My Very Worst Double Date

When I was 20, I tried online dating for the first and last time. I had arranged to meet my date at his college, where he wanted to watch the film department’s screenings that night. He called before I left home to chat which made me feel relaxed and content that the evening would work out.

When I arrived, he wasn’t at the designated waiting area so I called and he said that he was on his way. I hate it when people are late, but I wanted to bring my best character forward so I patiently waited. Three hours (and the entire movie over) later he arrived with another girl! Yes, I should have left but I didn’t. I really don’t know why.

We went to the bar instead with me trying to convince myself that the girl was his sister (although she was a different race and had a foreign accent). During the evening he spent all his time texting on his phone. Some time later he left me at the table with her so that he could go talk to his friends outside. Only at that point I realised I had been way too polite and accommodating.

It turned out that the girl had met him online too. He had apparently arranged our dates at the same time. She was new to the area and country. After talking for a while, we decided to ditch him and when to meet up with my girlfriends at a club. I’m still friends with her five years on.

Comments (17)
karenApril 21st, 2010 at 8:25 am

Good idea, making lemons out of lemonade. I still think there should be a website devoted to the jerks out there, sort of a “don’t date this man” kind of deal.

UnsightlyJelloApril 21st, 2010 at 8:36 am

I would love to think that guy felt humiliated at being ditched like that but an ass as big as that probably didn’t even care.

@ Karen, I agree but I think the crazies out there would end up using it for revenge, even if the other party is actually really decent.

LieselApril 21st, 2010 at 8:36 am

Oh, but Karen there is!

dontdatehimgirl.com

It’s a real site! And it can be both scary and hilarious. I think some of the daters from this site should do background checks here first!

herpesApril 21st, 2010 at 12:27 pm

While this is a horrible date, the OP loses so many points for not leaving. You waited THREE HOURS?? And then when he brought another girl…? Staggering bad judgement.

FrancesApril 21st, 2010 at 12:33 pm

Were any of us ever that young? Is this the sort of thing I would still do?

Yes. Alas.

NEJoyApril 21st, 2010 at 12:39 pm

Unfortunately, UnsightlyJello is right about the problems with “don’t date this person” type sites. I was smeared with false claims of cheating and STDs on a similar (now defunct) site by someone who has been harassing me for several years. It’s pretty devastating.

ValenciaApril 21st, 2010 at 3:16 pm

While the date sounds exceedingly horrible, I think it was worth it to make such a lasting friendship :3

lunaApril 21st, 2010 at 5:07 pm

Sucky date, but that’s got to be one of the best “how I met my friend” stories – so it wasn’t a total lose!

hipsterApril 21st, 2010 at 10:54 pm

Ok, the only thing redeeming this story imo is the end when you guys ditched the douche and became friends. But OP, you’re kind of an idiot for going along with him after a THREE HOUR WAIT combined with what was obviously double dipping. Did you even express any small measure of disdain for that faux pas?

Frau BlucherApril 22nd, 2010 at 6:17 am

i can’t imagine waiting three hours. I give them an hour and that’s that! i salute you!

NatalieApril 22nd, 2010 at 8:47 am

Well, at least you found a good friend out of the whole mess!

leighApril 22nd, 2010 at 10:02 am

There is no way I would wait that long for a date. No. Freaking. Way.

MeshellApril 22nd, 2010 at 12:59 pm

Wow, more people who laud their vast experience and just wouldn’t do “that” no, not never, even in a million years.

Seriously, I know it makes you people feel better because you can judge the post for how stupid/dumb/weak/insecure the OP was at that time… but the key (prepositional) phrase here is AT THAT TIME. We all gain experience through screwing up. You screw up, analyze what happen, and keep on going so you can screw up again to begin the process again. You see, the first time I learned to ride a bike, I fell down an awful lot. I didn’t pedal fast enough at the right time. Sort of like not leaving fast enough at the right time while on a date.

I am quite sure the OP knew she wasn’t being assertive by sticking around. Get off your high horses, kiddos, and realize you were/are just as stupid. I am sure everyone right now is making a mistake that they will realize could have been done better/corrected another way.

Which is why I am going to get back to my work load here at my job :X Stepping off the soapbox now.

OPApril 30th, 2010 at 11:16 am

Thank’s for coming to my defense Meshell. I liked the guy he was online and over the phone, and THAT’S the guy I thought was worth waiting for. He called me during the wait as well to ask me not to leave and that he’s really sorry. I wanted to give him a chance and not judge him too quickly, like assuming the other girl was his date for instance; sometimes the most obvious option seems the most unlikely.

bubbaMay 22nd, 2010 at 2:26 pm

I wouldn’t wait three hours to meet Jesus Christ Himself.

AceMay 28th, 2010 at 12:32 am

Yay for the good outcome! Yeah, ditch the jerk

MeizJuly 4th, 2010 at 9:04 am

“We went to the bar instead with me trying to convince myself that the girl was his sister (although she was a different race and had a foreign accent)”

Hahaha! Mde my day!

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