A Work Date

Meh. It’s unfortunate that you got smacked by a tree branch, but why’s it so terrible that he involved you in the creation of the bonfire? Sounds like a fun getting-to-know-you sort of icebreaker.

(Did anyone else eventually show up, or did the two of you just sit admiring a 12′ X 12′ bonfire? This story seems to be missing a paragraph.)

Hardly his fault that you got lost on your way home.

Technically I don’t suppose he promised there would be any other people at the bonfire… Perhaps a bit of sleight-of-hand on his part to get you out alone?

Digging a bonfire hole with a digger machine sounds fun! Maybe I like that idea more than most girls might thought, since I’m a guy?

also thought you were digging your own grave.

Anyway, was it just the hole digging situation that was weird, or was the guy weird throughout the night? I can’t tell by the massive leap in the story from “Is this hole… actually my grave” to “At the end of the night…”

OP sounds like a bit of a high-maintenance girly-girl.

i don’t know, i think i’d tag this ‘my very weird date’. or maybe ‘when you’re in a hole, stop digging’….

@Lisa sounded to me like it was just the two of them, in front of.. a burning tire?

Hey, I like to snark at these stories as much as the next girl, but why do you all keep picking on OPs just because their stories aren’t VERY WORST enough.

Have you all submitted your stories?

Yes, I’ve paid my dues Margaret. I was accused of being an idiot for MVWD (justifiably, it’s true), a “classist” for my MVWRM (I still say “fuck YOU” to EVERY last one of my detractors!), but didn’t suffer catcalls my for my MVWJ. A gentler bunch, the job commentors.

I’ll write my very worst date now! Can’t be anymore confusing than this. Did people show up? Was he awful besides the fact he made you dig a hole? If you’d never met how did you know him?

Sorry, but this sounds like an awful date to me and I’m not a “girly girl” or high maintenance. It could be fun if there was chemistry or this was what they both agreed to doing, but she thought she was attending a group bonfire. Sounds sketchy and not much fun.

This sounds like a bad date to me too. It would be fun getting-to-know-you sort of icebreaker if that was agreed for by both parties in advance. He implied that it will be group outing but it was not. He kind of lied to her. She evidently expected more people to be there. So when you feel cheated I don’t think you could have any fun in knowing that person. I know I wouldn’t!

I too have wondered while in weird situations, “How did I end up here?” I feel you.

At least he wasn’t a creeper. This story could have ended very differently.

Could very easily be someones VWD, it’s not exactly normal, maybe the guy bet his friends he could get a ride on a hoe on their first date? Technically he did

Digging a giant hole in the middle of nowhere with a guy you just met sounds to me like the start of a horror film. I don’t understand the folks that think this sounds like a normal first date, or at least no cause for alarm. Especially with someone you didn’t actually meet until that night. Creepy.

Maybe it was all a fortuitous misunderstanding. He really did intend to kill you and put you in the big ‘ol hole because he said, “Get in the back, ho!” But when you didn’t hear him clearly (and got in the backhoe instead) he decided you might be an okay kind of girl. Hmmm?

Let’s see, you guys first met at a gas station, took some gas to make a fire, threw a tire on it, then rode a backhoe into town. Evolution thanks you for not going on a 2nd date.

I’ve paid my dues too Margaret, thanks for checking.

Lisa if you’re refering to the classist story involving an art project, that was very well written (don’t remember any other that got hounded for being classist)

I’m not trying to pick on the OP, I just want to know what the guy was like. I don’t think a circumstance is as big a deal breaker as someone’s personality. I would be creeped out digging a hole in the country alone with a stranger too but if his personality was good, I’d suggest meeting for lunch in town on our second date. So what happened OP?

Woohoo! Tirefire! Hyuck!
This seriously sounds pretty lame…….why the need to dig a hole for a fire with a backhoe? Was he trying to impress her with his mad backhoe skills? What’s wrong with just piling some wood in a heap and lighting it with matches? Sure, he didn’t whip down his pants and start masturbating at her, but this date still has wrongbad written all over it.

Lisa, which MVWJ & MVWD were you? I definitely remember the art project story (I was on your side).

I have several friends who would think this was a good way to spend an evening, and that recruiting someone to help make a fire pit would be a good gauge of whether they want to go out with them again. But most people I know would invite more people around later!

I always thought diesel was horrible for starting a fire….and a tire? Yuck!

What happened between making the bonfire and you leaving, OP?

I could see being creeped out by being squashed in a one-person backhoe with somebody I hadn’t even properly met yet, especially when you thought there would be other people there.

What kind of low standards do people have to think this is a good idea for a FIRST date with someone you’ve never met before. Unless they lived out in the country and this is all there is to do for fun it’s seriously creepy. Maybe the guy just doesn’t have very good social skills and is a naive country boy? Unless he had a great personality and made me laugh about what a strange thing this was to be doing I would have left when he told me we were going to be digging a hole.

Andrew– Since you asked, my glorious resume: I was the idiot teenage girl who got tricked into spending a night in a hotel (MVWD/ Dec/ “A Continental Affair”) and I was also the limping instant hostess ( MVWJ/ July/ “Instant Hostess”).

It’s been a life of suffering.

Wow. The “Instant Hostess” story is one of my favorites. And I remember the hotel story, too. I think I love your life. I too have had multiple stories posted (& I’m still waiting for more to make the site) so I feel you on your life of suffering.

if faygo had been mentioned anywhere in this story it would make more sense. i’d imagine this is exactly the sort of thing juggalos might do on first dates.

hahaha! in the middle of reading this i thought ‘ this might be the most fucked up story ive ever seen on this website’. not in the dangerous/boring/insulting categories, but just conceptually…i mean i wouldnt actually mind doing this on a 2nd or 3rd date- well, without the diesel or tire – i enjoy nature and i prefer that it not die – but it could be kinda fun doing some manual labor with a payoff. but! a first date? with someone youve never met? thats just wierd. stop dogpiling the ops yall…

Am I the only one who thinks this sounds like one of those silly dates that MTV sets up for their lame dating shows? Parental Control, etc? There usually is some kind of weird activity that only serves to force the couple to spend time together in close proximity (in the backhoe) and make for good TV. (Better if either had to strip down to their swimsuits in the process.) Of course, it always has to be a great set-up bad puns and off-color jokes. (“He just didn’t light my fire.” “I got tired of this date real fast.”)

@lisa – i remember reading “the Atlantic affair” and going “no no no” all through it. That was a scary date, awesome to read and laugh at it now but i remember thinking that if i was your mother reading that even now you would be so grounded that i wouldn’t care if you were 45 and a grandma. No tv for a year!

I didn’t exactly grow up in the sticks, but it is pretty common where I’m at to roast marshmallows etc.., even on a very first date.

But lighting a tire? With oily diesel? That’s relationship material at best

I think this story is missing the “worst date” sort of vibe here. I mean yeah it sounds sort of sucky, but come on.. what really happened to make it BAD? Just wondering

I sort of got the feeling he was using her for cheap labor. Like, if you were invited to some guys’s beach house for the weekend and ended up painting his garage. The guy wanted someone to help get ready for his bonfire party. He probably was running behind, realized he still needed to meet her, then decided to use her for free labor. For all she knows, he had forty people come over after he dropped her off to enjoy the fruits of his labor.

How did this story get such a high rating? It doesn’t make any sense. How did you know him if you didn’t know him? gravel roads? backhoe? and then suddenly the date is over. I was so confused. I think the author needs to add a lot more detail.