Very Late Date

I had just got out of a very long relationship and had literally never dated anyone other than my boyfriend. At a cookout, my mom’s friend kept talking to me about it and saying how her son just went through a similar situation and of course, in her mind, we were perfect for one another. With a lot of hesitation, I agreed to go on a blind date. Joe and I spoke on the phone a few times and finally date night had arrived. I had been at the pool all day with my friends and totally wanted to cancel, but knew I couldn’t. He called and was running super late, which annoyed me, but whatever. He lived a good distance away from me, but he was finally in my neighborhood. Our dinner date was about to begin… at 10:30 p.m. Seriously. I offered to just come down and meet him outside (my long-term ex had just moved out and the apt looked pretty pathetic with no furniture) and almost died when I saw his enormous truck. I literally had to climb up into it.

We head into Georgetown in D.C. and I could just tell we were never going find somewhere to park this thing. Sure enough, no luck. We headed back up town after almost an hour of driving around and finally stopped at a random dive bar. Of course their kitchen was already closed. We stayed and had a few drinks and the conversation seemed to be going well. We did have a lot in common, but I was just not attracted to him in the least. He was older and a little too country for me. I was starting to feel the alcohol considering I hadn’t eaten in hours, so we called it a night. I couldn’t take it any longer with how hungry I was so as soon as we got to my apartment I offered to drive to get food. Nothing was open so we went to the drive through of McDonald’s and took the food back to my place.

We sat on the floor eating McDonald’s while watching TV until he said it was late and he had a long drive. I walked him to the door and was not expecting him to try anything considering I gave no signals that I was wanting anything, so we hugged, but he went in for the kiss. I quickly turned my head which resulted in an awkward half kiss on the cheek type of thing and that was it. The next time he called me I had to break the news I’d met somebody else (lie). The worst part was his mom then emailed me too. Never again will I let a mother set me up!!

Comments (22)
AshhhJuly 28th, 2010 at 9:11 am

Ummm… I am just a little confused. I don’t think this date would even qualify as a very worst date. Just because you go out with someone you aren’t attracted to does not make it a bad date.

thatenglishchickJuly 28th, 2010 at 9:20 am

So in summary, you didn’t feel like you could be bothered at first because you wanted to spend more time with your friends, who you probably see regularly. He made the effort to drive the long distance to your place, despite running late (which while irritating is no deal breaker, there could have been a legit excuse), because he really did want to see you. I’d say this is preferable to being cancelled on at the last minute, no?

Despite you KNOWING IN ADVANCE that you’d never find anywhere to park in his enormous truck, you failed to suggest using your own car (even though you decided to get McD’s later on), getting a cab or using public transport to get into Georgetown, or even suggesting somewhere else where you could get something to eat AND have room to park the huge truck.

You moaned about having to get McD’s drivethru even though you guys had been driving around for an hour (and it was really late at that point), because YOU failed let the poor guy know he wouldn’t be able to park anywhere – I bet he was absolutely mortified. Then you moan because he tried to kiss you when you hugged him goodbye, ON A DATE. Now I’m not saying that every date ends in a kiss, but f I don’t wanna kiss a guy at the end of a date, I don’t hug them and give them the impression that I’d enjoy physical contact.

I’d say the poor guy had a lucky escape.

TheRestOfTheStoryJuly 28th, 2010 at 9:45 am

All that driving and you guys never went to a gas station??

sarahJuly 28th, 2010 at 9:55 am

I guess this may be *your* very worst date but I don’t really think it’s that bad. The only thing that would annoy me would be how late it was IF we had set a time for a dinner date. Other than that it really does not sound bad.

MeshellJuly 28th, 2010 at 10:10 am

Wait, a hug means I like other forms of physical contact?? I thought it meant something completely different. :X

I’ve yet to truly moan for McD’s, but I often groan when it is suggested.

MMMichelleJuly 28th, 2010 at 10:59 am

thatenglishchick: it is his truck, do you think he drives it? Would he not already know what a bitch it is to drive that blood guzz, I mean, gass guzzling thing? I hate huge truck guys. Why should I put on my hot cocktail dress and heels? So I can play jungle gym climbing into your car with my ass in the air? Classy!

