Accidentally Awful

So I met this guy and we got along okay, so I agreed to a date…and from start to finish it was absolutely horrible.

We started off shooting some pool for a while, and then his twin brother and his girlfriend joined us. The entire time his brother’s girlfriend kept staring at me, giving me dirty looks. If his brother spoke to me, she would interupt and kill the conversation. She wouldnt stop glaring at me, so I eventually get fed up with it and let my date know that I was leaving. He offered me a ride back home.

We got in the car, and we were on the back roads. He was going a bit fast and missed the turn; he took the next turn and next thing I knew there was a huge gated-off fence with military base signs all over it. My date swerved to avoid crashing through the military base gates, but we wound up crashing through a big electrical box that was on the ground near the edge of the road.

My door was smashed from a tree that was next to the box so I couldnt open it to get out. My leg hurt badly – I couldn’t move or get out the car. My date freaked out and left. Left me ALONE in his car that was ON TOP of  live electricity, next to a military base with No Trespassing signs everywhere. I kept having images in my head of these military guys with their M-16s running up to the car ready to shoot. Luckily, that never happened.

A couple hours later this car pulled up – it was a group of guys who took a wrong turn. I started yelling, so they ran up to the car and pulled me out through the driver’s side. They took me back to the pool hall and called an ambulance. I ended up going to the hospital and explaining to them what happened, etc. After a while a nurse came in and told me that my “date” was out in the waiting room. She asked me if I wanted him escorted out the hospital. I told her no, as I wanted an explaination from him.

So I get discharged and he came up to me, saying how he went back to the car but I was gone and how he went to get help (yeah right). So I told him I just wanted to go home. I had no family in the area and it was very late, so buses weren’t running. So his brother gave us a ride. I thought I was going home; however, to my surprise we pulled up at an all-night diner. I told my date and his brother that I wanted to go home, IMMEDIATELY.

When we finally got back to my place, I said goodbye, then hobbled out of the car and up the stairs to my apartment. When I got to the door, I realized that my date was right there behind me. He was behind me the entire time! He went on to say that, despite what happened, he had a good time. Then he tried to kiss me! I avoided the kiss, got inside the apartment, and quickly closed and locked the door.

He emailed a few times, I ignored them, and he quickly got the hint.

Comments (27)
JackyMFebruary 28th, 2012 at 4:28 am

Why weren’t the police called?

But yeah, I can respect when dates try to gloss over things that aren’t going perfectly, but acting like leaving you trapped in a car for hours is a-okay is more than a little odd… Did he say where he was going when he left you? Did they mention they were stopping at a diner?

belieFebruary 28th, 2012 at 4:29 am

that definitely was a bad date. i had a similar exp where this friend’s gf wouldn’t stop scowling at me, waaay creepy. as for ur date, he probably got excited by nearly dying! twisted! 5 stars

Some guyFebruary 28th, 2012 at 4:42 am

This is a really terrible date if real, but it seems either fake or heavily embellished.

I mean, your date left you in a car wreck and you hooked up with him again later after a quick trip to hospital and asked him to take you home?!
If this is true, it makes the stories about girls who still get taken home after he is rude or boring look quite normal. Are taxis and public transport so bad in your country that you will get in his car with him to get home no matter what??

OPFebruary 28th, 2012 at 5:37 am

Im the original poster,
SOME GUY- I didnt hook up with him later. When he went back to the car ,obiviously I wasnt there , but cops already were as well as a towtruck,they told him I was at the hospital,and thats where he went to find me. I was 18 at the time and didnt think about taxis or whatnot,as this was in the country part of america with hardly any 24/7 anything. And as I said,his brother drove us,not him. I had no problem with his brother. Learn to read properly.

LizFebruary 28th, 2012 at 6:29 am

OP, Thanks for the clarification – if you had included it the first time then the story would have made a lot more sense. Personally, I still don’t understand why you let them take you home, but as you say, you had no family in the area (away from home at college?? friends did not have cars??, again, a little more info would be helpful).

Anyway, it does sound like a rotten date and the guy was an idiot.

