Spiritual Psycho

I think I should preface the story by telling you a little bit about myself. To start off, I have to admit that I’m not the friendliest person on the planet. I wouldn’t say I’m unfriendly. I’m a nice person, just not very warm and…well, friendly.

I was in college. I was walking home from campus when I heard a guy behind me compliment me on the blue streaks in my hair. My old self would have just turned around and given a quick and unaffected thanks, but my new self decided in that moment to be little more sincere and receptive in my response. After all, you can’t make friends being an ice queen, right? We struck up a conversation (about what I can’t remember), and he walked with me to my apartment. I left him at the gate, but before he left, he asked for my number, which I gave to him.

45 minutes later, I got a call from him. He admitted that he was checking to see if the number I gave him was legit. I can’t remember if we talked then or another time – all I remember is him asking me in a phone conversation if I was a spiritual person. When I asked what he meant by “spiritual,” he asked me if I believed in spirits. That’s all I remember because it was the only statement he made that made an impression on me.

That was basically the beginning and end of things. We never talked again. He never called. Or maybe I just never answered. I never bumped into him again. That was it.

Fast forward several months. I’m renting a room in a house. One afternoon, I’m reading the school newspaper, and there’s an article on the front page about the campus rapist who was caught. He broke into an apartment and assaulted a woman with a foreign object. Next to the article was guess who’s picture. Sure am glad I didn’t let him walk me to my apartment door!

Comments (24)
?July 10th, 2012 at 4:47 am

Wow, that’s just….scary

It’s things like that that make you fear talking to anyone while walking home. It’s just a shame that for every 100 sociable people there is always one psycho. I do really feel for the poor woman and hope she is OK.

I know it wasn’t a date, but in this instance I think your aloof nature served you well and I’m so pleased nothing evolved between you and this guy. In hindsight, who knows what could have happened. I hope he got banged up for a very very long time.

NattieJuly 10th, 2012 at 6:14 am

Definitely good you didn’t let him walk you to your campus door.

PuzzledJuly 10th, 2012 at 6:14 am

Did I miss the part where there was a trial and he was found guilty? Otherwise, why didn’t you include the “allegedly” here?

ChelsJuly 10th, 2012 at 6:34 am

Eeek, not a date. But glad you’re safe.

JJuly 10th, 2012 at 6:38 am

Puzzled, you’re guilty until proven innocent in the court of public opinion. Fact of life.

SallyWordSlingerJuly 10th, 2012 at 6:56 am

Really, Puzzled? I don’t see why the poster should have included the word “allegedly.” She didn’t post the guy’s name or picture here; she didn’t accuse him of anything. She saw the guy in the newspaper and was understandably troubled. Whether or not he is guilty isn’t the point of the story.

And fair or not, who wouldn’t see someone they know being connected to a crime in the newspaper, and not help but think, “Oh shit” ? Yes it sucks for those who turn out to be innocent but aren’t we getting a little PC here if she can’t say a guy was fingered as a campus rapist and she found it a little unnerving?

JayJuly 10th, 2012 at 7:18 am

Talked to a guy who later was accused of a serious criminal act.

I wouldn’t say it’s a bad story. Just not very… well, good.

(does it even matter whether you were a friendly person or not? This whole thing required 2 sentences, or 3 if you insist on keeping in the part where he asks if you believe in spirits)

zomboidJuly 10th, 2012 at 7:42 am

why do you assume there was no conviction, puzzled?

Drinky the Drunk GirlJuly 10th, 2012 at 8:27 am

Allegedly was not used because this is not the news, duh.

AudaxJuly 10th, 2012 at 9:00 am

“He never called. Or maybe I just never answered. ”

That’s…confusing. But good, I guess.

smittymoJuly 10th, 2012 at 9:23 am

I might consider myself a male version of the OP here in terms of personality type based on her self description. This brings to light what I have found to be a sad truth… if you are one who is normally a bit closed or not really outgoing/personable and you decide to try to break out of this cycle, something crazy like this inevitably happens, which tends to affirm your suspicions and close you back up even more than you were before. That same cycle happens to me, I wonder if the OP feels the same way?

Queen of NothingJuly 10th, 2012 at 9:29 am

Definitely somewhat scary, but where is the date in the story?
Also, it’s “whose picture”, I strongly doubt this guy suddenly turned into a picture. Dorian Gray much?

DeeJuly 10th, 2012 at 10:06 am

Maybe this story never even happened. I don’t know, I can’t remember.

RattusJuly 10th, 2012 at 2:42 pm

@Queen of Nothing, the OP used the phrase “guess who” in place of a name. Had she used a name, the sentence would have read “Next to the article was Bob’s picture”. In that context, “guess who’s” is actually correct.

maryJuly 10th, 2012 at 4:48 pm

How many times am I going to have to say this on here in the future, not a date. My very worst DATE. Not My very worst STORY.

reviewJuly 10th, 2012 at 9:13 pm

You finally figured out spiritual persons = rapists? Pssh, put down the Manic Panic and live life a little, lady.

CatJuly 11th, 2012 at 1:01 am

everyone chill…this is an interesting story…that’s it. Lets not have this chunk of time that we are all face it….wasting. No reason for pc police or snarky remarks about grammar or proper punctuation or whether or not this is a strictly speaking dating story…jeez everyone breath and lets collectively unclench our buttcheeks and enjoy this woman’s brush with disaster.

zomboidJuly 11th, 2012 at 3:49 am

mary, people like you are the reason why PassiveAggressiveNotes had to insert the disclaimer “funny (if not necessarily “passive-aggressive”) notes” on the front page

boxed wineJuly 11th, 2012 at 5:32 am

@Rattus. No, Queen of Nothing is correct. “Who’s” is a contraction of “who is.” “Whose” indicates possession. Similarly, “it’s” is a contraction of “it is.” “Its” is the possessive.

PuzzledJuly 11th, 2012 at 5:39 am

Because it changes the story entirely if it turns out to be a case of “I talked to this guy who was later falsely accused of committing a crime, and it turned out he was innocent.” That’s a bit less scary, I’d say. There is no reason to have an issue with talking to someone who was later accused of something, unless he turns out to actually have done it.

zomboidJuly 11th, 2012 at 6:20 am

well, exactly…

SallyWordSlingerJuly 11th, 2012 at 8:19 am

Perhaps we can try to expand the definition of date to include would-be dates. After all, a date can be an event, or it can be a person with whom you have made plans, as in, “My date arrived on time wearing plaid polyester slacks and Brill cream.”

Maggie MayJuly 12th, 2012 at 3:36 am

Ah, fellow grammar geeks! I also stumbled on the “guess who’s” (it just looks so wrong!) but Queen of Nothing and Boxed Wine are right. I think we should all celebrate with a glass of wine and a tiara.

boxed wineJuly 12th, 2012 at 6:31 am

Ha ha, Maggie May. I usually just make the correction mentally. But when someone’s “correction” is just flat out wrong, I can’t help myself from saying something.

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