Eighties Flashback

MVWD was back in 1989, when I had just moved into a new town and begin my first real job. I was working for an area fitness center and had the opportunity to meet many people, but not many who I would call dating material. Keep in mind that I was living in a small town and everyone knew everyone. So a co-worker set me up with a friend of hers to attend a Halloween costume party. I went dressed as a reporter thinking that way I could look nice and also not give the wrong impression. My blind date showed up at my apartment dressed in a trench coat and socks and shoes. I didn’t ask him what he was dressed as until we were driving to the party. He said he would tell me at the party so I thought he dressed as a woman.

Much to my shock when we arrived at the party he was dressed as a flasher. Now his private parts were covered with fur-covered jock strap, but he was walking around the whole time at the party flashing everyone. Obviously I did not socialize much with him at the party. When it was time to go home he asked why I didn’t talk much and all could say was that I really didn’t think we were going to hang out much. I did not go out with him again but he kept showing up at my door on off for a couple weeks still wondering why I didn’t like him.

July 1st, 2010 in Match Made In Confusion, Problematic Point of No Return, Wardrobe Malfunctions | tags: bad date, Halloween date, my very worst date, set up date

Comments (22)

MargaretJuly 1st, 2010 at 7:32 am

Not exactly good first date impression… but it WAS a costume party.

A reporter? Boring.

KristaJuly 1st, 2010 at 7:32 am

Awww, come on! That’s a funny costume.

C-rushJuly 1st, 2010 at 7:48 am

You’d rather he dressed as a woman than a flasher? I think the idea was pretty funny, and it may not have been an ideal first date, but you could have had fun with it at least.

zomboidJuly 1st, 2010 at 8:08 am

this guy took me to a costume party and dressed like a total freak! needless to say, i never spoke to him again.

rubyluluJuly 1st, 2010 at 8:09 am

That’s a lame reason not to want to see a person again…

BeccaJuly 1st, 2010 at 8:33 am

I think it’s funny. Maybe I have a sick sense of humor. It’s not like he was actually flashing people.

MelJuly 1st, 2010 at 8:57 am

OP I think you are the lame one and I’d love to see what your date had to say about this date. I pick this girl up for a costume party and she looks like she’s going to work. I’m dressed as a flasher but don’t tell her right away so not to freak her out. I do have something cover the family jewels. We get to the party and everyone I know is there and we are having a blast. I can’t find my date anywhere and every time I try to talk to her she says nothing. We leave the party and I drop her off asking if all was okay. She replied that she didn’t think we would hang out again. Her loss I had a blast.

AndrewJuly 1st, 2010 at 9:57 am

I can understand why she didn’t want to see him again. Granted, I think it’s funny, but to deal with that on a first date…not so much.

karenJuly 1st, 2010 at 10:05 am

i’ve been to many costume parties and people don’t usually dress as flashers. it would be funnier if he had one of those fake muscle outfits. or even was risky business tom cruise. that would be awesome.
but a flasher? that doesn’t really seem approrpriate.

lifebeginsat30tyJuly 1st, 2010 at 10:06 am

That’s hilarious! I would have gone out with him again, but that’s me. Obviously not a match.

MidwesternGrlJuly 1st, 2010 at 10:36 am

I can understand how that would be a bit much for a first date but it was a costume party…give the guy a break. But I guess on the other hand, going to a party dressed as a flasher does say a lot about a person’s personality…oh well. Oh and you dressed as a reporter??? Honestly, if I were a guy I wouldn’t go out with YOU anymore because you obviously don’t have a sense of humor…it was a COSTUME PARTY! Sounds like you just wore regular clothes…lame.

AprilJuly 1st, 2010 at 11:05 am

What? Cripes, people, it’s a date. A flasher? Not impressive and thoroughly unfunny. How old was this guy, twelve?

And to all of you who say going as a reporter is lame, obviously you haven’t heard of a certain one by the name of April O’ Neill.

JayJuly 1st, 2010 at 11:17 am

Well, he’s a flasher AND not spending time with her at the party.. more into flashing people (I hope he knew people at the party!) than being with his blind date. I’m sure he had fun, but it was not a good date.

MeshellJuly 1st, 2010 at 12:02 pm

Has no one heard of http://www.nakednews.com/ ??

Haters keep on hatin, I’m gonna go dressed as a reporter next year!

Seriously tho, someone dressing up as something akin to sexual assault is pretty off putting. My best gal pal called me up 2 years ago, begging me to get to the track earlier because a man was sitting in his car, jacking off while staring at her. She’s still pretty upset by it. Dressing up as a criminal isn’t a smart idea when meeting someone new. He definitely could have made it funnier, but the OP doesn’t need to lighten up about a very disgusting crime.

Definitely a bad date.

gregJuly 1st, 2010 at 12:37 pm

I think his costume was appropriate, had he been naked under the coat, not so much, I think you over-reacted by alot. Lighten up and have fun, life’s too short (maybe he was too?)

XandrayaJuly 1st, 2010 at 3:23 pm

Definitely not the way to make a first impression. I wouldn’t have been terribly impressed either. I also do not appreciate it when dates leave me in the dust when they encounter their friends while on a date. Either incorporate me into your group or I’m leaving – I don’t want to wait around awkwardly while you all talk comfortably ignoring me.

Again, tons of people are attacking the OP. Why don’t you guys take your own advice and lighten up and have fun? She’s allowed to like or dislike people based on their choices and behavior – that’s life. Obviously she’s a little more conservative (hence, dressed as a reporter), and the guy isn”t (hence, dressed as a flasher), so it’s not surprisingly that she wasn’t into him – and frankly, it’s better that she was honest with him (“we’re not going to hang out much”) than pretend to like him.

I hope you find someone more suitable, OP!

JennyJuly 1st, 2010 at 4:00 pm

You should have interviewed him! I think this guy is hillarious. It is your friend that made the mistake by setting you up on a blind date to attend a costume party.
It’s a party. He shouldn’t have to babysit someone that clearly has no interest in him.

lunaJuly 1st, 2010 at 7:19 pm

I dunno…
Personally I wouldn’t have been offended, but if it was my first time meeting the guy I’d take it as a bad sign.
A lot of (actually most)women have had a bad experience with a sexual harrasser at some point. Dressing as a flasher MIGHT just mean he has an offbeat sense of humor, but it also might mean he’s an ass who thinks sexual harrassment is hilarious. You wouldn’t know for sure until you got to know him, but I can understand some girls not sticking around to find out.

ThandiJuly 1st, 2010 at 8:29 pm

Maybe going to a costume party for a first date wasn’t a great idea like Jenny said. Also, they chose costumes at opposite ends of the spectrum, that kind of speaks for itself that they are different people.

jJuly 1st, 2010 at 9:40 pm

Remember, this was 1989. Imagine what the reporters wore in the 80s. She said it was a small town where everyone knew everyone so I bet the guy was just “flashing” his friends. Halloween is pretty much like the only time you get to dress crazy and get away with it. It just shows the guy has a sense of humor.