My Very Worst First Online Date

Wow…..

Umm……….

Maybe the person who shot him 10 times was his last date….

You should have made it 11 times.

My favorite sin is possession & use of graven images.

Adultery’s SO ten-minutes-ago.

change your #. then none of them. plus its considered harssment/stalking I think. ugh. that is awful! At least you have your male friend watch out for your! He should have kicked his ass to the curb!

um WTH? he’s stalking you and quoting bible verses to you? seriously? ick.

er I meant that he wouldn’t be able to call you. *oops* unless…he tries to hunt you down @ your apt. for your NEW #. then its time to call the “po-po”(police)

homeboy be trippin’, get the five-o all up his shit, yo

etc.

Uck – two words: restraining order.

Dude sounds like a veritable creeper for sure, but really: “Then the date came to an end and I headed outside while he took care of the tab. He then complained about the bar tab and how now he couldn’t take me to the fair because he had no more money (he worked for his parents at their family owned nursery, which was the biggest in the state).” Was that necessary?

It was a first date and it is completely reasonable that you would pick up your half of the tab. Instead, you sneaked outside while he paid. Just because his parents own a nursery doesn’t mean you know what his finances are like. Why not just be a decent person and pay for your half of the date, especially if you were having such a terrible time? Men aren’t required to pay for women on dates, just like women aren’t required to be doormats to jerky men. Sounds like his complaint of not being able to take you to the fair was his way of letting you know you’re not a very modern, independent woman.

The rest was totally creepy, though.

Actually she never said she “sneaked” outside. But even so, how do you not have enough money when you go out on a date. Plus there are these wonderful things called ATMs.

@ sarah – to me it sounded like they had agreed that he would get the drinks. its possible she offered. when im on a date i always offer to split but most times guys insist on getting it. plus this guys using bible verses to control her – that doesnt seem modern at all. geez, go easy on her. but on the other hand the op could go a little easier on said dude too. until the dog part i didnt know why someone would complain about homeboy. thats when they get you!!

We don’t know what discussion, if any, there was of who would pay the tab. Unless the OP comments and fills in the missing details, we have no idea who agreed to what in regards of the bill. Sarah, you’re just projecting your own views onto the events of the date. I really have no idea why you threw the accusation that the OP is not “a very modern, independent woman”, just like you have no idea why the OP threw in the detail about her date working at the nursery. Is it really necessary, especially considering the OP made no claims about how independent or modern she was? You’re doing the same thing to the OP that you claim the OP is doing to her date.

Buh, forgot to put this in:

I do agree that it wasn’t really necessary to infer the date’s financial situation from where he works.

Regardless, if she ever disappears everyone will know who to turn to.

corinthians?

Uhm, don’t you have to be married first before you commit adultery? Or was it just wishful thinking; he thought your neighbor was your husband and that he might be getting some action?

But yeah, change your number. If that doesn’t do it, go to the police. This guy is fucking creepy.

Beautiful. I love how it goes from meh-date to absolutely crazy in a matter of a few hours. Why do the ones who get rejected start quoting the Bible? Yeah, that’ll totally convince me to call you for a second date- you calling me an adulterer.

I mentioned the nursery b/c he mentioned it about a hundred times, I offered to pay for my half, thinking that if I did that, there was no way he could infere that I would want anything more to do with him. He refused to let me pay.

The fair comment made no sense to me either b/c this was in august the state fair here is in October. I still get the creeps when I go outside at night and see a Silver Suburban parked in the vacinity of where I live, even though I live in a different town several hours away now, because it reminds of me of that fateful night.

Ashely- I just don’t understand why you never filed a restraining order or even changed your number in the two years since. His calling every 2-3 months is still harrassment, and his behavior isn’t healthy, obviously.

I love how there’s all this debate on how the tab should be split, but not about the fact that he’s been STALKING her for two fucking years!

Ashley — Please, please, PLEASE go to the police. This guy is stalking you…and he’s not going to stop on his own. I understand if, at first, you thought he’d eventually leave you alone. But it’s been two years. He’s not going to leave you alone. He’s developed a pattern, and police action is the only way to interrupt that pattern.

I agree with Bridgete, you can never be too careful…