Parked

I joined a dating site recently, got talking to a guy who admired my piercings and music taste. He had a picture up on his profile, but it was blurry and he had his chin up so I couldn’t really see his face properly. That should have sent alarm bells ringing, but I thought it was just because he was doing a Thrasher pose with a guitar. He texted me all day, asked to meet in a local shopping street, so I agreed (in public, daylight, etc). I put on a summer dress, heels, made sure I smelt nice (it was a real hot day) and went into town.

I wish I had never bothered.

I was waiting there, when this overweight (in the guy’s profile pics, he looked a lot slimmer), scruffy guy came lumbering up to me–not looking at my face but at my breasts (note: he did this constantly throughout our short time together). He came over to hug me and I swear that he smelt like a combination of shit and stale sweat. Seriously, this guy reeked and I nearly gagged. His shirt was also stained with God knows what. The worst part is, this guy stated on his profile that his match had to smell nice.

Not wanting to be rude, I suggested that we go to a park and sit on the bench. Big mistake. He put his hand on my leg and kept on asking about my nursing course (all while staring at my legs, then breasts). I moved away from him and put my arms by my side to buffer him, but he was persistent and rested his arm behind me. I decided there and then that this was enough, so I confronted him about his profile picture–turns out it was an old picture of him. I got up to go to the toilet and ring my friend to plan an escape. When I came back. Oh God, when I came back, he was sitting there. With an obvious hard-on.

I walked off and ignored his cries of asking me how to get back to the station (he didn’t know the area well), wishing for a shower.

Comments (25)
lifebeginsat30tyJuly 20th, 2010 at 5:42 am

Ew. Double ew.

LisaJuly 20th, 2010 at 5:56 am

Any date prompted in whole or part by the ‘admiration of piercings’ is BOUND to fail— it’s just a scientific certainty.

AKMJuly 20th, 2010 at 6:02 am

People listen: The words “not wanting to be rude” or “just wanting to be nice” are CODE WORDS for “not wanting to seem shallow”. Who the flub cares if you’re shallow when you get stuck with boring stinky sex maniacs? “Just be nice” to yourself, run away fast.

LJuly 20th, 2010 at 6:17 am

Why do people bother to date if they can’t be bothered to shower and wash their clothes?

AmandaJuly 20th, 2010 at 6:40 am

Lisa: well, that’s dumb, considering that’s how my husband first struck up a conversation with me and we’ve been together six years. Not everyone who likes piercings should be painted with the same snarky brush.

karenJuly 20th, 2010 at 7:58 am

why do people be polite when the lied on the profile to begin with? he doesn’t even belong on theree. should probably go to craigs list, alot cheaper

MargaretJuly 20th, 2010 at 8:02 am

He’s a loser. You moved on quickly. A+

MMMichelleJuly 20th, 2010 at 8:22 am

ewwww! What a pig!

popJuly 20th, 2010 at 9:06 am

basic rule dude! no one likes a stinker! :)

LauraJuly 20th, 2010 at 9:25 am

No one likes a fatty either.

BridgeteJuly 20th, 2010 at 10:17 am

I cannot for the life of me understand why people aren’t just honest about their weight on their dating profile. I know, weight is a sensitive issue. I’m not saying give a number. But don’t put it out there that you’re much slimmer than you are. True, you may think that’s why you’re not getting dates. In the case of Smelly McStinky here, that’s certainly not the only reason. But even if it IS the only reason, do you honestly think you’re going to get a second date when you show up and it’s completely obvious that you lied, or at least tried to hide behind an old picture? Even if that person normally wouldn’t care about your weight, lying doesn’t look good, so rather than convincing the other person to give you a chance, more often than not you’re going to convince them NOT to.

Okay, end of rant.

AndrewJuly 20th, 2010 at 10:38 am

I don’t get it either. I mean, the person is obviously going to figure it out when they meet up. I understand that they probably have a hard time getting dates because of their appearance, & I sympathize with that, but come on. I hate liars.

Frau BlucherJuly 20th, 2010 at 12:08 pm

I know, it’s totally bizarre. What do they think..”Oh, once she meets me, she’ll really like the real me.” I think it’s because of those movies where shlubby guys are always married to Nicole Kidman.
He sounds revolting…EW.

