Working Together But Not Working Together

Wow. Bullet well and truly dodged OP. Well done for standing up for yourself as well.

Haha, I love the stories where people think that whining is an effective way to procure sex from someone who’s just said ‘no’. Seriously though, does that actually ever work?

JackyM: My mother and I call it the Nine Out of Ten theory. The idea behind it is this: if nine people say no to something, chances are that the tenth person will say yes either because they’re weak-willed or you whine long enough. I still don’t get, though, why this guy thought whining about how he hasn’t gotten laid in a year was going to sweeten the deal.

Yeah, also don’t see how throwing a fit (and mentioning your lack of sex life) gets you laid.

Also, my rule: the person who does the ordering does the paying, unless agreed upon otherwise.

Cheap bastard!

Oooh – this reminds me of a guy who told me he was “lonely and desperate for company” after having not seen me for 3 days. We had only been on one date prior. I politely agreed when he told me “this isn’t going to work! i really need to be around someone right now!”

The men that think that emulating a baby will lead to sex baffle me.

Hmm…acing like a baby seemed to be this guy’s default…Mom did make lunch for his 2nd date, after all…glad you were able to walk away from this gracefully, OP.

What kind of guitar did he play?

The guy asking OP for sex cos he hadnt been laid in ages reminds me of someone who asked me to be their partner because they’d been single for years. Not because they liked me or felt a spark, mind you.

It’s just desperation (further evidenced by any whining) whereby you’re nothing more than a void filler. So I echo the first comment: bullet well and truly dodged!

@Review: Type “Crambone” or “Pecos Pest” in the search field at Google and watch the clip that will come up. That’s my bet on what his guitar skills were like.

Oh no! I now have this priceless image of the talented guitar player begging his Mom to provide him with a picnic lunch because he hadn’t had sex in sooo long. That probably didn’t happen either, though!

Getting your mom to make the picnic lunch for your second date? Acceptable. Letting your date know that’s what you did? Noooooo.

I have a very strong feeling there’s another side to this one that we’re not hearing.

OP’s answer to the weekend trip invitation was a trap. As she admits, generally such an invitation assumes at least the possibility of some level of physical intimacy. Instead of doing the normal thing and politely declining, OP put him in a situation where he either has to agree in advance to a strictly platonic situation with someone he thought was interested in him, or cancel the whole thing and now he’s the one who looks like a jerk. Of course, in this particular case he did in fact behave like a jerk anyway. But it basically sounds like OP manipulated him into being the bad guy so she didn’t have to feel bad for rejecting him.

I think the whining for sex thing comes from the false sense of accomplishment that society seems to be instilling in the younger generations, for example, a graduation ceremony for graduating the 1st grade.

Maybe mom will give him a trophy for being the best dater ever!

That pizza looks amazing.

LOL @Jeff! She did the right thing by telling him that she wasn’t keen for sex at that point so there wouldn’t be any awkward moments and to make sure he wasn’t paying for it to get laid (which he obviously was) and she’s manipulating him to be the bad guy?

ok then