The Meat Head

You said you were vegetarian and he still insisted on going to the steakhouse? Ouch.

Yeah that would be a warning flag right off.

Damn, what a wasted night You sound like a positive and optimistic person though, I’m sure you’ll find someone serious soon!

Good for you for sticking it out, not doing anything mean or nasty, not making any stupid decisions, and not trashing him to your friend. Other people should look to you as a model for how to act on a bad date.

she probably figured, the guy has a hard time finding dates, and he is her cousin…she probably didn’t know what a jerk he is on dates though.

Wow, what a bad date! He ate beef and *gasp* smoked!
Seriously, come on, he wasn’t your type, fine. But the worst date?

Doesn’t hose just anyone!!!

Maybe he’s one of those people whose senses of humor are set on backwards at all times.

That’s really not a TERRIBLE date. Just bad.

Milliardar, there are some restaurants that serve meat but are veggie-friendly. Steakhouses are not on that list. The list of veggie fare is usually limited to side-dishes and iceberg lettuce salads from which one has to ask the servers to hold the bacon. Anyone who would take a vegetarian to a steakhouse on a first date while knowing that the person is a vegetarian is a clod. Period.

^ Well said.

What makes this from bad to worse?

Insistence on meat date, even after hearing she was a veggie
Insistence on smoking in the restaurant, again, further evidence of his self-centered behavior. And, why spend money on the “best prime rib steak in town” if it’s just going to taste like ash?

Pepper those lovely entrees with narcissistic rantings and thinly veiled come-ons, and you have a great story.

That’s a really bad date. Not TERRIBLE by any standards, but certainly bad. The fact that he insisted on going to a steakhouse and the like is just…rude and inconsiderate. On the other hand, if that’s the absolute worse one you’ve ever had, you should pat yourself on the back. You’ve certainly had better luck than a lot of people out there.

If the worst thing about the date was his choice in restaurant, it wasn’t that bad. Maybe he forgot she was vegetarian, and if she didn’t object how did he know? He didn’t ask what she wanted to drink? I don’t get that, was he suppose to order for her? And really the hosed comment is just weird.

Taking a vegetarian to a steak house on a first date is laughable.
What’s up with the gratuitous compliment of the friend’s hubby?

“And, you know, I don’t hose just anyone.”

I’m confused. Or… is “hose” a euphemism for (casual) sex?

Erkable, just a guess, but maybe by mentioning that P’s husband was cute the OP is trying to tell us that she thought P had better taste in men than the one she was set up with (although she never mentions Barry’s looks–I’m wondering if he’d been a double bagger if she would have left even earlier haha).

I would have taken his meat and bopped hi on the head. and left him with the bill…dripping. And as a final insult say “you’ve been quite hosed, haven’t you” with a lovely smirk.

Man person was quite rude, stranger that friend set her up with a big Jerk. …

I am curious as to why you felt the need to say your friend’s husband is cute.

Does anyone else want to sponsor Karen’s dating life, or is that just me? Please, Karen, if you’re single, sign up for a free dating site, and accept every date you’re asked on. I want to read a story that ends with you assaulting a man with a steak. Or mace. Or something.

The reason OP mentioned that her friend’s husband was cute is to illustrate the contrast between the guy Paula was with and the guy she was stuck with.

I tell you what – nothing says ‘failure’ to this date than his actions.
For starters, she mentioned she was a vegetarian and he INSISTED in going to the Cattle Company. It’s like her words went in one ear and out the other. Personally, I would have considered changing venues over and gone to a different place that had vegetarian selections. Consulting to help both parties agree … does work!

Secondly, his body language. You can smell ‘douchebag’ by the way some people sit, but of course don’t judge based off that. Give the benefit of the doubt even though the body language pretty much speaks for itself.

“I don’t hose just anyone”. Well, let’s switch genders over for a sec. If an attractive female said “I don’t screw just anyone”, that would probably turn me off too, with a sarcastic “Good to know that!” remark.

“Excuse me, Barry’s penis. Where did Barry go?”

I second CJ.

If steakhouses and smokers are a dealbreaker for her, the submitter should have told Paula. Yeah, if the guy KNEW she was a vegetarian, he shouldn’t have insisted on a steakhouse for the date, but the submitter also could have spelled out why a steakhouse was such a poor choice. As for the smoking, I am a smoker & I understand that turns lots of people off, but in all the times someone has wanted to set me up with a friend, I’ve never once said, “Oh, well, does he date smokers?” (Even though you can’t smoke indoors where I live anyway). I think if you don’t want to date a smoker, the onus is on you to tell that to friend’s setting you up or asking your date before you agree to go out; you don’t see them smoking where & when they are allowed to & decide it’s the wrong thing to do on a date.

@Jeff, Barry was the friend’s COUSIN – exactly how cute is someone supposed to think their cousin is? All my guy cousins are “not disgusting” & decent guys, I guess, but I would never be able to judge their looks & personality in an objective way. I doubt Barry tells everybody that he doesn’t hose just anybody at Xmas dinner.

Winter – What is rude is requiring your date to sit next to you while you smoke. As a nonsmoker that grew up in a smoker’s house, I was often unable to get away from the smoke. However, my considerate friends who smoked would always ask me if I minded smoke before lighting up. There are considerate smokers and there are inconsiderate douchebags. I am sure you aren’t a jerk and require your dates to sit with you while you smoke, rather you ask if they have a problem with it. No need to defend your smoking habit. You aren’t a bad person for being a smoker. You are just bad when you are inconsiderate.

Also, my cousins are very attractive, intelligent people, though one tends to be a bit dense. I wouldn’t recommend any of my friends to date them since they are married or too dense for my girlfriends.

When she says she “absolutely laughed all the way home” what she really means is she sobbed to due crushing loneliness and the obvious lack of prospects ahead… at least, thats what I read.

winter – You’re not making any sense. It was the OP who opined about Paula’s husband being cute. Neither Barry or Paula’s husband was the OP’s cousin. And anyway, most of us are perfectly capable of assessing people’s looks objectively, that doesn’t mean we are attracted to them if they’re family members or the gender we’re not oriented toward.

It rubs the lotion on its back, or else it gets the hose.

You know you wanted the hose.