Eye Like You

And this was bad because?

So, it was one of those “non-date” dates….

Considering you used to his student, it made sense that he had taken care of the dinner. Whenever I go out to dinner with my professor, he always pays the bill. And if I take my lab assistants to dinner, I never let them pay. As for the house, other than the cat thing, I don’t find it particularly strange. He was most likely a collector; and people like him, especially if they live alone, tend to be quite obsessive about their hobbies. I would say you got off rather easy.

Hold on – im confused – so this wasn’t a date? Just an uncle figure taking you to a weird halloween house and then got something in his eye? And because he paid for one part of the outing, owns cats and and medieval weaponry, you only hang out with him with friends around?

If you didn’t want to drive the car after the guy scratched his cornea, you could have suggested a cab/bus and for him to pick up the car the next day, but hindsight is 20/20 (excuse the awful pun). So really the only bad thing about this story in my opinion, is the house smelling of piss. i can understand if you didnt want to visit his home again because of it. but the others just don’t qualify as to why you’d only see him with friends around. The guy seemed OK, no weird vibes really. Just perhaps a bit domestically challenged. but to each their own.

My favorite is that we got a “no weirdness” speech followed by a tale of weirdness and a vow never to hang out with this “uncle figure” alone again. Are you sure he doesn’t give you the creeps, OP?

I was trying to figure out what about this story seemed to off to me, and then Awkward hit the nail on the head. This story and OP’s fluctuating attitude throughout the whole encounter both left me scratching my head.

And then He-Man and Man-At-Arms whipped it out!

Sooooo, it is creepy then.

Provided you were an adult when this occurred, it doesn’t seem particularly creepy or bad. That said, a lag in conversation is always awkward, as is someone insisting on paying for your meal when you’re not in a relationship (though yes, considering how you used to be his student it somewhat makes sense.) Cat pee and hoarding are also never great ways to end a night.

Meh. I don’t usually OP bash but…that made no sense at all, for all the reasons Awkard said. No stars.

A. This wasn’t a date.

B. I can’t stand when girls call themselves weird or not like other girls because they’re into comics and video games. (I’m a comics nerdette myself.) Plenty of women like these things. It doesn’t make you strange, more or less interesting, or unfeminine.

^^^ Yup. All else being equal, I’ll take the comic book girl. Shared interests are hot. Or Hawt. not sure how things are spelled these days.

What chat and awkward said. This was just an awkward outing, probably because both of you were aware how “weird” it would SEEM to other people, given he was your teacher. So some dead air in the conversation and you had to take him home when he was hurt, how was this a “bad date”? The guy didn’t even come close to creepy, nor did he assault you. So his house was a mess, why was it your business? Did he ask to you to his house for a date? NO. And this whole thing was not even a date!

Don’t make a big drama mountain out of this mole hill.

So, when was the date?

Not a date, and frankly, if that’s your worst date ever, quit while you’re ahead.

Agreed, Mackenzie. I’m not a comics geek myself (well, I like Hate and I Hate everything else), but geek girls are not a rarity these days. I could not be more annoyed by those who proclaim “oh, I’m so weird” or “oh, I’m so crazy”. If you are genuinely weird or crazy, people will be happy to let you know – you don’t have to be proactive with the announcement.

Agree McKenzie. Whenever anyone says they’re “weird” for liking comics/videogames/cosplay, I imagine those pathetic girls who posts a webcam photo of themselves on tumblr holding an Xbox controller desperately hoping people will tell them how cool they really are.

From the guys viewpoint: Took an old friend to dinner and then onto a haunted house – she seemed almost uninterested in making conversation and had a wierd look on her face when I paid for dinner. Then during the hayride back I get this searing pain in my eye from a piece of grit or whatever – but she’s not concerned about this at all, noooo, she’s all huffy she has to drive me home. At this point, I’m thinking WTF? Her car is at my place so it makes sense but whatever. Once we get home she takes one look at my cats and medieval weaponry collection (did I mention she’s known me FOR YEARS and surely this must have come up in conversation at least once or twice when we were sharing our interests) and bolts. Oh well. At least my eye got better.

No offense, but you need to work on your writing. I had to read every sentence twice to figure out what was going on. I have never seen so many incomplete sentences.

That being said, this was a really dull story and not a date.

Pretty much what everyone else said: This is boring and it is NOT a date.
You got together with an uncle figure friend that you’ve known for ages, and it was a boring, slightly awkward time out.

“My favorite is that we got a “no weirdness” speech followed by a tale of weirdness”

This exactly. WTF.

While I agree with most of the commenters, I just have to say @mao – “the guy didn’t even come close to creepy nor did he assault you.” Since when did you have to be assaulted by a date for it to be considered a bad one? I get that this wasn’t a date, nor was it really that bad of an experience, but I wouldn’t jump to raking the OP since she wasn’t assaulted.

@Otto, you’re right. I didn’t mean to say that one needs to be assaulted for the date to be bad. I should’ve clarified this was because her final conclusion to this whole outing was “I would never hang out alone with him again” seemed such an overkill if the guy didn’t do anything inappropriate to her, that’s all. Sorry if I came off as an insensitive jerk