WiccabasketJuly 20th, 2010 at 12:41 pm

It amazes me that people (especially women) lie about their weight when there are THOUSANDS of very cute, sexy men who love large women (from the chubby to the SSBBW). Why set yourself up with someone who may very well instantly judge you for being overweight, make you feel disgusting? Why set yourself up with someone nice, and start any relationship on a lie?

Fat is NOT an insult. It’s an adjective. To say to someone ‘I’m fat’, followed with a ‘No really, I’m actually fat, not a size 10 fishing for compliments on her arse’ is just telling the truth, not putting yourself down.

Bad hygiene and behaving like a sex-crazed (probably manky) cock on legs can get fucked though. It’s just rank.

rawrJuly 20th, 2010 at 4:26 pm

What’s up with the lack of hygiene? Did they never learn better? Do they lack a sense of smell? Is there shower/washing machine/whatever not working? I know not bathing can be a sign of various mental illnesses, but surely that’s not the case all the time. Do people ever tell them that they have a rancid odor hanging about them? Would they even believe they stink if they were told? So many questions…

rawrJuly 20th, 2010 at 4:26 pm

Ugh, “their”, not “there”. Jeezy….

NEJoyJuly 20th, 2010 at 7:56 pm

I *heart* you, Wiccabasket.

Oh, and go eff yourself, Laura.

moiJuly 21st, 2010 at 12:33 am

ew lol. my sympathies. i knew a guy who asked me out, and he smelled soooo bad like stale b.o. and urine. i thought my nose was gonna fall off. to be polite, i asked him, what, don’t you have a girlfriend, already? amd he answered,” i used to but i just broke up with this girl, it’s okay, though, because she never took a bath and she stunk.” lmao I nearly broke down laughing at the irony. he just look more puzzled. anyway your tale reminds me of him. dating websites should come with a warning.

ZakJuly 21st, 2010 at 3:25 am

Maybe dating websites should offer a new ‘scratch ‘n’ sniff’ feature for profile pictures…

gewagJuly 21st, 2010 at 7:49 am

Plenty of people have admired my piercings without popping a boner. Just saying.

YGJuly 21st, 2010 at 2:19 pm

I once dated a guy who stank. He claimed he was allergic to soap and deodorant too and didn’t use them. Neither did he wash his clothes or brush his teeth. I kept thinking I’d caught him on a off-day, but it just went on and on. He also ate like a pig and farted non-stop. That one couldn’t end quick enough!

A lack of personal hygiene is a serious problem, no two ways about it. And the fact he stared at your tits the whole time? Yeah, keep moving…

tronnerJuly 21st, 2010 at 5:05 pm

OP – loved the story and liked the way you wrote it.

And, this didn’t really come from the post but was raised in the comments. I still maintain that unless you are willing to date only those who post pictures of themselves in their underwear from every single unflattering angle, don’t cry “liar” when they show up looking different from their single, blurry photo. You don’t have to like it, you don’t have to date them, but the entire online dating game is all about showing the best part of yourself first. Just think of it as beer goggles without the hang over.

That is, unless, they put “Svelte” instead of “Portly” or whatever it is on their body type. Then they are a dirty rotten, stinking, liar.

LisapJuly 23rd, 2010 at 1:14 pm

@ AKM I have to agree. If immediately after you see the person you know it’s not going to work because there were major misrepresentations of age/appearance/size/etc you may as well save both of you the time and leave. Maybe even point out that it isn’t the appearance that’s the problem but that they intentionally hid it, if enough people hear it it’s bound to sink in on someone.

Also, I LOVE that not only did he stink, he made a point of saying his match had to smell nice. I have not ventured into online dating, but I can’t imagine that that is a common requirement.

FeeBeeeJuly 27th, 2010 at 7:48 pm

Okay, I hate to be this person, but…

while he sounds ghastly and you were wise to ditch him, would it have killed you to give him directions to the station?

hahaJuly 29th, 2010 at 1:13 pm

Feebeee, are you serious? This guy gropes her for god knows how long and you’re shaming her for not being an obedient doormat? Christ, some people are married to their misogyny.

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