NattieFebruary 28th, 2012 at 7:14 am

That’s absolutely horrible.

OP, you’re a far better person than I am, I probably would have tried to have him charged with fleeing the scene of an accident.

Normally I think it’s ridiculous when people don’t have an alternate means of getting home, particularly on the first date, but I can’t really blame OP for this one. She may have been planning on taking the bus home if the date went sour, but after being trapped in a car + hospitalized that was no longer an option. Cab would have been smarter, but it might have cost a bit more than an 18-year-old could easily afford, not to mention she was probably shook up from the car crash and just wanted to get home.

etterbeekFebruary 28th, 2012 at 7:29 am

“Learn to read properly” …..ah, way to go with some attitude here, OP.
I agree with some guy here, doesn’t matter who drove, I wouldn’t have wanted to be in the same car as your date after an accident like this. And if public transport is that complicated in that area why on earth did you not use your own car?

PsycheFebruary 28th, 2012 at 7:54 am

I can’t believe this guy actually thought he was getting a second date after he pretty much caused an accident then left his date in the wrecked car for two hours. The obliviousness of men always astounds me

KiranFebruary 28th, 2012 at 8:32 am

Are people serious with this?

1. Not everyone owns a car
2. In most parts of America taxis are not an option except at the airport
3. When forced to choose between getting a ride with a jerk and sleeping on the street, most people would grudgingly go with the jerk

Oh dear me! 3 shocking revelations!

blondieFebruary 28th, 2012 at 9:36 am

Thanks, Kirian- I thought I was losing my mind. I’m usually all about OP bashing, but I see nothing wrong with this OP’s behavior. Maybe her “alternative plan to get home” was good old-fashioned walking, but she didn’t anticipate being abandoned with a broken leg for several hours in the middle of the night and being taken away to a hospital. Maybe she can’t call a friend because she didn’t have a phone because it went flying during the accident (that happened to me in my accident).

OP, I’m curious about what, if anything, your date said at the time that he left the scene. What a dickwad.

RavenFebruary 28th, 2012 at 10:32 am

This date was definitely messed up. I hope OP’s date got in trouble for leaving the scene…

CarolynFebruary 28th, 2012 at 10:35 am

@Blondie & Kiran
1. She was at a hospital. Some one there could have let her use one of the hospital phones to call a taxi/shuttle and a phonebook/internet to look up the number if they didn’t have it on hand.
2. She should have filed charges against this guy. He should not have been walking around freely after all the damaged he caused, both to her and the electrical box.

It sets a very bad precedent if you both believe she should have gotten back in the car because she didn’t have any other options. There are ALWAYS other options, even if it meant sleeping in the waiting room until the buses were running again or asking a nurse for a ride after their shift ended. I imagine in hindsight she wouldn’t have gotten a ride home from them again, but getting back into a car with someone you barely know who has hurt you and abandoned you is never the right option.

TrinaFebruary 28th, 2012 at 11:01 am

This was horrible! I can’t believe you were left in the car like that for HOURS. Wtf

OPFebruary 28th, 2012 at 11:30 am

Op here again. This was almost 13 years ago, so cell phones werent really as big as they are now. So couldnt exactly phone anyone,especially since my family was in another state. I did actually ask him where the hell he went. He claimed he went back to the pool hall to call for help. But when i let him know the ambulance picked me up from the pool hall, he started stuttering and couldnt put two words together. So who knows where he went. I wouldve sued him if i had known i could, but as i was only 18, i didnt have too much real world expierance, like most people that age.

SallyWord!February 28th, 2012 at 12:18 pm

OP, that was a horrible evening with three horrible people. Not your fault!!

MaureenFebruary 28th, 2012 at 12:39 pm

That was one horrific experience. Awful. I cannot imagine being abandoned in a wrecked car.

chrisaFebruary 28th, 2012 at 12:52 pm

O/P,
nevermind the naysayers, they are always riding the cotton pony it seems. it truly was a nasty date and i wish you knew at the time about legal action. that’s why they say “hindsight is 20/20″ or “if only i knew then, what i know now”
the guy was a jerk. i don’t know why people forget what it is like to be a teen/young adult. they all think they behaved so rationally and with maturity, NOT!

i was an idiot in my youth and i am not afraid to say i was. in fact i have done some idiot things in my adult life too, so what..live and learn. sometimes you need to repeat a grade to finally get it and then pass with honours.

