The Power of Suggestion

I would question your logic in agreeing to go for a drive at 3 in the morning with a man you essentially do not know, having last spoken to them 6+ years ago. Even if you thought he was going to take you to a park in the city, do you often visit such places at 3 in the morning?! Bizarre.

super bad judgment girl. and getting BACK in the car with a drunk guy? just plain stupid.

Wow. There is so much not right here, there’s no point in listing them. It is amazing any of us survived past 20.

Wow. What part of meeting up with some guy you barely know at 3:00am and driving out to
a secluded location sounded like a good idea to you? That was so dangerous, you are lucky you weren’t killed in a car accident or raped and murdered. Hopefully you learned your lession and you won’t put yourself in such a dangerous situation again

Wow. You’re lucky you didn’t end up in a ditch somewhere! Craziness.

I’m not going to get into whether or not it was a bad decision in general to get in this guy’s car and go on a little trip into the country, cuz if it was me and I had know the person as a kid in school, there is a good chance I would have assumed I’d be fine too.

But at 3 AM? You got into a car with a guy you hadn’t seen in years because he needed to talk and thought his idea of you to some favourite spot you didn’t know the location of at 3 in the morning was OK? I don’t get it.

And I think you’d have to stretch the definition considerably to be able to call this a date.

Three or four stars for the “bad date” part, but ONE STAR for the sheer stupidity of getting in a car, drunk, with someone who was practically a stranger, and then going along with wandering around a deserted campground! At which point where you going to say “no I’m leaving!” and bail on him? When you realized he was drunk, that would have been a good time to insist on going home (or finding somewhere to get out of the car and not get back in).

“… getting into his vehicle, I wondered aloud why he had a large shovel, a pick-axe, a brand new pair of work gloves and a large box marked ‘LYE’ in the bed of his truck. He simply responded, “uh…for a project at work” and then tapped his foot impatiently, waiting for me to get in. This didn’t sit well, as earlier he had indicated he was a Sandwich Artist at a local sub shop, but I figured since we had shared graham crackers and orange punch in Mrs. Halverston’s 2nd grade class he was someone I could trust, so I got in.”

Having said that, I liked this one – especially the part about the coyotes.

hahahaha! @ Tronner. Exactly!

Wow! you are a noble adventurous kind. That’s a dangerous combination. I wish you to get lucky every single time but you still should be little cautious.

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There are so many things I am thinking right now (none of them positive) so I will just say that that “date” sounds like an excellent plot for a slasher movie ala Tronner.
Bravo to you for being brave enough to submit it.

one more reason to be careful on facebook about who you ad. I would have said, no, I do the chatting thing, and then block him.

Actually tronner’s comment sounds more like the plot of an episode of “Law & Order” or “CSI”. But seriously, I don’t care how well you think you know someone, 3am is not the time to go out for a drive. If they really need to talk in person that bad, then a phone call would have to suffice. Or it could wait till the next day.

At least you’ll always know where to get cheap gas.

Stupid.

I simply love Tronners comment, it was hilarious yet suited the ridiculous date described

I must apologize first for my comment, but you must be thew stupidest 20 yr old on Facebook, on the entire net for that matter. You are unfortunately one of those ladies (girls) who ends up with a search crew and a pack of dogs looking for you. I hear Joran Van Der Sloot is single again

lol tronner…that ranks up there with all the stories like “Even though John kept a large cache of weapons and had a long criminal record, Sharon invited him to move in with her and her three small children.”

and we wonder how girls like Natalee Holloway end up dead!

I think the situation would be slightly more humorous if the OP watches CSI and Law and Order and 48 Hours: Hard Evidence all the time and the thought that driving into the woods with a drunk virtual stranger never even crossed her mind. Or it did, but she thought, “Oh, that only happens on TV. It’ll never happen to me.”

I sort of read it that the OP knew it was probably not the smartest thing and did see some humor in it. It does rank somewhere in her “very worst” category for a reason, and I assume it’s not just because she never got her frappachino.

This post makes me a bit angry. If I knew the driver was drunk I would make them stop and then drive myself and if you can’t drive then call a cab. Under no circumstances should someone like that be driving, do you know how many deaths are drunk driving related??

Wow, you have some serious issues with boundaries and appropriate behavior! I really hope you learned something from this, but somehow I doubt it. You don’t seem very alarmed at the fact that you are *so* lucky to be alive right now!

