge of character, and so generally TRUST my decision. they don’t need to ‘screen’ my dates for me because they taught me how to screen for myself.

rawrMarch 13th, 2010 at 5:19 pm

A 25-year-old who needs mommy’s approval on dates? WTF?

trieditlikeditworkeditMarch 13th, 2010 at 5:30 pm

Online dating was not the mistake you made. Here are some actual mistakes.

1) Don’t get into the car of someone you just met. You were lucky once; don’t push your luck!

2) Don’t drive 2 hours to meet someone. If he’s not willing to come to you, or at least meet in the middle, he’s not interested. Why do all the work? He obviously has a car!

3) He didn’t plan anything because he didn’t have to. You were easy. Next time, make them work a little. If they’re more invested in the date they’ll be more invested in you.

4) You have to believe that you are worth more before others will too.

Keep trying. You can do it!

Frau BlucherMarch 13th, 2010 at 6:31 pm

lol…it reminds me of this jerk i dated in university… the only time he took me out to eat was bagels , in the car. Cheap prick. Needless to say we didn’t date long.

LieselMarch 13th, 2010 at 7:50 pm

A guy once asked me out by saying, “I’d like to take you to Pita Pit.” Obviously, I declined.

lunaMarch 14th, 2010 at 1:36 am

Seeeeriously creeped out by the “screening my daughter’s dates” comment.
Also really weirded out by the “feminization of men” comment from Confusius. WTF? Um… you know there are ugly guys who are jerks too, right? Not to mention hot guys who are also nice. Someone sounds a bit bitter IMO…

chrystalMarch 15th, 2010 at 11:14 pm

My current, live in boyfriend and I met up at walmart. We were set up and we lived less than a mile from each other, with a walmart in the middle. I don’t let first dates come to my apartment, so we met there, but we DID move on to shopping (not at walmart), dinner, and a movie. Yeah Walmart is not a destination.

SpankyMarch 17th, 2010 at 10:16 am

This story made me laugh my ass off!

RyanApril 3rd, 2010 at 12:17 am

Everyone always rips on dating online and anyone with a bad experience does too, but honestly I don’t see much of a difference between real life and online. If I tell you a bad date experience, and I tell you to guess between online and real life how we met, would you be able to? Unless I said something about online you probably wouldn’t. People are just pricks. If you can’t meet someone in real life don’t let one bad experience keep you from online. It’s a great service if you get someone who isn’t a complete dick.

AceMay 28th, 2010 at 9:32 pm

Some guys just like to hang out in parked cars for some reason. Weirdos.

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