Motives Shining Through

When I was eighteen and in my second year of university, I spent a year studying at an international faculty in Indonesia. It was a very lonely year for me so I tried to participate in as many extra-curricular activities as I could.

It was at one of these, a visit to a village primary school, that I met Alvin. He was the son of the principal and in my eyes he was very cool. Leather jacket, motorbike, the works. I was extremely surprised and fairly flattered when he showed interest in me, especially when he asked me on a date. Of course, I said yes.

The big day came and he picked me up on his motorbike. It turned out he didn’t have any particular plans and I was very nervous so I didn’t suggest anything either. We drove around a bit and he suggested that he could show me around his village. Sounded cool.

Actually, this just meant going back to his place and sitting around in his bedroom talking. Again I had no problem with this. It was only when the conversation lulled, which didn’t take long given the language barrier (his English was limited and my Indonesian wasn’t quite fluent), that things turned weird.

Alvin sort of laughed in a creepy way and said “eheheh, I have to go wash my dick.” He looked at me, he looked down at his pants, and nodded suggestively.

That was it for me, really. I asked him to take me home and he didn’t refuse, but was reluctant and delayed, so I ended up just leaving and wandering around the village for about an hour before I found a taxi that could take me home.

I didn’t hear from him again.

Comments (29)
?September 11th, 2012 at 6:21 am

“eheheh, I have to go wash my dick.” ?!! Sounds like it was smegma land down under.

I just wonder if those words have a magic effect on all the other ladies….

Sally Word MercenarySeptember 11th, 2012 at 6:41 am

GROSS.

PumaSeptember 11th, 2012 at 6:45 am

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA very nice

RavenSeptember 11th, 2012 at 6:57 am

“I have to go wash my dick.”

I wonder where it had been.

Gross.

allySeptember 11th, 2012 at 7:45 am

I wonder if “I have to go wash my dick” was poor english for “you should suck my dick”

PsycheSeptember 11th, 2012 at 8:00 am

Why hasn’t it filtered down to men in foreign countries that not every American woman wants to sleep with them?

DreSeptember 11th, 2012 at 8:04 am

I think it was stupid of you to say yes to a date with him. There are stories in the news about this sorta of thing all the time, and usually something bad happens. I think you lucky that he didn’t try to rape or murder you. Be smarter next time.

AudaxSeptember 11th, 2012 at 8:35 am

Gah! He…. probably wasn’t interested in a romantic relationship.

AwesomeIDSeptember 11th, 2012 at 8:56 am

Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!

MargaretSeptember 11th, 2012 at 8:59 am

American girls are easy, don’t you know?

blondieSeptember 11th, 2012 at 9:08 am

Good question, ally. Also, I love that the dude can barely speak English, but knows the word “dick.” Very important.

Remind me to slip “I have to go wash my dick” into casual conversation as often as humanly possible.

blondieSeptember 11th, 2012 at 9:09 am

Oh, and Dre- I think going on the date wasn’t a bad idea, but going alone into his house and bedroom with him was. A date meeting at a predestined public place would have (presumably) been fine.

SavageSeptember 11th, 2012 at 9:26 am

Jesus the stories submitted lately are boring garbage…

TraceySeptember 11th, 2012 at 9:40 am

The romantic in me hopes that “I have to go wash my dick….” is one of the first lines one learns when using the Rosetta Stone language tapes, taught right after, “Can you direct me to the nearest rest room?”

OP, I’m glad you were able to get out of there and that Alvin never contacted you again.

reviewSeptember 11th, 2012 at 9:42 am

@ Psyche: “Filtered down” is a mighty White thing to say.

BelieSeptember 11th, 2012 at 10:08 am

Lol this reminds me of A guy I dated that didn’t have the gift of gab, so when our convo was still, he’d talk about weird pornos he’d watched and look suggestive. Or just anything about sex. Ooh yea turn me on.

LalliSeptember 11th, 2012 at 10:21 am

For those of you saying the “American girls are easy” stereotype, I thought the same thing, but I don’t think the OP is American. In her second year in “university” at 18? British, maybe?

JabberjaySeptember 11th, 2012 at 11:25 am

He probably mentioned washing it because he figured she’d be more willing to give him oral sex if she knew he’d just given it a cleaning. That’s nice and all, but that’s the kind of thing you do AFTER the oral sex has been offered/asked for and agreed to, not before.

Not the best story on here, but at least the date didn’t get belligerent and pushy after she said she wasn’t interested.

EllereSeptember 11th, 2012 at 12:50 pm

I loved this story, that’s the best pick up line on here by far.

PassionasbackSeptember 11th, 2012 at 2:56 pm

I can’t beleive all the stupid presumptions that are being made by the commentators!
- the op spoke English so she MUST be American
- the date was from one of those foreign countries so MUST have been a dangerous rapist
What a tiny, tiny world you live in!

Dr. CheeseSeptember 11th, 2012 at 3:21 pm

I think I am going to use this at thanksgiving dinner this year when I leave the table “Mother, Father, Aunts and Uncles, you will have to excuse me. I have to wash my dick.”

SamSeptember 11th, 2012 at 4:38 pm

OP here. I’m Australian.

Going to people’s houses was just the norm in Yogyakarta (central Java). I have never heard of anything bad in that type of way happening to a student before or after I went over there. The people are all incredibly friendly, or in this case just a little too friendly. They warned us about a lot of things, but this wasn’t one of them.

What I found was that the nice guys would ignore the white women because they thought we were easy, and all that was left was the super skeezy. They weren’t dangerous, just incredibly ignorant of the fact that I might have feelings other than “oh, do me now!”

NattieSeptember 11th, 2012 at 6:35 pm

@PassionAsBack:
-Assuming that OP is American doesn’t make people bigoted. It IS a predominantly English-speaking country with a relatively sizeable population, so it’s a fair assumption. Also, only two people indicated that OP was American, the rest pointed out she probably wasn’t.
-No one inferred that Alvin was a creep, dangerous, or a rapist because he’s “from a foreign country.” I’m pretty sure that women are frequently told “don’t go into a house with a strange man or he’ll rape you!” in their home country as well (note: I’m not condoning this either.)
-Language and cultural barriers often do make social and romantic interactions more difficult.

sea hagSeptember 11th, 2012 at 8:15 pm

Well, he couldn’t have been TOO skeezy if he was going to wash his dick first. Sounds down-right classy.

JeffSeptember 11th, 2012 at 9:04 pm

So two people who didn’t speak the same language and came from completely different cultures ended up miscommunicating about their radically different ideas of what’s appropriate on a date? Gee, there’s a first.

SkadeSeptember 12th, 2012 at 12:28 am

Ehehehehehe. I’d comment, but I have to go wash my vagina.

Maggie MaySeptember 12th, 2012 at 4:19 am

@Tracey, the romantic in you is getting a little nostalgic, too – Rosetta Stone hasn’t used “tapes” in years! ;)

redfireSeptember 14th, 2012 at 1:14 pm

I thought he had to go wash it because he had got a bit excited from seeing her and couldn’t control his urges….

Beef TitsMarch 14th, 2013 at 12:55 pm

The women I date wash it for me….once they get done laughing at the size.

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