Ambush Date

My Very Worst Date was partially because I didn’t know it was a date. I had agreed to meet up with a guy from my Japanese class when he contacted me via Facebook with an invite. He told me there would be at least 15 people going to a local Japanese restaurant and then to karaoke. Though we were in a group we decided to split a meal. Everything seemed light and fun, until the check came. I pulled out my wallet to pay my half and he opted to pay in full. A minute later the kind waitress asked if he had another way to pay since his card was declined. He looked at me and said, “I dont have any cash”. So I pay and shake it off.

We went to one of the nicest karaoke spots in north Texas, so I was told. We all sat, sang and had a ball until I noticed “T” went missing after about an hour. I went into the hall and there he was laying in fetal position saying, “Oh my God, I have a stomachache” repetitively in a baby voice. This went on for 30 minutes outside of the men’s bathroom, then he goes to the front of the building, finds the smallest trashcan he could and vomited all over it. I headed to the bar and began to forget this guy. It may not have been so bad but I had just met the guy. His friend told me to keep him company as “he invited you for a reason” (insert wink and smile). I couldn’t wait to avoid his calls and texts.

Comments (24)
LGB362June 3rd, 2010 at 7:39 am

Wow, what a stuck-up bitch…

poor guy got sick (probably from the sushi) and so she “headed to the bar and began to forget this guy”. Could’ve at least got one of the other 15 people to help him out instead of just forgetting about him.

Also, so what if his card got declined? You guys are obviously still in college… he is probably broke just like every other college student. It happens.

JillyJune 3rd, 2010 at 8:26 am

Though it’s not the worst of the worst this is a bad date. First of all she got tricked into it, she paid for their meal, her date went “missing” and then acted like a baby. He probably got drunk.

MMMichelleJune 3rd, 2010 at 9:05 am

A man acting like a baby over a tummy ache? That would make me leave as well. Maybe she should have carried him to the car and changed his diaper? If his appendix exploded he can be a baby, if he is just gassy, you should at least go fart in your car or something. I dunno, maybe I am being harsh. It’s just with my awful health, I can still manage to not make a scene I guess.

lifebeginsat30tyJune 3rd, 2010 at 9:17 am

Where were all of the other friends when he was throwing up? I do think it’s a little cold to abandon someone when their sick: whether you knew it was a date or not! Not cool pulling an ‘ambush’ though. I wonder if he paid her back for his half?

tronnerJune 3rd, 2010 at 9:47 am

“I couldn’t wait to avoid his calls and texts.” Wow – isn’t that like saying “I couldn’t wait to be passive aggressive and vengeful?”

zomboidJune 3rd, 2010 at 10:18 am

i don’t see how ignoring is passive-aggressive. or vengeful.

sarahJune 3rd, 2010 at 10:21 am

weird.

tronnerJune 3rd, 2010 at 10:49 am

the “couldn’t wait to avoid……” is what got me. It’s as if she was looking forward to punishing the guy with her silence. If people just want to solve every problem with silence, that’s fine – but that’s not a very direct way of communicating.

Garter SnakeJune 3rd, 2010 at 11:05 am

It doesn’t sound like an ambush date to me; it sounds like the guy invited her because he was interested in her and wanted to get to know her better in a casual group setting. Unless things have changed drastically in the few years since I was in college, that’s a fairly common, non-sneaky way to get to know potential friends and significant others from class. Baby talk, not so much. I still feel bad for the guy, though.

mmaireJune 3rd, 2010 at 11:10 am

It’s not really an ambush date until the guy turns up at your door to pick you up for ‘group dinner and movie night’ in a suit with flowers, a mix tape in the car, a restaurant fancier than the fast food place you were told to plan for and the fact that everyone else who was supposed to show were never invited in the first place. And you’re in sweatpants and no makeup.

I don’t know, this sounds unpleasant, but not really a date. There were a bunch of other people there, OP wasn’t really bound to interact with him all that much. Being ‘invited for a reason’ doesn’t make it a date.

MeshellJune 3rd, 2010 at 11:16 am

Tronner, have other women done that to you? I don’t see how avoiding calls and texts is passive aggressive or a punishment/vengeful. It’s a passive response, YES, but No Doubt will remind us that “walking in the spiderweb” is probably one of the best ways to avoid confrontation.

