A Bum Deal

I met this guy through a popular online dating service. We exchanged information and corresponded back and forth. He seemed normal.

He invited me to dinner at an Italian restaurant in Brooklyn. We’d agreed to meet in the bar, but when I arrived, he was nowhere to be seen.

Then a strange man addressed me. My date was about 50 lbs heavier and ten years older than he’d represented himself to be. I didn’t comment about it, but I was put off.

Over dinner we talked about the dating website. He said, casually, “Yeah, I’m ready to have a girlfriend again. I’m tired of seeing escorts.” He wasn’t joking.

Then he bitterly criticized his ex-wife, saying that she “claimed that he’d hit her” during the divorce. I was so creeped out and uncomfortable that I hardly spoke or ate.

He also stared at my breasts the entire time (and I was wearing a modest blouse). Towards the end of the date, I was so fed up, I said, “I wore a padded bra tonight, but I had no idea it would be such a success!”

Unperturbed, he said, “Actually, I’m more of an ass man.”

Then he got testy when I declined to let him drive me home.

June 11th, 2010 in I Lied on My Profile, WTF? | tags: , , , , , ,
Comments (14)
JenniferJune 11th, 2010 at 12:49 am

Is there a tag for “meeting a monster” submissions? He sounds like one, red flags all over the place there that he is abusive.

YGJune 11th, 2010 at 4:31 am

These guys…when are they going to learn they’re the reason they have problems with relationships?? It’s always the folks who have a list of failed ones that act so arrogant and entitled. Is it the male ego??

JennyJamesJune 11th, 2010 at 5:16 am

@YGJune

Don’t think it’s the male ego, I have a few female friends of friends like that, when you hear their first tale of woe you feel kind of sorry for them, until you realise their just plain crazy/bitchy/have a violent temper and bring it all on themselves. I guess these people never from their mistakes because their so busy blaming everyone else, and end up still acting like 10 year olds for the rest of their lives.

JennyJamesJune 11th, 2010 at 5:17 am

That was meant to be never *learn* from their mistakes.

karenJune 11th, 2010 at 8:15 am

red flag #1-lying about their picture. I say “sorry, I don’t know you” and leave. :)

gregJune 11th, 2010 at 8:32 am

Perfect reply to “I’m more of an ass man” no, you’re more of an asshole…good bye

LisapJune 11th, 2010 at 10:43 am

Hi, this isn’t directly related to this particular story, but I have been reading a few of the older posts and felt the need to share.

http://www.cbc.ca/canada/nova-scotia/story/2010/06/09/ns-horne-maguire-trial-opening.html

This is the final result torture/sexual assault/murder case which took place in Halifax, Nova Scotia. The total population of Nova Scotia is approx. 950 000 and the population of Halifax (Nova Scotia’s largest city by far) is approx. 360 000. Not a tiny town but certainly on the small side for a province’s major city.

Jennifer Horne only intended to go out on a date with a co-worker and 2 1/2 years later that date and his (at the time of the murder) pregnant girlfriend are pleading guilty to 1st degree murder only after some of the details of the torture and sexual assault Jennifer experienced came to light at trial. In the end she died of suffocation after her head was completely coated with several layers of duct tape before she was able to bleed to death from her multiple stab wounds.

After the amount of stories I’ve read where girls (and some guys) have gone home with unpleasant dates to be polite or because the date didn’t pick up on their hints they wanted to go home and they didn’t know how to be direct, I felt the need to share this. I’m sorry to put a downer on a very entertaining site, but this is the major news story in my nec of the woods and after reading of several scary situations I have heard OPs play a role in putting themselves in, I felt it was relevant.

AndrewJune 11th, 2010 at 11:43 am

That’s horrible. And now I’m sad…

Frau BlucherJune 11th, 2010 at 1:01 pm

i’ve been following that story…but she knew this guy from work. She sounds like she was really really naive but that’s obviously what he liked…the creep is 37 and has a 22 year old girlfriend and hits on a 20 year old!

as for this creep….i guess it’s back to the escorts for him!

LisaJune 11th, 2010 at 3:25 pm

No offense, Lisa– I’m sure your heart’s in the right place & all– but this story involves a girl who dated her killer for a couple of weeks, and worked with him as well— it wasn’t a first date with a stranger, and I’m not sure if there’s any reason to believe she did anything foolish. She was just the unfortunate victim of a homicidal maniac.

It’s like posting a story about a high-school shooting spree, in order to suggest that it’s dangerous to attend high school.

YGJune 12th, 2010 at 12:31 am

Why is the site putting “June” right after our names?? My caffeine-deprived brain is all a-tangle.

Frau BlucherJune 12th, 2010 at 4:27 am

i agree with lisa, but i think we all agree about being careful.
SInce then, the guy changed his plea to guilty, sparing the family more grisly details. Apparently she had no idea he had a girlfriend (who was also pregnant and they had one child already) and the girlfriend was jealous.

AndrewJune 13th, 2010 at 5:43 am

@YG, that’s the month…

mariaJune 24th, 2010 at 10:52 pm

errr god what a pig to be honest as soon as I had seen that he has made himself out to be someone he isnt I would have left! I hate guys who lie about stuff like that.

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