Grill Girl

my very worst date

MVWD happened when I was a sophomore in college. I tagged along with a friend to a party, where I met R. He was really cute, and the conversation flowed really well. At the end of the night, I gave him my number.

We started texting each other, and one day he told me he had purchased a grill and invited me to come over for a steak dinner. I was really excited for our first date and spent all afternoon getting ready. Right before we were supposed to meet, R called me and told me he wasn’t ready for me to come over because he was still putting together his new grill, but he’d call me when he was done. An hour and a half later, he finally called me back to say that he still wasn’t done with the grill but I could come over anyway. I had waited this long, and I really liked him, so I agreed and walked over to his apartment.

When I got there, I was surprised to find that he had a friend over. The two of them were sitting in the living room surrounded by grill parts. I was extremely hungry–it was 9:30 p.m. by this point–and R offered to heat up some leftover Chinese food in his fridge for the three of us to tide us over until the steaks could be made. I sat there awkwardly on his couch eating take out while watching the two of them fail at putting together the grill. Finally, I got fed up with them and took the directions from R, and I proceeded to tell the two boys what to do until the grill was successfully set up. By this point, it was around midnight, and R realized that he hadn’t bought any propane. So, the three of us piled into his car and went on a fruitless search to find propane at 12 a.m. Once that plan failed, we ended up going to a late night sushi restaurant, and I finally got my dinner at 1 a.m.

After that bizarre adventure, we went back to R’s place. His friend left, so the two of us finally got some alone time. We had a glass of wine and talked, which was the only nice part of the night. He dropped me off at home and promised me he’d make me a steak dinner later that week, but after all that trouble of putting together his grill I never got my steak.

Comments (28)
that guyAugust 16th, 2010 at 5:56 am

If that’s your worst date, you’re one lucky girl.

RayAugust 16th, 2010 at 6:14 am

Seriously, this actually sounds like a fun date to me. Going on a spontaneous adventure, eating a late night dinner with a hot guy. Sounds like someone has a case of the up-tights.

TedAugust 16th, 2010 at 6:50 am

Fail

ShannonAugust 16th, 2010 at 6:55 am

Lame.

Urban SpliffAugust 16th, 2010 at 7:28 am

I always thought girls eat a little something before they go on a date. This serves two purposes: one, she is not stuffing her face during the meal and two, it is good insurance in case the idiot doesn’t feed her on time. Being simply bored is a rotten experience, but being bored AND starving is a circle in hell itself.

Moral of the story: have a little snack before the date

YGAugust 16th, 2010 at 8:00 am

Actually, this time I feel for the OP! She kinda got the run around and seemed pretty forgiving, considering what she’d been promised (a steak dinner, portents of a romantic evening, etc.).

And if you’re going to put together a new grill the same day you’re going to use it, that’s just asking for trouble, in case something goes wrong or there’s a part missing or in his case, he’s just a dimwit and can’t figure it out AND forgets the propane.

Ugh, sushi at 1 am? Urk.

AristoAugust 16th, 2010 at 9:09 am

@ Urban Spliff

Since we’re not in the age of corsets and crinoline anymore, I don’t think women should be expected to take a few dainty ladylike nibbles of her dinner (a salad, of course) and call it a night. If you’re promised a steak, that’s all the more reason not to snack before the date, since you’re supposed to be getting a goddamned steak later and all. Even though a woman finishing her entire meal is clearly stuffing her face, the lardy cow. Scandal!

gregAugust 16th, 2010 at 9:41 am

I am so glad she didn’t say “we went back to his place, had some wine and chatted, then he kissed me and the next morning after really lousy sex he made me walk home and never called me again” that’s generally how these go. By the way, did his prosthetic arm ever arrive?

ThandiAugust 16th, 2010 at 9:44 am

I agree with YG. This is a BAD date!

The poor girl was expecting a nice steak dinner with a guy she fancied, and ended up sitting awkwardly with two idiots that couldn’t read a manual to assemble a grill. Why was his friend tagging along? He should have left 30 mins before the OP came- first dates are awkward enough without having to meet friends/family unaware. Why couldn’t the guy take her out for steak instead of sitting there and still struggling at 21h30? And this went on until the early hours of the morning? What if she was tired or had things to do early the next day and they still hadn’t gotten around to the date?

bad date. bad, bad, bad.

LiAugust 16th, 2010 at 10:19 am

So the date needs to involve someone who is crazypants in order to qualify as a VWD? This date was pretty craptastic and the guyd showed a lack of common sense. Was it breakup worthy, maybe not, but it was still lousy.

oiAugust 16th, 2010 at 10:48 am

What are you talking about OP? this is practically the best date one could get. Given the truth that men are wild beasts you should be happy that you did not get eaten alive. I hate when people think men are too humans and are expected to follow through what they say. Get real OP or you would not survive. ;)

satAugust 16th, 2010 at 12:08 pm

I love how all the guys think this wasn’t a bad date.

LoAugust 16th, 2010 at 1:19 pm

I’m sorry, if I’m promised a steak, I want some damned steak. What’s wrong with stuffing my face? This was a bait and switch. He told her he was cooking for her, instead it was a weird group thing that involved her having to take over putting the thing together and then going out for sushi at ungodly hours. He should have explained on the phone, offered his apologizes, and then asked if she would come tomorrow instead.

tronnerAugust 16th, 2010 at 1:44 pm

Poor guy….probably thought he’d put together that grill, likety split, and then sear some dead animal for his new lady friend. Too bad he didn’t seem like he had much of a clue about anything. In fact, I wonder if he knows PitStopPornSlam from Friday.