NattieFebruary 28th, 2012 at 1:07 pm

The police should have charged him, really.

maoFebruary 28th, 2012 at 2:32 pm

Second Nattie, blondie, and Kiran.

Sorry this happened OP. I hope your leg recovered fully.

BackwoodsFebruary 28th, 2012 at 3:21 pm

I blame the cops for their negligence nearly as much as I blame the OP’s date for his. If this had happened in an urban area, the cops would’ve arrested the driver for sure. It’s not so much his having an accident. It’s not even so much his leaving the scene of the accident. It’s his abandoning an injured person to her fate that should’ve gotten him charged In.A.Heartbeat.

But cops in rural areas, who deal routinely with young people in their communities drinking and joyriding ’cause there’s not much else to do, often take a more relaxed “kids being kids” attitude as long as no one has been seriously hurt or killed.

OP, I’m glad you ended up okay. I hope that, at the very least, your date or his insurance company paid your medical bills.

jamesFebruary 28th, 2012 at 4:04 pm

a) erm actgually you are kind of irritating
and b ) fake

IamyourworstdateFebruary 28th, 2012 at 9:52 pm

@some guy. I live in Atlanta and yes, taxis and public transit are so bad that I could see her resorting to this.

SofiaFebruary 28th, 2012 at 9:59 pm

What some people commenting don’t seem to realize is that once something traumatizing happens to you, you’re not exactly thinking straight. Of COURSE she went home with the guy because he was a way to get home. I’ve been in accidents. I know what shock does to you. You guys must have lived pretty sunshine lives.

As for you, OP, this was a terrible date. I am glad you are okay now and that your leg healed all right.

TulipFebruary 29th, 2012 at 3:36 pm

Damn, OP, you’re 31 and you still don’t know how to use spell check or apostrophes? Did you hit your head in this accident?
The date sounds awful, but your writing skills are worse. I’m going to paraphrase you here: “learn to write properly.”

Call 911March 1st, 2012 at 12:13 am

Backwoods: I dunno, I’m from a rural area and the local Sheriff Deputy that patrolled the area was not a well-liked guy by the local youths because he would get you for anything and everything, especially speeding on the main drag into the school in the morning and afternoon. He was quite the opposite of your description.

OP: I’m with those telling you to ignore the sh*t talkers. As I said, I’m from a rural area and if something like this happened to me and I was stuck at a hospital and needed to get home, a taxi wouldn’t really be an option because 1) they only cover the urban areas and don’t really go outside of town and 2) who knows whether you could afford it or not??

Also, was no one reading the part where she said that the date wasn’t driving, he was just a passenger in his brother’s car and she didn’t have a problem with the brother? If this were me, I would be pissed about having to be anywhere near the douche who left me in a car after an accident, but if I didn’t have any other options, I wouldn’t be opposed to riding in his BROTHER’S car with the BROTHER as the driver.

And Tulip: I’m a self-proclaimed grammar and spelling Nazi myself, and you just look like a person scratching the bottom of the barrel for something to criticize the OP about.

blondieMarch 1st, 2012 at 9:25 am

I assume Tulip is kidding, but just in case…
…I detected exactly one missing apostrophe, which I assume was a typo since that same word was used correctly in the next line.
…I detected exactly one spelling mistake, which I also took to be a typo, but which is also legit slang according to Urbandictionary.com (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=explaination)
So well done, OP.

GingergirlMarch 4th, 2012 at 10:24 pm

@ blondie, I agree, but review her writing in the comments. Embarrassing. A little ironic for her to say, in quite the attitude, “learn to read properly” when her writing is so appalling. (And while some people don’t keep to stylistic rules online, it’s a pots-and-kettles thing.)

Leave a comment
Your comment