So what… after a bit of subterfuge to get her to hang out with him (a bit passive to show interest in such a fashion), paying for his meal (she didn’t expect to pay for anyone but herself in this GROUP setting), him disappearing (he couldn’t say that he wasn’t feeling well?), and then acting like a blubbering baby over stomach sickness (yeah, it’s call cramps… I get them monthly)… I can’t blame the OP for being looking forward in ignoring his calls later.

The line of looking forward to avoiding his calls was a play off the OP’s jackass friends suggesting that he wanted to get some and she should totes take care of the wittle baby. OP wasn’t looking forward to the alone time; she was looking forward to not seeing him again.

MeshellJune 3rd, 2010 at 11:18 am

Correction – Avoiding calls and texts CAN be passive aggressive and used a punishment in difference situations. This is not one of them.

MegDallasJune 3rd, 2010 at 1:01 pm

I guess I should update since it was my date. I still talk to the guy occasionally and I think I’m polite enough (not quite stuck up nor a bitch). His friends were in the karaoke room and came out once or twice to check on him. After an hour or so we did both return to the room but it was awkward since I didnt really know him or his friends. You can call my reaction passive aggressive….that’s fine, I can live with that =) And no I never got the money back, but then again I never asked for it. Oh also, he wasnt drunk. The stomach ache might have been from the sushi but the ache isnt the problem….the fetal position and whining was….well, there you have it folks!

tronnerJune 3rd, 2010 at 1:46 pm

@Meg for me it was more the wording than the action. I took the statement as “I can’t wait until he calls me so I can purposely not respond.” Clearly I misinterpreted it. And, if you still talk to the guy, it’s obvious that you weren’t about to hate the guy for it – so I apologize for my overreaction.

@Meshell – I think that’s the first time I’ve ever heard No Doubt lyrics used to strengthen a person’s argument….kudos. And, I’m not sure why the sentence bugged me…it’s not like having my phone calls ignored has been a huge problem in my life, sometimes wording just sets me off into a rant :)

ThandiJune 3rd, 2010 at 7:58 pm

poor guy, maybe it really hurt. you guys never been in pain before? :-(

LieselJune 3rd, 2010 at 8:31 pm

This is not a date. The guy liked her and wanted to spend time with her. Not a date.

Also, was this written by a 13-year-old?

jaydenJune 3rd, 2010 at 8:46 pm

u sound conceited. he’s nice enough to invite u out. date or not, u were the “friend” that he brought. the guy clearly was in pain, u dont need to make a mockery out of it

zomboidJune 3rd, 2010 at 9:39 pm

i think tronner and meshell should go on a date and report back

i am a noodleJune 4th, 2010 at 6:47 am

Date or not, this was just plain awkward. Maybe not necessarily painful or horrifying, but awkward.

And yeah, I’d probably make a mockery out of him (not to his face) whining about a stomach ache curled up in the fetal position (unless, of course, he had appendicitis or something equally as serious). I get nausea-inducing migraines on a regular basis. I’ve accidentally sliced both my hand and my head open and had to get stitches. I’ve had a compound fracture once. Hell, I even had appendicitis. (I’m a fucking mess, I know.) I never whined in a baby voice about being in pain, though. So yeah, I’ve been in pain. No, I don’t have much sympathy for him.

LGB362June 4th, 2010 at 10:09 am

Good grief, I feel bad for the guy. Bad sushi can really cause some bad stomach pain! The guy was obviously in alot of pain if he was curled up in the fetal position in a public place…

Give the guy a break!

MeshellJune 4th, 2010 at 11:40 am

If tronner and I were to attend a date together, I can only imagine the shenanigans that would ensue.

Tronner… I’m wearing my “Sushi Lover” shirt today. Care to ensure I hate it? ;)

tronnerJune 4th, 2010 at 2:08 pm

Oh, absolutely!

I’d have to polish up on my mid 90s quasi Ska/rock band lyrics, though.

CJJune 6th, 2010 at 3:25 pm

Can I stalk the date? I’ll sit at the next table, eavesdrop, and inject myself in the conversation. Whilst incredibly drunk. Possibly with a recording device that I’ll claim is for “the government.”

Pleeeeeaseeeee?

JenJune 8th, 2010 at 1:09 pm

Aw, poor guy. There’s nothing fun about getting food poisoning, especially when you’re out in public. I know it wasn’t the best of dates, but making fun of the guy for getting sick isn’t cool. Have a little compassion.

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