Bad date – good story.

tronnerAugust 16th, 2010 at 1:47 pm

What is it with the Tall Chicks Who Like to Be Wined and Dined with Steak stories lately. My god – all these dudes making bad dates with just the right kind of girl.

zomboidAugust 16th, 2010 at 2:25 pm

i thought the whole thing sounded quite sweet really..
does the last line mean you never got your steak that night, or that he never invited you back?

AndrewAugust 16th, 2010 at 2:44 pm

I think it’s a bad date, but only because the guy didn’t plan well enough. Overall it sounds like fun.

LisaAugust 16th, 2010 at 5:05 pm

How hard can it be to put together a grill? Does he have a subnormal IQ? That, combined with his failure to purchase propane in advance, makes him seem like a dolt. You’re better off without him, OP.

Urban Spliff– your comment is odd. Why’s it in a girl’s interest to appear to have little appetite when dining with a guy? I acknowledge that lots of women feign birdlike appetites in the presence of men, but I find it puzzling. I don’t think I’d be favorably impressed, were I a guy.

As I’ve never employed this questionable tactic, I’ve had men– who were paying for dinner– comment that they greatly APPRECIATE the fact that I was actually eating the expensive meal I’d ordered. Must be maddening to pay for a $200 meal, then have your date barely eat.

(Women– picking at your food’s NOT sexy! It probably only gives the impression that you’re sickly & kinda frigid. Refusing to eat in public DOESN’T make you any thinner than you actually are– it’s a scientific fact.)

MariaAugust 16th, 2010 at 5:18 pm

I think it is a bad date, but I feel bad for the guy. I’m not saying the OP did anything wrong, but that guy sounds normal. At least he called to tell her the problem and then had her come over anyway. Also I bet the friend was just there to help with the grill, but unfortunately hung around for the whole thing. Sometimes when in the midst of a mistake it is embarrassing to deal with it. I mean the guy must have noticed he was looking dumb. It’s kind of hard to say “hey I wasted all this time, so I’m just gonna stop now and pull plan b out of my butt, oh by the way Friend you can go home now”. The guy might have just burried his head and tried to follow through. Buuut it is really crappy to be hungry and bored at someone’s house doing nothing while they have their attention on something else.

It’s kind of a boring story though. There could have been a few quick fixes to the situation.

zomboidAugust 16th, 2010 at 5:45 pm

@ Lisa eddie murphy would agree with you

“i hate those quiet, salad-eatin’ bitches”

http://www.entertonement.com/clips/szqlcsmccp–Salad-Eating-BitchesEddie-Murphy-Raw-Eddie-Murphy-

AlexAugust 16th, 2010 at 7:02 pm

While I agree that my date is not one of the worst dates I’ve ever heard of, I feel sorry for any girl who goes on a date with a guy who thinks this sounds like a completely respectable date. What I didn’t share at the end is that he didn’t call me back for a while, and when he did I brought up the steak he owed me and he said he had already eaten steak with his roommates that week and just didn’t invite me. Unfortunately I thought he was cute and kept him around but he ended up being a super jerk who led me on and then one day just stopped talking to me. This date should have been a sign of how big of a flake he was. Lesson learned.

And I also see nothing wrong with eating during a date. If my date thinks I’m being a fat cow by eating my dinner, I don’t want to date him anyway.

MariaAugust 16th, 2010 at 7:11 pm

Aw I’m sorry that does suck. Yeah I don’t feel bad for him so much now.

LaurenAugust 16th, 2010 at 8:10 pm

She had to help assemble the grill her steak dinner was supposed to be cooked on. To me, this is a fail and I am a vegetarian.

zomboidAugust 16th, 2010 at 11:41 pm

at least he didn’t take her out on a back-hoe to hunt down a cow….

Urban SpliffAugust 18th, 2010 at 6:05 am

People – this is not rocket science. Shit happens (and sometimes it’s not even the guy’s fault) that keeps you from eating on time. Then, tiny annoyances become BIG annoyances. If the girl had something in her stomach, she wouldn’t have been nearly as pissed off watching this idiot try to put together a grill. And if she were more calm, the idiot would’ve been more calm, and maybe the grill would’ve been built that much quicker (though not having a tank was inexcusable).

To reiterate – hunger is what made this date a nightmare. Without hunger, it might have passed as something “cute”.

And if women these days are comfortable stuffing the faces during a first date, please feel free. I guess it’s a matter of context. I went out on a long hike with a girl, and it totally turned me on that she not only kept up the pace during the hike, she downed her burger just as quickly as I did afterwards (we were both starving).

DirkAugust 18th, 2010 at 8:36 am

If you’re starving, GO HOME. Problem solved.

JayAugust 18th, 2010 at 10:31 am

“I brought up the steak he owed me and he said he had already eaten steak with his roommates that week and just didn’t invite me”

That’s worth an extra star.. should’ve been in the story!

Sounds like an accidental bad date.. the guy was trying.. and hopefully you at least ate SOMETHING, since it was already late and you knew he wasn’t done with the grill yet..

SamSeptember 1st, 2010 at 8:48 am

I’ve dated this guy.

He wants you to show him how strong you are. In his little boy head, ignoring you is showing you he’s strong. If you’d left because you were bored, he’d follow you like a puppy.

Yuck.

You need someone more mature. Bad Date is right. I’d say no stars for him. Zilch. He needs a mommy, not a partner.

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