@ Sophie : It is a bit hard to call a cab when you realise you are already out of the city and don’t know exactly where you are. “Hi could you come and pick me up? I’m on some road somewheres.”

I don’t think she had many alternatives but to stick with the dude. It seems that by the time it got really creeptastic, there wasn’t much to do about it.

Jesus H. Christ…..

let’s hope OP has learned from this, that she really did dodge a bullet, and for an assignment, watch a few episodes of 48 hours mystery, The First 48, Dateline, Psychic Detectives…

@tronner Yep, you called it. OP, you know not to accept candy from strangers with vans or respond to emails from Nigerian princes, right? RIGHT? Oh, and that nice Van Der Sloot fellow who friended you on FB and wants to get together, you should probably ignore him…

I don’t usually chastise the OPs for their mistakes, but this story really crosses the line for me. It’s one thing to friend some guy you knew in elementary school. Okay, great, it might be fun to reconnect. I’d even say it’s fine to meet up with him…but not like this. Not only is there the fact that he may not be a safe person now, even if he was a “nice kid,” there’s also the fact that he may not have been a very “nice kid,” but you wouldn’t have known. Kids aren’t exactly on the lookout for sociopathic tendencies among their peers, even for the stuff that tends to appear in childhood.

I’m in complete agreement with Bridgete. I’m usually sympathetic towards the young, naive girls who post their stories of poor judgment, but lord have mercy.

All of us, regardless of whether or not we’re silly girls like the storyteller, need to be just as careful around those we knew when we were kids and just reconnected with as much as we’re careful around strangers we’ve never met before. Mental illness typically develops in some people when they reach puberty into adulthood. For all anyone knew, this old elementary school friend was a raging paranoid schizophrenic who heard voices that would convince him to commit murder.

Sounds like he wasn’t completely 100% right, anyway. This was a cheap lesson, and I hope she learned it.

From the person who wrote it.

I will first state that I do agree to all of the posts, but seeing as I had to make the story only around 300 words, had to put in the key points.
To the person who said I seem to be all calm about it, I wasn’t. It’s just been a while since it actually happened, and have had time to collect my thoughts about it.

A lot of people seem to think this was the first time I had met up with him since adding him on FB. This is untrue. I just said that one night he ended up phoning me all distraught.

A lot of people are saying “why did you get into the car with him when he was drunk?”, or “why did you go out so late?”. Well, the first point is we were supposed to only go two blocks away to a coffee shop. And that he doesn’t look drunk, when he is. I only found this out far from town, in which I had already insisted he take me back.
Why was I out so late? It’s just a thing I do. I sleep during the day and work at night. And my friends are all up at night. If I had any cell phone reception (cause that died soon before leaving the city) I would have found any reason to run away from that truck and phone for help, even if I didn’t know where I was, I’m sure the police could have figured that out. But out of town, not sure where, pitch black out, I wasn’t sure I’d know my way back to the city. And I figured if I did run away, he’s got a truck… that could possibly piss him off and have reason to actually harm me.

I’m the kind of person who thinks about everything that goes on, I thought of every possibility while going through this. I wasn’t just ‘la di da, this is a nice trip’. I was planning an escape.

And yes, I am aware as to how lucky I am for surviving that.
I just thought it might be an interesting event to share.

‘night owl”

The night time is the right time for a kidnapping for a picnic.

“Kids aren’t exactly on the lookout for sociopathic tendencies among their peers, even for the stuff that tends to appear in childhood.”

most kids are sociopaths as far as i can tell

You are so lucky you are still alive and not raped and cut up into small pieces. At what point did you finally decide going somewhere with this guy was a bad idea?

gross. be glad your not lying in a ditch somewhere half naked!

Go Team Tronner!

I think a good portion of the commenters here would be a defense attorney’s dream jury.

Not sure you are ready to live on your own.

Yes, you’re so “lucky” you weren’t raped, all asking for it there with your lady-vagina!
Guess what, when people are raped it’s THE RAPISTS FAULT. There’s rapists in all walks of life, and when you jump right on the victim or near-victim and keep questioning what SHE did and what better decisions SHE could have made, they’re right there listening to exactly how much of their own behavior they can excuse away. Ugh…

You would think by the age of 20 this girl would have had some common sense but alas that is not the case. You are so lucky nothing bad happened because you really put yourself into a dangerous situation. N

Does no one read above comments? She has already replied with an explanation. No need to keep bashing her.