MMMichelleJuly 28th, 2010 at 11:01 am

I wonder how low peoples standards are? They always say these dates don’t sound bad…Do they only go on bad dates and don’t know a good date is where fun is had by both people? I guess if they don’t try to rape you on your date it’s not so bad and you should smile like the silly girl you are so the big man can feel good. Sheesh…

LGB362July 28th, 2010 at 11:10 am

MMMichelle (Stuttering problem?):

The whole purpose of a date is to see if two people are compatible… It’s not a bad date just because it didn’t work out between two people.

Also, judging people by what car they drive seems kinda shallow… Not everybody can drive a bicycle like you so that they don’t use any blood ( I mean gas). I thought Hippies were more open-minded…

Also, gas only has one “s” not two. Maybe that’s why you are so confused.

NurseDreaJuly 28th, 2010 at 12:13 pm

Wow, congrats on driving a bicycle…that’s a pretty complicated thing to do. I usually have to sit and ride one of those things.

ChelseaJuly 28th, 2010 at 12:31 pm

Poor guy. The country boys are usually pretty nice. You might have missed out…

CJJuly 28th, 2010 at 1:01 pm

Some thoughts on your date:

* You could have rescheduled when he was running super late.

*While it sucks that the kitchens were closed, you had a nice conversation with the guy.

*It’s annoying to have to climb into trucks, but we’re a spoiled crowd that gets dates recommending euthanasia for pets. Big truck? Please. If he had recklessly driven that big truck off-road, and you got concussed when it bounced in a ditch, then I’d feel badly for you.

*The fact that he went for a kiss and you did the head-turn thing is pretty common. My last boyfriend and I did that maneuver on our first date. Sort of awkward, but good on ‘ya.

*You lied to him about meeting someone? This is the son of a friend of your mom’s? Easy lie to figure out. You shouldn’t lie anyways, but… not so smart in this case. You don’t have much (or didn’t at the time), but a simple: ‘Thanks for our date, I enjoyed talking to you, but I’m not interested in pursuing anything.’ Or something.

CJJuly 28th, 2010 at 1:02 pm

*don’t have much DATING EXPERIENCE

Sorry for leaving that out!

Frau BlucherJuly 28th, 2010 at 2:53 pm

she said she had never dated anyone else so she doesn’t have much to go on….this guy sounded ok but it really doesn’t qualify as really BAD.

YvonneJuly 28th, 2010 at 4:45 pm

To me this sounds like a pretty awesome, kinda weird, be great story down the road first date. What it really sounds like is you didn’t want to go on the date anyway so you weren’t being very proactive in trying to make this a good date. You definitely did yourself and him a disservice by not even trying to see if the two of you could have some fun together.

LisaJuly 28th, 2010 at 5:47 pm

You literally had to climb up into his truck? You mean… like literally having to CLIMB A STAIR? It’s startling that you survived to tell the tale.

DuncanJuly 28th, 2010 at 7:47 pm

I don’t see why you had to lie to the guy.

geialgJuly 29th, 2010 at 12:51 am

Yeah, it’s not as bad as some of the dates we’ve read about (great second comment, MMMichelle). Helpful thoughts from CJ. Good luck getting more dating experience, OP. Ooh, did anyone else notice the last part about the guy’s mom following up by email? Ick.

Happy Go LuckyJuly 29th, 2010 at 4:57 am

This post didn’t make me laugh.

AmyJuly 29th, 2010 at 6:24 am

It all sounds mildly annoying except for the part where the mom contacts the OP. UCK. Cut the umbilical cord already!

ijojuJuly 29th, 2010 at 2:17 pm

As blind dates go, this is pretty good.

You both recently just got out of a relationship so neither of you were acting very confident on this date. Just went with the flow and let it carry you where it went.

It’s embarrassing about the mom emailing you and calling your bluff, though.

MeredithAugust 1st, 2010 at 10:58 pm

The part that gets me is the driving into Georgetown at night. Anyone who has ever been there before knows that is a terrible idea even if you drive a Mini Cooper. No sympathy on that score.

sararaAugust 2nd, 2010 at 6:55 am

Something that everybody else seems to have failed to notice is that the OP admits that she drove drunk. The selfish cow deserves a hell of a lot worse than a mildly awkward date.

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